Markers of a Cult

Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

June 8, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 3 Comments

by Incongruous Circumspection Bill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Questioning, Q. 1

June 7, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 2 Comments

by Libby Anne Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. How were you first exposed to “mainstream” American culture? [...]

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Justice is No Lady: Chapter 11: Jack, the One I Lost

June 6, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 16 Comments

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by Tess Willoughby When Jack was just a baby, Nate had rejected Jack’s personality, and had set out to beat and berate it out of him. When Jack reached middle school age, or perhaps a little bit before, the seeds that his father had planted suddenly sprouted. Jack began to come unraveled. “Something is wrong [...]

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Rebuilding

June 4, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 12 Comments

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by Bruce Gerencser Nine years have passed since I preached my last sermon, since my wife was called the “pastor’s wife.” Almost four years have passed since my wife and I determined to stop attending church. We are now among the “unchurched”, casualties of a life spent in Evangelical Christianity. Worse yet, at least according [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 6

June 3, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 10 Comments

by Calulu When we last left the Smiths they had reconciled and were determined to make everyone be best friends forever again. Nothing doing. Things ratchet up a few new levels of tension. 9/11 happens. I’m sitting in front of the television having coffee and folding clothes when CNN shows the coverage of the first [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

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