Quoting Quiverfull: Making the Bed is a Sacrifice?

by Greg Smiley from Focus on the Family - Make Your Bed, Change Your MarriageEditor's note: This made me shake my head and wonder why evangelicalism/fundamentalist Christianity has to make every single tiny freaking thing IMPORTANT and make rules for it! The entire bulk of this article was that Smiley's wife liked a made bed and he likes it left unmade. Until the Lord convicted him that he had to SACRIFICE his desires for a messy bed to his wife's desire for a made bed. People, life just isn't that complex or rule-bound. Do whatever works for you and stop trying to make everything a theological metaphor or add rules. Do you really think Jesus cares that you and your wife have different … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Say No to Anything Not Home, Husband and Children?

by June Fuentes of A Wise Woman Builds Her Home - Cultivating a Rich Christian HomeEditor's note: While I will agree that super busyness is not a good thing for most folks, it has nothing to do with if you should be staying home submitting to your husband and homeschooling your children. Busyness is sometimes an excuse to avoid facing up to the real tough issues of life for many women and men. It's a bellwether mark of pressure, guilt and legalism in many Quiverfull churches that leadership puts on followers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Questioning the Pearls

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine – But I Wanted to Ask Mr. PearlEditor's note: Here we go, super toxic Pearl speak. I wondered when he was going to start throwing blame and shame around. Apologizing to the family when you've been wrong is never a bad thing. I think it's important for kids to see that even parents can be wrong, realize they are wrong, admit humbly that they are wrong, apologize to the kids and take steps to remedy the situation. But this thought that most churches are evil? Even if that is true this is sort of like the pot calling the kettle ebony. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why Keep Adding Rules and Moving the Goalpost?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.This morning as I was websurfing and reading the newest posts as various ministries websites my eye fell upon a post at John Piper's 'Desiring God' website that compares Bible reading preferences to Nathan's annual 4th of July competition hot dog eating contest. I quoted it for tonight's Quoting Quiverfull feature. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You’re Reading Your Bible Wrong?

by David Mathis from John Piper's Desiring God - Bible Intake is Not a Hot Dog Eating ContestEditor's note: Time to break away from Larry Solomon's sex slave wish fulfillment saga and look at something slightly less disgusting, like someone making up rules about Bible reading, throwing  shade at those that may read it in marathon bursts instead of slowly with meditation on the word. This is another example of dangerous toxic thinking in the world of Quiverfull, this constant moving of the righteousness goal posts, making up new restrictive rules and trying to make others feel guilty. Does it really matter if you read your Bible one word at a time or several thousand? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Does This Man Really Exist?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - The Qualities of FatherhoodEditor's note: Nancy's husband Colin is now writing down the qualities a father  should have, which happen to be the exact same qualities listed in the Bible for leaders. Do guys like this really exist in complementarianism communities? … [Read more...]

Laws and Walls Won’t Protect Your Children

by Cindy Foster cross posted from  her blog Finding FundamentalI have a couple of predominant thoughts about the most recent revelation of Josh Duggar’s sexual deviancy.To all the fearful, loving Christian parents:There are no invisible walls-- no matter how well-intentioned, no matter how carefully and scripturally constructed, no matter how efficiently guarded-- thick enough to protect your young from their own humanity. … [Read more...]

Oh To Be A Pharisee! A Church’s Love Affair With Rules!

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental (God) Who also hath made us able ministers of the new testament; not of the letter, but of the spirit: for the letter killeth, but the spirit giveth life. II Corinthians 3:6 Why would anybody in their right mind want to live by the letter of Old Testament Law when the New Testament clearly teaches they have been set free?I believe an honest comparison of the ancient, biblical Pharisee to the modern-day 'Pharisee' in all of us could answer this question. … [Read more...]

What Good Evangelical Christians Looks Like

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundRecently a conservative friend posted this video. In the video (do watch it), a man interviews various applicants who want to join the dating site Christian Mingle, and he asks the applicants a bunch of questions to find out whether they are a good Christian or not. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Christianity and Divorce?

by an anonymous letter writer asking Michael Pearl's advice on divorce and remarriage at No Greater Joy - Divorce and RemarriageEditor's note: This is a bit unusual of a posting. Instead of directly quoting Michael Pearl on some topic he's bloviating on and putting others down in I'm posting the sad letter his ministry received by someone who sounds like they need help. This is what can happen when you try to legalistically try to follow every word in the Bible. Michael does not directly answer her question on if her marriage is adultery. Instead he tries to sell her his new book being published on Nov. 1, 2015 on divorce and remarriage, which is why I'm not posting his reply to her … [Read more...]