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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #8

February 27, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Security vs. Anxiety -Structuring my life around that which is eternal and cannot be destroyed or taken away (John 6:27) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth (Note from Ruth: This chapter is about my experience and my life. This is not intended to represent any family but my own or any childhood but my own. I fully [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #7

February 24, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Resourcefulness vs. Wastefulness – Wise use of that which others would normally overlook or discard (Luke 16:10) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuth Six boys in one room and me, sitting like a princess, in my canopy bed. If that’s not a recipe for jealousy, then I don’t know what is. My parents would often go to little [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #6

February 8, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Meekness vs. Anger -Yielding my personal rights and expectations to God (Psalm 62:5) – Bill Gothard by RazingRuthAfter a year with our family, Kay left…and in many ways, so did my mother. Admittedly, my mom was more organized and seemed to take more control over her wild boys. The housework was being done and Elijah, the [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #4

January 28, 2010 By Patheos Admin

“Humility v Pride” – Recognizing that it is actually God and others who are responsible for the achievements in my life (James 4:6) by RazingRuth Disclaimer: With my father, I have to be careful of the details I give. His place in the movement is easily identifiable with a few key data points. I hope my readers [...]

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The 49 Character Qualities of Ruth #3

January 25, 2010 By Patheos Admin

Discernment vs. Judgment – The God-given ability to understand why things happen (I Samuel 16:7) by RazingRuth Two babies in ten months. Samuel came three weeks early. That was my mother’s introduction to parenting. I’m sure she must’ve been over-whelmed. With my father starting to travel on occasion, I’m sure she was lonely. But she had her church [...]

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