I am a Publican and a Heathen Part 4

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: The last part of a series by Bruce on how he came to be burned out of ministry and religion. Many of us here have had not dissimilar experiences as we deconverted from Quiverfull.This post concludes the I Am a Publican and a Heathen series. This series details my experiences as co-pastor of Community Baptist Church in Elmendorf Texas. In March 1994, I left a pastorate of eleven years and moved to Texas so I could co-pastor a thriving, growing Sovereign Grace Baptist church. … [Read more...]

The Power of a Transformed Wife – Part One Chapter One – Where is the Love?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerThis chapter is entirely the personal history of author Lori Alexander, and from the way it reads I would venture to guess that perhaps the author has a touch of psychopathy because she seems like she lacks a lot of human emotions in her retelling of her life. There seems like there are lots of red flags for a certain type of disorder in this book. There's sure no love here for anyone and Lori is sharing many stories that reflect as badly on her parents and others as herself. You shouldn't have to keep putting down others to inflate yourself. … [Read more...]

The Story – Part 3

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental PARTY TIMEIt was the end of the 1900’s.  There was much uncertainty in the air everywhere, about what the next millennium would bring.  Would our computer-dependent world come to a screeching halt?  Would there be a shortage of food, water and electricity?  Should we be stockpiling goods in preparation? … [Read more...]

Part 2 – The Story

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental  THE CHURCH WE BECAMEPaul and I began to be much more attracted to the teachings of ‘old-fashioned’ preachers and evangelists who seemed to be having great success in raising ‘Godly’, obedient, adoring children.  We frequented camp meetings where these preachers and evangelists could be heard.  They were loud, passionate and charismatic pulpiteers who knew how to deliver powerful sermons and lure audiences to surrender.  … [Read more...]

Part 1 – The Story

by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental REASONSIn order to add some context to the articles I have written on this blog I want to designate a page to summarize our story from beginning to end.   It is my hope, as it has always been, to expose not only the wrongs that The Preacher was guilty of, but to own the actual wrongs we committed as opposed to what The Preacher has stated publicly using skilled innuendo and out-right public accusations. … [Read more...]

Dear Family, Friends and Former Parishioners

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Posting this because sometimes it's a good idea to stop and look back to measure just how far we've come from our old life.What follows is the letter I sent in April 2009 to my family, friends and former parishioners. This letter came after Polly and I attended church for the 2008 Sunday before Thanksgiving. I am republishing it here so it is part of the historical narrative of my life. I know many of you have read this before but I hope you will read it again. As I reread this, I am reminded that what I wrote here is still, almost 6 years later, the motivating factor of my life.  The … [Read more...]

Three Years In

by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (and Found) Mind of Kaleesha Williams(Editor's Note: Kaleesha is talking about her journey three years post-fundamentalism. There is hope of having a full life after leaving toxic faith.)Yesterday marks the third anniversary of the day I laid aside the Bible, having found the answers to the last of my questions about the god within its pages. My conclusion after years of study and devotion? The Bible was written by men who inspired by their ideas of things bigger than themselves, men who were grasping at significance in the majesty of space and time.And that’s okay. We’re all doing that, in a way. It’s part of this journey, … [Read more...]

I Am A Publican and a Heathen Part 2

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserOur family arrived in Elmendorf, Texas the first week of March 1994. I had resigned from Somerset Baptist Church in Somerset, Ohio, and after closing down the church and Christian school, I  packed up my family and moved us to Elmendorf so I could become co-pastor of Community Baptist Church.Community Baptist Church was an Sovereign Grace (Calvinistic) Independent Baptist church. The church was started in the 1980’s by Pat Horner. The church worshiped at a ramshackle former Southern Baptist church building on Labus Road outside of Elmendorf. The church property included several acres of land that ho … [Read more...]

Curiosity, A Missing Evangelical Trait

by Bruce Gerencser from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserWhy is it that so many Evangelicals have no desire to be curious? Yes, I know many are, so don’t get your panties in a bunch if you are acuriouser (sp) than a cat Evangelical. I frequently get  an email or a blog comment from an Evangelical Christian wanting to “help” me find my way to Jesus. They are certain that they possess the requisite knowledge and skill to win me to Jesus. They are certain that if they just befriend me, quote the right verses, soothe my hurts, or understand my pain, I will fall on my knees and call on the name of Jesus. … [Read more...]

I’m Not Asking For Perfection

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI've had many conversations over the last 2 or 3 years that revolved around my experience of abuse in the church and my subsequent disillusionment with that institution.There have been people who disapproved of me being upset and who therefore assumed that somehow I was the one at fault. Others were distressed that I would even suggest that there was anything wrong in 'their church'. Then there were those who recognised there was something amiss, but didn't want to get involved.But, interestingly enough, there was one line almost every person produced. "You can't expect the church to be perfect - it's made up of imperfect … [Read more...]