Just Get Over It!

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalImagine you were part of a circle of friends, many of whom you'd known for a long time. You are close, you often spend time together in each other's company. Everyone tells you how much they love you and value you. You feel happy and accepted.Now imagine that things start to change. In subtle, and not-so-subtle, ways you start to feel pressured to conform to expectations you never agreed to. To comply with other people's dictates. Eventually, things become more overt and these friends start to slap you around.You object. … [Read more...]

Part 4: I Submit and “Resign”

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn the weeks following that meeting with the board, there were many communications (mostly via email) which just deepened the wounding. As dramatic as it might sound, I felt like I was fighting for my very life. I begged for someone to listen to me, to hear what had been going on and help me find a way out of my pain. By this time, elder M had given up hope and resigned his membership. I desperately wanted to believe there was a better way to go, that people who claimed to follow Christ should be able to work this out together, that we didn’t have to stay trapped in an endless repetition of history! … [Read more...]

Part 1: A New Hope

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalPlease welcome a great new addition to SASBN - Living Liminal In late 2005, after many years attendance, my husband and I left the church where we had met and been married. We left with sadness because, although we had received from this church much which was good and life-giving, we had come to realize there was no longer a place for us there. (The senior pastor, himself, had declared this to be the case during one of his Sunday morning sermons!)  We knew we were not alone - there had been a steady exodus from this church for some time. The ‘my way or the highway’ approach to church leadership does tend to create casu … [Read more...]

Did I Divorce the Church?

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundLaura Parker is one of my favorite bloggers. Fact: her blog is one of the best Christian blogs around. Laura paints and tells stories in such convincing tones.Her post today “Bride and Divoce” grasped my attention. Here’s an excerpt. If the Church is really the Bride, I’ll admit I’ve wanted a divorce for a few years now.  … [Read more...]

Why Are We Leaving the Church?

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons[I originally wrote this for Christianity Today's her.meneutics after my pitch was accepted, but they have decided not to publish it, so I've decided to post it here.] … [Read more...]

Daughter of the Patriarchy: epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

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by SierraOccasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances that led to my cutting ties completely with the church ranged from financial to emotional to practical to ideological. There’s not a clear, linear story from here on out, just a constellation. But I’ve decided that it’s high time to tie up the loose ends and explain how, exactly, I cut and run.When I first went to college, my mother still picked me up for our weekly drive to church. In fact, the first … [Read more...]

The Most Blaring Contradiction Of All

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by Cindy Foster Recently, I read a poignantly and transparently written post at ‘Stuff Fundies Like’ titled “Pining for the Leeks and Garlic”.  Anyone with knowledge of the Old Testament accounts of Moses and the Children of Israel’s 40 year wilderness journey will immediately recognize the title’s significance.I’ve followed SFL … [Read more...]

Shedding the Burqa Part 2

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by Cindy FosterWhile I waited in the car with the kids, my husband stayed behind and told The Preacher that we would be leaving.This was actually the second time he told him.  The first was the day The Preacher administered ‘The Shunning’ … [Read more...]

Millipede: Part 40 The End

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by MillipedeAs I related in my earlier posts, my family was indispensable when I made the decision to leave my husband. So I say again; if you are on good terms with you family, keep them that way despite any … [Read more...]

My Journey

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 by Mr. CaluluThe journey started out innocently enough when a friend invited our family to attend his church in 1995. I had met him working at a part time job a few years earlier and just liked the guy. We had a number of other things in common, his kids were about the same age as ours, so I figured why not?? Our family didn't have much of a connection to the local Presbyterian church we had been attending anyway.In many ways it was a typical country church; a bit conservative for my taste, but not so much so to be ruled out. I found it to be an interesting mixture of college educated and technical types, along with some high school dropouts :-). But what struck me as a pleasant … [Read more...]


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