Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Man Ought To Find A Woman?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Awful Marriage? Submit Harder!?

by one of Lori Alexander poor young deluded readers at The Transformed Wife - Submit YOURSELVES to Your HusbandEditor's note: A rather toxic stew. Duggar worship? Check. Lori worship and groveling? Check. Decision to have no needs, desires or wants? Check. Is being an extra-Biblical Stepford Wife by suppressing every natural urge what Jesus ordered? I don't think so. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Why There Are Smaller Numbers of Male Missionaries?

by John Piper from Desiring God at Church Leaders.com - Why Are Women More Eager Missionaries?Editor's note: Seems to me that men not marrying, or delaying marriage, are perhaps not the most mature people in the first place. Perhaps that's just the type of guy that has no business being  missionary at all. But it is wisdom not to marry or pursue serious types of activities when you're not ready for them. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Only Happy Christian Marriage Produce Healthy Children?

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - The Father's Heart ContinuedEditor's note: Colin seems to think that people cannot come out of other family relationships and turn out fine. Guess it's better in his world to grit your teeth in a bad marriage while pretending to be happ-happ-happy than to live in family structures that work best for you and your children. … [Read more...]

Bonus Quoting Quiverfull: Modeling and Modesty?

While reading through the usual suspects blogs and websites I stumbled across this video made by the two ladies who run the website we've quoted a few times now - Girl Defined. The video illustrates perfectly one of the biggest problems with raising your children in the isolationist mind set of Quiverfull - immaturity. We've seen this immaturity in physically grown women many times in a wide variety of places in Quiverfull: the Botkin sisters Anna Sophia and Elizabeth, the message boards connected to Debi Pearl's book 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet', Girl Defined, Hello Modesty, A Lovely Calling, and too many other blogs than we could list here. The Quiverfull bubble that most of these young … [Read more...]

Redeeming Love: Part 3 – Non-Consensual Marriage

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comPlot summary:Michael gives in to “God,” goes back to Pair-a-Dice for Angel. He discovers that she’s been beaten. Marries her while she’s nearly unconscious and delirious. Then he takes her back to the farm, where she recuperates. Angel tries to learn how to cook and lay a fire, but fails. She tries to seduce him, but he refuses.*** … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Marry So Others Are Not Confused?

Found on Ladies Against Feminism and written by Tim Challies of Challies.com - Why Marriage is Better Than CohabitationEditor's note: Most of the reasons to marry instead of live together in this article aren't bad ones. Some are the same arguments I've cited in my review of Vaughn Ohlman's book as a reason not to do marriage his way without a marriage license. Things such as legally protecting the rights of inheritance for the surviving spouse and protects the children born of the relationship if one party or the other decides to abandon the family. Those are good reasons to marry. However, getting married to make everyone around you that cannot figure out what your relationship … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Old is Too Old?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Do These Biblical Marriage Rules Magically Apply to Both Sexes?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - The 12 Required Attributes of Marital LoveEditor's note: Not linking directly to Larry since he's clearly getting off on the idea of extra hit numbers. This comes from a long post about what married people need to feel for each other. He's using gender neutrality in the list but how many of you think that in Larry's mind having a penis exempts you from the entire list? This is not a bad list, it's just very unlikely he means for men to behave this way towards their wives. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Polygamy and the ‘Biblical’ Man?

by Vaughn Ohlman of The Practical Theonomist and Let Them Marry - Is Polygamy Forbidden in the Scripture?Editor's note: While Mr. Ohlman is rushing around doing damage control and erasing/rewriting large swaths of Let Them Marry so that it doesn't make him sound quite as creepy as "Game of Thrones" Craster he's completely neglected the many other blogs he's written on. Many of the same thoughts and toxic rules for marrying are on all the other sites. Here's a bit about polygamy where Von is trying to debate someone else. The person he is debating remarks are in bolded italics, Von's are in plain text. … [Read more...]