Quoting Quiverfull: Purposely Lie to Your Husband?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - A Tale of the Breakup of a MarriageEditor's note: This is Lori's response to a story circulating the internet right now that might or might not be true - It Backfires When He Writes Demanding Divorce. Pretty sure the story itself is a colorful fiction, but it does point out one thing, staying in a miserable marriage is just a bad idea. Either you start communicating and try to fix some of the issues or you move on. No one, not Lori or anyone else, can or should make the choice for you. The problem is not this woman's response to the things her husband did. But there is a big problem when you try to coddle a man, or give him a participation … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Saying I Love You is Not Enough?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Outdo One AnotherEditor's note: This is again one of those pieces or ideas that upon first glance isn't bad, until you look deeper at what's being said here. Notice that it mention nothing about receiving kindness in return or having any reason to not do these things? It's great to show love to those you love, but I cannot help but think that behaving like this to a petty tyrant of a patriarch just might increase his abusive expectations and inflate an almost insufferable ego. … [Read more...]

The Power of the Transformed Wife: Chapter 3 – Lori Shames Ken’s Eating Habits

by Suzanne TitkemeyerAnd so we come to one of the worst chapters in this book - Let It Go - not the pretty song from the Disney film 'Frozen' either. The chapter is all about letting go of your desires to control your husband. Lori illustrates this with her many stringent food rules without once consulting Ken on his needs or wants.The chapter is mercifully short and starts with a jaunt through the ancient history of Lori's mother's health struggles complete with a bashing of how modern medicine failed her mother, even though her father is a doctor. I believe I read somewhere that her father was a pathology doctor.Her mother was miraculously healed by that thing that is so … [Read more...]

The Power of a Transformed Wife: Part 2 Chapter 1 More of Where is the Love?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerWhen we last left Lori she was explaining about how horrible and contentious her early married years were.  She really missed out because for myself and many other people I know that married for love those first few honeymoon years were wonderful. Not much fighting going on either. None of what she's talked about so far bodes well for the long term survival of most marriages, except for those ones where people refuse to ever consider divorce, deciding that this is the hand that God dealt them so they must play the cards no matter how crumbled or fake they are. … [Read more...]

An Open Letter to Jinger Duggar Vuolo

This was written and posted on NLQ's Facebook page and I thought it was well worth sharing here since Saturday it was confirmed by People magazine that Jinger Duggar and Jeremy Vuolo were married in Arkansas. Wise words. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Wife Complaining is Being Emotional?

by Bezaleel Cummings from No Greater Joy Magazine - Wisdom That Works: Three Essential Relationship RulesEditor's note: Don't know if we should be amused or offended by relationship advice from a guy who has only been married 18 months now. Get back to me when it's been 18 years and I'll take what he is saying more seriously. That's still the honeymoon phase, very likely there's nothing that has gone wrong between this young couple yet. But this idea he is promoting, that women are all emotional is a toxic dangerous one. And on the flip side, if you are upset with your spouse over something please learn how to discuss it rationally without being the all emotional little women these … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Bad Marriages Are Like Bad Health?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine – Seven Pearls for Finding a Happy MarriageEditor's note: Oh no, no, no, Michael Pearl is trying to insist that everyone have frequent sexy time like he does. We all know from his honeymoon story that he likes to compare his stamina and frequency of intercourse against other men so anything he might have to say on this subject is void and worthless. This is one of those things that is literally between  the two partners with no wrong or right amount of love making. … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? Part 1 Chapter 10 – Everyone Still Just Wants to Smush Genitalia Together?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerHere we are again, diving into Vaughn Ohlman's thin tome on the subject of how courtship just makes people sin sexually. To hear him tell it in this particular chapter most everyone, even good kids at church, are just a small step from turning into horny sailors with a pocketful of money in Amsterdam or Hamburg's red light districts. Orgies ahoy!This was a chapter too far for me on my beach week. The waters off Virginia Beach were mostly closed except for one day due to high bacterial levels. Had I broke down and read this chapter last week I would have added to the bacterial load, I would thrown up in the water like some land lubber suffering from seasickness … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Woman Don’t Tell ME What to Do?

by Kirk Cameron at Christian Today - Kirk Cameron Shares Secret to Happy MarriageEditor's note: This has been blowing up all over the internet and entertainment websites for the last week. Initially I wasn't even going to share this because it's just such a milder version of the complementarian theology pushed by the Quiverfull movement. It feels almost 'liberal' to say that husbands should not tell their wives to submit. It's far less shocking and disturbing than anything we've seen from the Campbells or the Pearls. But here it is. What do you think? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Flirting and Teasing are the Secret to Keeping Marriages Alive?

by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy magazine - How Do You Keep Marriage Alive?Editor's note: Shoshanna is answering a reader's question in this bit. While none of the things she's saying are necessarily bad advice I find it revealing and interesting that there's nothing on that list involving communication or discussion or being truthful and real with each other. It sounds more like a list to seduce someone else. What do you think? … [Read more...]