Quoting Quiverfull: Want to Get Married Then Don’t Judge Men?

by Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy - Do You Want to Get Married?Editor's note: Judgmental girls don't get married? This is news to me. Debi Pearl calling out other people for being judgmental and dismissive of others is so rich! What must it be like to have such incredibly strong cognitive dissonance that you cannot recognize that you do the exact same things you are accusing others of? Debi, meet the plank in your eye. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Justifying Judging Others?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Righteous Judgment Versus Hypocritical JudgmentEditor's note: Yes, I know two Alexander posts on the same day is a bit much, but I could not let this laugh riot of a post justifying all the merde Lori talks about more famous Christian teachers go without a commentary. If I'm reading Lori's word salad right on her site she seems to be in defensive mode over her right to judge other women merely because they don't do it the way she thinks is right. … [Read more...]

Love Does Not Look Like Judgement

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI've been thinking since I wrote my last post about our use of the phrase "Love the sinner, hate the sin." In that post I was suggesting that going out of your way to point out and denounce whatever you view as sin in the lives of others, under the guise of "love", is not in fact a very loving thing to so.I've struggled with the notion that people who claim to worship a God whose very essence is love, can be some of the most hurtful, hateful, unloving people around. And that in so many cases, christians are not known for their love, but for their bigotry and fear and condemnation of others. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: All Worldly Entertainment Seeks to Seduce You Away From God?

by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - Resisting the Seduction of Beautifully Packaged LiesEditor's note: Interesting that she only mentions music coming out of Nashville. But this idea that culture is corrupt is an old one, and applies even if you are not religious at all. There are always going to be songs, movies, styles of dress that you don't agree with. The difference is that most of us who aren't stuck in fundytown just skip over and do not indulge in things that offend us. Evangelicals turn it into a witchhunt/crusade. Mature people do not do that. … [Read more...]

More Heart Less Attack

by Sara cross posted from her blog The Messy Mrs. used with permission.Y'all. I can't even right now.    I. CAN'T. EVEN.2016 has been such a hate filled year that it is crippling me--KILLING ME--due to my C-PTSD. I can barely function. When I say it's killing me, I mean that I am so tense I am having migraines, rashes on my body, tremors, nightmares, and intense depression. I often go days without leaving my home. Check out my last blog entry and you'll see it was months ago. Blogging used to be therapeutic for me, but lately I've just been hiding in a bunker. This turmoil is almost entirely due to the news cycles of this year.There's this group vs that group. This gro … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Atheists Are Just People Who Hate How God is Running Things?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Divorced Parents Raise Less Religious Children?Editor's note: Ignoring the fact that many divorced women, men and children fall away from religious communities because the members of those communities behave like judgmental unloving jerks to them and concentrating on the most mind-blowing part of Lori's daily drivel. Atheist are people who are mad at God?!?! How can you be mad at someone you don't believe exists? This is illustrative of the fact that those still in the high pressure faith communities have zero understanding of anyone outside their koolaid zone echo chambers and make things up with no basis in reality. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hey, She Cursed Her Own Family?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - The Church Does Not Replace IsraelEditor's note: Not sharing this story so we can argue over the significance of Israel but to illustrate a point about No Greater Joy. There is definitely no 'Joy' at No Greater Joy but there is a lot of shaming and blaming of others under the guise of supposedly teaching others. If you have to put down others to support yourself there's something fundamentally flawed in your faith. This is one of the clearest illustrations I've seen of Fundamentalist Christians who put others down to build themselves up. And they wonder why numbers of Christians are declining across this nation. … [Read more...]

Confessing to That Which I Did Not Do

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI was watching one of those real life crime drama shows recently.  I can’t remember if it was Dateline or 20/20 or 48 Hours, but the story was about a young woman who was interrogated bullied by the police for hours on end until she agreed with them that she had slammed a baby to the floor causing a head injury that led to his death.  She was convicted and in prison when the fact that the child had suffered a concussion weeks before that had caused his death.  Over and over, the reporter asked, “Why did you confess to something you didn’t do?”  And it was that question that brought revelation to me. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Judgmentalist Is Good If You Are Judging Sin?

by J. Matt Barber from Renew America.com - Adulterers, 'Your sin will find you out'Editor's note: One thing you can count on with squishy nasty things happen in the world of fundamentalist Christianity, there will be all sorts of interesting judgmentalism, sometimes even mixed with forgiveness or calls to forgive.  So it's a-okay to judge someone because God has already judged their sin? More moral limbo in the wake of the Ashley Madison data dump. Did you see that the other prominent Christian caught in the scandal was forcibly removed from a video blogging conference for threatening someone? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Compare Yourself to the ‘UnGodly’?

by Lisa Hallahan from A Lovely Calling - When You Become Jealous of the WorldEditor's note: I will agree with the author on one thing. Comparing or measuring yourself against others is a miserable way to live and you can never measure up to everyone. Be yourself and be happy in it. But, all this putting down of those that do not live exactly like them is one of the most hateful things in fundamentalism and evangelical Christianity. Love yourself, be yourself and extend that same freedom to everyone else.  Living in a emotional place where you don't have to judge everyone is also very freeing. … [Read more...]