NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Showing Affection to Loved Ones so Difficult?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Over the last few days we've been looking at Larry Solomon's breakdown of the movie 'Fireproof' and why he thinks it's bad advice for anyone in a Christian marriage. One of his objections is that it required the husband Caleb to do small affectionate … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – What Is A ‘Help Meet’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Excerpt from "In Search Of A Help Meet"Editor's note: In this short bit Michael talks about giving and not taking in marital relationships ending with some confusing bits waxing on about candle wax and liquid units of measure. Some of his allegories just don't translate very well. Remember all those belabored nautical terms used so poorly in his Jumping Ship posts? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – What Is A ‘Help Meet’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Excerpt from 'In Search of a Help Meet'Editor's note: This is interesting because this is one of those Michael Pearl books that's been overlooked but has loads of ridiculous ideas like his better known books. He has written about before "Created To Need A Help Meet" on how to pick a help meet titled "In Search Of A Help Meet" Does anyone here want to do a review of it? Send me an email at and I'll see that you receive a copy for review.We've all speculated on where the Pearl sons are and what they are up to. While looking through No Greater Joy I came across this reference to the Pearls visiting son Nathan Pearl and … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Listening To Your Wife?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: This is almost enough to make you feel sorry for Michael's wife Debi Pearl, but knowing how Debi twists what happened to her and uses it to make others feel fear and guilt cancels out any sympathy points she might get for her husband admitting what an abusive jerk he has been. Sick relationship. His advice in the end might be good except for his suggestion to pretend to be humble and thoughtful. Pretend? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Stand By Your Man When He Becomes Obsessed?

by Shalom Pearl Brand from No Greater Joy - Preparing for His ObsessionEditor's note: Interestingly enough the very first letter ignores Debi Pearl's admonitions not to have your own hobbies because it might keep you from being ready to serve your husband when he comes home from his (hobby) obsession. … [Read more...]

“Zimzum of Love” review 97 – 121, “Sacred” & “Epilogue”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons This is the last post on the book, and I find myself wondering if I can enthusiastically endorse it. It’s certainly different than every other Christian marriage-advice book I’ve ever read, and I’ve deeply appreciated those differences. It’s straightforward, honest, authentic, all things I appreciate, but at times it got a little boring because they frequently dipped into pretty conservative Christian ideas about the role and purpose of marriage, and I think they skirted more difficult questions or avoided them entirely. They didn’t examine problems like we’re just not happy anymore, or we want completely different things in … [Read more...]

“Zimzum of Love” review: 49 – 95, “Dynamic” and “Exclusive”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons One of the reasons why I was initially hesitant to write a review of a book I knew I’d essentially agree with was that I’d move through the book and think ho-hum, or well, duh, or this is just common sense why did we need a book about this. And then I’ll remember– oh, wait, there’s a zillion books out there that actively contradict what I think is “common sense,” so yes, we do need a book like this one. Desperately. … [Read more...]

“Zimzum of Love” Review: 1-43, “Responsive”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Honestly, I’m still not really clear on the zimzum part of this book. Rob and Kristen seem to have connected with the metaphor strongly, but I’m not finding in it everything they did. I’m not sure how Rob was introduced to the concept, since what I can find has it appearing in Life of Pi and Kaballah, and Rob says it comes from “the rabbinic tradition.” I know I have Jewish readers, so if you could help me out with where this term comes from that would be spectacular. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Natural Body Odors Are A Turn On?

by Michael Pearl from his book "Holy Sex"Trigger warning! May make you throw up! … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” by Mark Driscoll: review xi-xiv Preface and Introduction

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Ok, so I read four pages of Real Marriage this morning. There’s eleven chapters, so with that plus covering the preface and introduction today, I’m going to try to wrap this up in three months and avoid as much of the “multiple weeks dedicated to one chapter” thing that happened a few times with Captivating. I don’t think you or I could handle it. Like Fascinating Womanhood and Captivating, Real Marriage will inevitably have statements that I agree with, mostly because they’re common sense. And, the first time I read these pages this morning, I thought I could agree with a good portion of what he said in the preface, which i … [Read more...]