J.O.Y (Self Denial)

Preparing a Visionary Daughter to Do Hard Things ~ Part 1: Big Girls Don't Feel

March 11, 2010 By Patheos Admin

by Kiery I’m no stranger to hard things. In ways my life was built around doing hard things and part of that has made me who I am today. I’m no stranger to sacrifice, conflict, or rejection. For a while, these things seemed to follow me and my family wherever we went. In 19 years, [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #10: Basic Training II

March 3, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Persuasiveness vs. Contentiousness – Guiding vital truths around another’s mental roadblocks (II Timothy 2:24) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth One of the goals of homeschooling, for ATI and I’m sure other communities that homeschool, is to forge tighter bonds within the family unit. As my teacher and the only other female in the house (prior to the first [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #9: Basic Training

March 1, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Wisdom vs. Natural Inclinations -Seeing and responding to life’s situations from God’s frame of reference (Proverbs 9:10) ~ Bill Gothard by RazingRuth Bill Gothard wasn’t a great student. He makes no effort to hide the fact that he flunked the first grade and barely passed the next eight grades. From 1st to 8th grade, he was [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #8

February 27, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Security vs. Anxiety -Structuring my life around that which is eternal and cannot be destroyed or taken away (John 6:27) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth (Note from Ruth: This chapter is about my experience and my life. This is not intended to represent any family but my own or any childhood but my own. I fully [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #7

February 24, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Resourcefulness vs. Wastefulness – Wise use of that which others would normally overlook or discard (Luke 16:10) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth Six boys in one room and me, sitting like a princess, in my canopy bed. If that’s not a recipe for jealousy, then I don’t know what is. My parents would often go to little [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

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NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

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