Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

June 12, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Melissa Permission To Live Almost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got [...]

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Happily Abused

June 10, 2012 By 34 Comments
Can you say, "Stockholm Syndrome'?

Trigger warning: Christian woman’s advice to abused wives reads like a handbook for ascetic self-mortification. How to Use a Woman’s Faith & Trust to Make Her a Willing Accomplice to Her Own Abuse by Vyckie Garrison After stumbling across yet another piece of alarmingly dangerous advice for abused women of faith titled, Surviving Emotional Abuse Six [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 7

June 9, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Calulu After the incident with the pregnant daughter of a friend we had another reprieve from Tom and Tina. We’d see them at church but they’d stopped coming to the bible study group. I’d heard that they were both going through this other ministry’s counseling. The other ministry sounded sort of like Scientology in [...]

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Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

June 8, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Incongruous Circumspection Bill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply [...]

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Justice is No Lady: Chapter 11: Jack, the One I Lost

June 6, 2012 By 16 Comments
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by Tess Willoughby When Jack was just a baby, Nate had rejected Jack’s personality, and had set out to beat and berate it out of him. When Jack reached middle school age, or perhaps a little bit before, the seeds that his father had planted suddenly sprouted. Jack began to come unraveled. “Something is wrong [...]

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