Learned Helplessness

Raised Quiverfull: Living the Life Part 1

June 25, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 1 Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. Question 1: [...]

Filed Under: Abstinence, Accountability, Advance Training Institute (ATI) / Institution for Basic Life Principles (IBLP) (Bill Gothard), Alienation, Any Cause Divorce, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Bill Gothard, Botkin Syndrome, Boundaries, Child Labor, Christian Modesty, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Control, Courtship / Betrothal, Covenant Breaking, Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl, Divorce & Remarriage, Drinking the Koolaid, Educational Neglect, Elitism, Emotional Incest, Enmeshment, Family Driven Faith by Voddie Baucham, Family Integrated Church, Fear of Hell, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Growing Kids God's Way / Babywise by Gary Ezzo, Help Meet, Home Church, Homemaking Skills, Homeschool, Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches (IFB), Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Marriage Covenant, Mary Pride, Maternal Martyr, Mega Churches, Mega-Families, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, No Greater Joy (Michael & Debi Pearl), No Greater Joy by Michael Pearl, Parentification of Children, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Purity, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, Raised Quiverfull, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The "Rod", The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, To Train Up A Child (TTUAC) by Michael Pearl, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, William Branham - Message of the Hour, ¼ Inch Plumbing Supply Line Tagged With: Abstinence, Accountability, Advance Training Institute (ATI) / Institution for Basic Life Principles (IBLP) (Bill Gothard), Alienation, Any Cause Divorce, Beautiful Girlhood, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, bill gothard, Botkin Syndrome, boundaries, Child Labor, Christian Modesty, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Control, Courtship / Betrothal, Covenant Breaking, Created To Be His Help Meet by Debi Pearl, Divorce & Remarriage, Drinking the Koolaid, Educational Neglect, Elitism, Emotional Incest, Enmeshment, Family Driven Faith by Voddie Baucham, family-integrated church, fear of hell, fundamentalism, gender equality, Group Think, Growing Kids God’s Way / Babywise by Gary Ezzo, help meet, home church, Homemaking Skills, homeschool, Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches (IFB), Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, like minded fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marketing “Biblical Family Values”, Marriage Covenant, mary pride, Maternal Martyr, Mega Churches, Mega-Families, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, No Greater Joy (Michael & Debi Pearl), No Greater Joy by Michael Pearl, Parentification of Children, patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Purity, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Resources, Quiverfull Topics, Raised Quiverfull, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation – Individuation, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, The “Rod”, To Train Up A Child (TTUAC) by Michael Pearl, toxic relationships, Umbrella of Authority, William Branham – Message of the Hour, ¼ Inch Plumbing Supply Line 1 Comment

Dispelled: Part 10

June 24, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 3 Comments

chandra

by Chandra It didn’t take long for myself and Darren’s lengthy friendship to turn from dating to committed to one another. We were very much in love, and our voluminous email correspondence had already paved the ground for much of our relationship. I was so happy- I had met the man that I had been [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Alienation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Child Training, College for Daughters, Control, Courtship / Betrothal, Dispelled ~ One Girl's Journey in a Home School Cult, Educational Neglect, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Help Meet, Homeschool, Hope Chest, Instant, Joyous, Obedience, Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, List of Qualities for Future Spouse, Maintaining Appearances, Male Headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Men are Visual, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Overbearing Mothers, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Stay At Home Daughters (SAHDs), Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Toxic Relationships Tagged With: A Woman’s Choice, Alienation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, boundaries, Child Training, College for Daughters, Control, Courtship / Betrothal, Dispelled ~ One Girl’s Journey in a Home School Cult, Educational Neglect, fundamentalism, gender equality, Group Think, help meet, homeschool, Hope Chest, Instant, Isolation, Issues, Joyous, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, List of Qualities for Future Spouse, Maintaining Appearances, male headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Men are Visual, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Obedience, Overbearing Mothers, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation – Individuation, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Stay At Home Daughters (SAHDs), Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, toxic relationships 3 Comments

Raised Quiverfull: Questioning Q. 3

June 15, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne (and friends) Cross posted from Love, Joy, Feminism. Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Bible Interpretation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Botkin Syndrome, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Domestic Abuse, Drinking the Koolaid, Educational Neglect, Elitism, Fear of Hell, Fear tactics, Femininity vs Feminism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Incongruous Circumspection, Isolation, Issues, Learned Helplessness, Love, Joy, Feminism (Libby Anne), Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Maternal Martyr, Mental / Emotional Health, Militant Fecundity, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull & the Bible, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Topics, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Shame, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Toxic Relationships Tagged With: A Woman’s Choice, Accountability, Alienation, bible interpretation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Botkin Syndrome, boundaries, Bounded Choice, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Domestic Abuse, Drinking the Koolaid, Educational Neglect, Elitism, fear of hell, Fear tactics, Femininity vs Feminism, Feminism (Libby Anne), gender equality, Group Think, Incongruous Circumspection, Isolation, Issues, Joy, Learned Helplessness, Love, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Maternal Martyr, Mental / Emotional Health, militant fecundity, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Quiverfull & the Bible, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Topics, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Shame, Shunning, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Toxic Relationships No T Leave a Comment

Millipede: Part 8

June 14, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 9 Comments

pleasinggod

by Millipede The next couple of years were what I would call the “golden years” of Patriarchy. By this I mean that we were living the Patriarchal dream, with the husband “leading” and providing and the wife keeping the home and being submissive. It was the apex of our journey; we were finally living the [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Control, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, Family Integrated Church, Fear of Hell, Formulaic Religion, Fruit of the Spirit, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Help Meet, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Judgementalism, Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Male Headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Marriage Covenant, Meek and Quiet Spirit, Mental / Emotional Health, Millipede, Mr. Command Man, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Shame, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Titus 2 Woman, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel Tagged With: A Woman’s Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, boundaries, Bounded Choice, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Control, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, family-integrated church, fear of hell, Formulaic Religion, fruit of the spirit, fundamentalism, gender equality, Group Think, help meet, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Judgementalism, Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, like minded fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, male headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marketing “Biblical Family Values”, Marriage Covenant, meek and quiet spirit, Mental / Emotional Health, Millipede, Mr. Command Man, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation – Individuation, Shame, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, titus 2 woman, toxic relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel 9 Comments

Just Pray for Him: How the Christian Church Refuses to Hold Abusive Men Accountable

June 13, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 48 Comments

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By Lisa Kroulik © Cross posted with permission from Hub Pages – http://nybride710.hubpages.com/hub/How-the-Christian-Church-is-Failing-Abused-Women One of the more difficult things to recover from during the process of divorce from my narcissistic ex-husband was the treatment I received from other Christians. To be fair, none of it was intentionally mean-spirited and all of these people [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Anxiety, Any Cause Divorce, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Botkin Syndrome, Boundaries, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Confession, Control, Covenant Breaking, Depression, Divorce & Remarriage, Domestic Abuse, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, Fear of Hell, Fear tactics, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Shame, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Adultery, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Titus 2 Woman, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel Tagged With: A Woman’s Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Anxiety, Any Cause Divorce, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Botkin Syndrome, boundaries, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Confession, Control, Covenant Breaking, depression, Divorce & Remarriage, Domestic Abuse, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, fear of hell, Fear tactics, Formulaic Religion, fundamentalism, gender equality, Group Think, Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation – Individuation, Shame, Shunning, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Adultery, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, titus 2 woman, toxic relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel 48 Comments

Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

Listen to Vyckie's Story now:

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