Excessive Modesty Makes Me Feel Objectified

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This last weekend we went to a large park with the kids and as we piled out of the van I noticed a Mennonite family was there. A teenage girl followed a toddler around the park, both of them wearing the long plain dresses that hid every shape of their young bodies. The mother sat on a park bench quietly watching while the husband and brother stood nearby arms folded, grimly surveying the area. I watched a young girl about age 9 climbing quietly up and down the play structures, her ankle-length dress billowing around her, her hair tucked into a small bonnet. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Rules For Modesty?

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by Kate Schell from her blog kateschell.comEditor's note: Kate is not a quiverfull evangelical Christian but she is doing an interesting series on the whole Modesty movement in evangelical Christianity called 'Immodest Proposals' that is a great read for anyone in recovery from toxic modesty teachings in Christianity. Featuring the list of 'don'ts' from her site. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So What’s The Different Again Between Christian And Muslim Men?

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by Bojidar Marinov as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism and cross posted from his blog Navigating History - Civilization & Self ControlEditor's note: In light of all the recent pearl clutching in the world of Evangelical Christianity about modesty and yoga pants Marinov's assertions about how self controlled Evangelical Christian men are seems like a ridiculous lie! How many times in our old lives in Fundigelicalism and Quiverfull were we told to never defraud a man by dressing immodestly? No difference at all from what Marinov is claiming about Islamic men. Bonus points for historical revision, racism and Islamaphobia as well.  … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Dressing So Men Will Notice?

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by Dianne E. Anderson - What Christian Men Don't Understand About BoobsEditor's note: Dianne has a book coming out in little more than a week about the whole Purity Culture - Rape Culture theology endemic to Evangelical Christianity. The book is titled 'Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity' and it is available for preorder now on Anderson's website. … [Read more...]

Dear Unmarried Woman: Are You An Appetizer or Dessert?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJust when I think I’ve heard all there is to hear from Evangelicals about sex, purity, and the like, someone will write or say something that I have not heard before. In other words, not all the nuts have fallen from the tree.Recently, Bethany Jett, a thirty-something married Evangelical woman who writes on girly topics from a godly perspective, wrote a blog article about two reasons why a woman should save herself for marriage. Here’s what Jett had to say: … [Read more...]

Did You Know Spaghetti Straps Are Sinful?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserWhen people think of Christian fundamentalism they most often think of the fundamentalism found in Evangelicalism and the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church movement. However, as the following story will show, fundamentalism is alive and well in the Roman Catholic church.Melanie Pritchard, Founder of Vera Bella Catholic Girls’ Formation Program and the Executive Director of the Foundation for Life and Love, recently wrote an article about why she does not let her four-year old daughter wear spaghetti straps: … [Read more...]

News: Jim Bob Duggar’s Rules Apply Even To Married Duggars

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerMore Duggars in the media this week. Both Jill Duggar Dillard and Jessa Duggar are on the cover of US Weekly and they're talking about the expectations of their father carrying over into their entire lives. Very ridiculous rules considering his adult children are just that, adults, capable of making their own rules and knowing their own minds.So what are these rules? … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: David’ Sin Was All Bathsheba’s Fault

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, p. 207I have written so often about the tendency of what I call “the purity culture” to blame women for men’s sexual actions. Even rape is too often blamed on the woman doing something to deserve it, inciting his lust with her clothing or her actions. Modesty is preached as the solution, and women are told to cover up. Women become responsible for men’s sexual actions. In this, the last section of Debi’s chapter on being “chaste,” we see this idea taken to a horrific extreme. … [Read more...]

A Letter From Two Weak, Pathetic Men at Patrick Henry College

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way Forward As I have shared before, Evangelical young men are taught that they are weak, pathetic creatures easily led astray by mere exposure to too much female flesh. Instead of being taught to own and control their sexuality, they whine, moan, and complain about women “tempting” them to sin. Well, the moaning part is them masturbating after seeing too much female flesh.This is the fault of women too. Let me give an example of this kind of thinking. Yesterday, Homeschooler’s Anonymous published a 2006 letter written by two Patrick Henry College (PHC) male students to the female students of the college. For those not familiar with PHC, it i … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Modesty Was ‘God’s Idea’?

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by Tony Reinke in John Piper's blog Desiring God - Is Feminine Modesty About Sex?Men and women serve each other here. A godly Christian man refuses to treat women as objects of lust, humanizes them, and shows respect to his sisters in Christ as fellow heirs (Romans 8:17). A Christian woman, modestly dressed, serves her brothers in Christ, honors her husband (1 Peter 3:1–6), and removes an unnecessary obstruction from her testimony of personal godliness in society and the church (1 Timothy 2:8–15). Whether or not men are also called to a standard of modesty in fashion is a relatively new conversation in the church, and one we need to think through together in the future. But what we do kn … [Read more...]


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