Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Contribution

March 22, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser This coming week Wine and Marble, Joy in this Journey and Shaney Irene will be hosting a Spiritual Abuse Awareness synchroblog.  Many bloggers will be posting one blog a day for several days, describing their own experiences

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My Wish-I-Hadn’ts

February 6, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser I have, over the course of years that I’ve been a Christian, changed the way I think about a large number of things.  Some of the beliefs I used to hold caused me to treat people (or even myself) in ways that I’m sure now were not what Jesus wanted.  Though I’m [...]

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Gender Roles and Responsibility – Part 2

February 2, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser In Part 1 I said, “Ultimately, we are all responsible for ourselves and our own actions.”  This means we cannot be ultimately responsible for anyone but ourselves.  Even with our children, our goal is to teach them self-responsibility so that they can become full adults.  Responsibility for ourselves is foundational to

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Gender Roles & Responsibility: Part 1

January 21, 2013 By 23 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser [Editorial Note: This article is intended for those readers who have chosen to accept the Bible as authoritative for faith and practice. If you are not one of those readers, please be understanding of the intended audience and refrain from commenting on the assumptions on which it is based. Please refrain from [...]

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Why Do People “Drink The Koolaid”?

January 15, 2013 By 6 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser Over at No Longer Quivering they have been talking about why people– and particularly why women– get involved with repressive, spiritually abusive, authoritarian religion.  Why is it, for instance, that so many women are drawn into– and drag their sometimes reluctant husbands into– the

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