Quoting Quiverfull: Your Wife Complaining is Being Emotional?

by Bezaleel Cummings from No Greater Joy Magazine - Wisdom That Works: Three Essential Relationship RulesEditor's note: Don't know if we should be amused or offended by relationship advice from a guy who has only been married 18 months now. Get back to me when it's been 18 years and I'll take what he is saying more seriously. That's still the honeymoon phase, very likely there's nothing that has gone wrong between this young couple yet. But this idea he is promoting, that women are all emotional is a toxic dangerous one. And on the flip side, if you are upset with your spouse over something please learn how to discuss it rationally without being the all emotional little women these … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Bad Marriages Are Like Bad Health?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine – Seven Pearls for Finding a Happy MarriageEditor's note: Oh no, no, no, Michael Pearl is trying to insist that everyone have frequent sexy time like he does. We all know from his honeymoon story that he likes to compare his stamina and frequency of intercourse against other men so anything he might have to say on this subject is void and worthless. This is one of those things that is literally between  the two partners with no wrong or right amount of love making. … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? Part 1 Chapter 10 – Everyone Still Just Wants to Smush Genitalia Together?

by Suzanne TitkemeyerHere we are again, diving into Vaughn Ohlman's thin tome on the subject of how courtship just makes people sin sexually. To hear him tell it in this particular chapter most everyone, even good kids at church, are just a small step from turning into horny sailors with a pocketful of money in Amsterdam or Hamburg's red light districts. Orgies ahoy!This was a chapter too far for me on my beach week. The waters off Virginia Beach were mostly closed except for one day due to high bacterial levels. Had I broke down and read this chapter last week I would have added to the bacterial load, I would thrown up in the water like some land lubber suffering from seasickness … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Woman Don’t Tell ME What to Do?

by Kirk Cameron at Christian Today - Kirk Cameron Shares Secret to Happy MarriageEditor's note: This has been blowing up all over the internet and entertainment websites for the last week. Initially I wasn't even going to share this because it's just such a milder version of the complementarian theology pushed by the Quiverfull movement. It feels almost 'liberal' to say that husbands should not tell their wives to submit. It's far less shocking and disturbing than anything we've seen from the Campbells or the Pearls. But here it is. What do you think? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Flirting and Teasing are the Secret to Keeping Marriages Alive?

by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy magazine - How Do You Keep Marriage Alive?Editor's note: Shoshanna is answering a reader's question in this bit. While none of the things she's saying are necessarily bad advice I find it revealing and interesting that there's nothing on that list involving communication or discussion or being truthful and real with each other. It sounds more like a list to seduce someone else. What do you think? … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Showing Affection to Loved Ones so Difficult?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.Over the last few days we've been looking at Larry Solomon's breakdown of the movie 'Fireproof' and why he thinks it's bad advice for anyone in a Christian marriage. One of his objections is that it required the husband Caleb to do small affectionate … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – What Is A ‘Help Meet’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Excerpt from "In Search Of A Help Meet"Editor's note: In this short bit Michael talks about giving and not taking in marital relationships ending with some confusing bits waxing on about candle wax and liquid units of measure. Some of his allegories just don't translate very well. Remember all those belabored nautical terms used so poorly in his Jumping Ship posts? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – What Is A ‘Help Meet’?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Excerpt from 'In Search of a Help Meet'Editor's note: This is interesting because this is one of those Michael Pearl books that's been overlooked but has loads of ridiculous ideas like his better known books. He has written about before "Created To Need A Help Meet" on how to pick a help meet titled "In Search Of A Help Meet" Does anyone here want to do a review of it? Send me an email at suzanne.calulu@gmail.com and I'll see that you receive a copy for review.We've all speculated on where the Pearl sons are and what they are up to. While looking through No Greater Joy I came across this reference to the Pearls visiting son Nathan Pearl and … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Listening To Your Wife?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: This is almost enough to make you feel sorry for Michael's wife Debi Pearl, but knowing how Debi twists what happened to her and uses it to make others feel fear and guilt cancels out any sympathy points she might get for her husband admitting what an abusive jerk he has been. Sick relationship. His advice in the end might be good except for his suggestion to pretend to be humble and thoughtful. Pretend? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Stand By Your Man When He Becomes Obsessed?

by Shalom Pearl Brand from No Greater Joy - Preparing for His ObsessionEditor's note: Interestingly enough the very first letter ignores Debi Pearl's admonitions not to have your own hobbies because it might keep you from being ready to serve your husband when he comes home from his (hobby) obsession. … [Read more...]