Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How To Handle A Command Man?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Kings and Other Despots

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalBack in the day, there was a concept known as the "Divine Right of Kings". This meant that if you happened to be lucky enough to be born into the right family, you got to rule - no questions asked.You got to do and say whatever you pleased and no-one had the right to challenge you. You got to dictate to others how they lived and what they believed.You had God himself in your back pocket! … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Grabbers, Hidden Flowers and Princesses Part 2

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to learn about Grabbers - a term Debi dropped in about 30 pages ago without a definition. In order to teach balance, I have divided girls into three kinds: Grabbers, Hidden Flowers, and Princesses. This is not a biblical categorization like the three types we discussed earlier, but it is very representative description of today's girls. I think the categories will help you gain a picture of what you want to become and what you need to avoid. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 1

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI hate this chapter.  All of it.  Hate.This deserves a trigger warning for abuse, abuse rationalization, and hideously bad grammar."Moral to the Story: The wife to a King must learn to serve him with honor.A Caution: Don't be offended by his lack of serving or helping you in the mundane things of life." Why shouldn't I be offended?  He's being an ass. "God the Father is dominant, sovereign, and in command.  He is the King of Kings.  He created a few men who are like him in this aspect; they are kingly men.  In my book Created To Be His Help Meet, I called them Command Men, because that is their most dominant feature. " The res … [Read more...]