Quoting Quiverfull: Spanked For Refusing Sex?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Does the Bible Allow a Husband to Spank His Wife? (top article on his site)Editor's note: I'm amazed that anyone writes to Larry asking for advice because his advice is usually so very creepy and abusive. This is no better. Not once does Larry answer the question of if it is 'right' to divorce a man that physically and emotionally abuses you, and let's be clear here, any man who decides to punish you as if you were a child with physical abuse followed by 'grounding' you from leaving the house IS abusing you. Had to trim the part where the lady says she's so exhausted and burned out by caring for the six children they have had in five years of … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls: Is it Wrong to Leave and Divorce My Abusive Husband?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Using Pop Culture to Double Down on Abusive Theology?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - "Everyone" is Talking About Brad and AngelinaEditor's note: Had to go look up what was going on with these two after reading Lori's nasty little blaming screed about how no one takes marriage seriously anymore because of Hollywood. I'm not going to disingenuously claim I haven't seen either in films, like someone else is claiming, but I hardly think 'EVERYONE' is discussing this break up. Also, sounds like there was some possibly dangerous parenting at work before the divorce, Brad Pitt is currently under investigation for child abuse and the separation happened the day after the abuse incident. If a man is constantly high or drunk and exhibiting … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce Leads to Boastful Spending?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - If the Shoe FitsEditor's note: Strangest reasoning yet over why you should not either divorce or buy expensive new shoes for your children. He does not take into account that if the child is involved in athletics there might actually be a reason to buy that shoe and sports shoes aren't the cheapest. In all the divorced families I've known I don't think I've ever seen a scenario where the single mother is swimming in money enough to blow it on huge shopping sprees for Air Jordans. Fantasyland. Another reason to throw hate at people who divorce. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shut Up About Your Bad Marriage Because God is Using it to ‘Refine’ You?

by John Piper of Desiring God and The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood as lifted and reposted by Lori Alexander's blog Always Learning - The Cost of Covenant Keeping LoveEditor's note: Wow, talk about dangerous tripe, this entire piece, including the parts I did not quote for brevity's sake. There's even a section where it says you can never consider divorce, ever ever, that you must erase the word from your mind. What this 'stay married' post does not take into account are the many marriages that are abusive, either physically or mentally, the marriages that flounder because there is no earthly way for either partner to meet the needs of the family and a myriad of other awful … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Working Outside the House Create Jerkish Husbands?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Unloved and Insecure HusbandsEditor's note: While I agree loving your husband deeply when he's struggling is a good response I think that Lori is missing the best solutions of all, that have nothing to do with divorce - MARRIAGE COUNSELING - MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS - even things like men's accountability groups or right type pastoral counseling. As usual Lori advises suffering in silence and submitting harder instead of trying to figure what the real underlining problem is and taking legitimate proven steps to solve it. In fundamental quiverfull town is all or nothing, submit/suffer/smile/pray or get a divorce. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – If Your Husband is a Jerk You Probably Caused It?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from Are They All Yours? - So You're Married to a Jerk?Editor's note: Last part. Zsu takes a swing at other 'mommy blogs', which is exactly what her site is too. Why is it that the others were all divorcing and Zsu is doubling down on the dysfunction? Swipe at psych meds? Check. But the most horrible part is bolded below. Funny how Zsu thinks you must stay married to an abuser or adulterer because if God didn't desire you to be with him He'd kill off the bad guy. … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 1 What Saith The Scriptures? (Yes, It’s THOSE Scriptures)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 143-145Today we're discussing the Bible verses that back up what Michael teaches. Honestly, I'm not too excited about this section. Once, my husband's ex-coworker (and ex-best friend, now), and I had a disagreement. I had a problem with my husband going to his house for a game day with a whole bunch of guys. I had a lot of reasons (I was mentally unstable at that point, the wives were literally expected to serve the men, the men smoked cigars and drank alcohol) that I emailed to him as kind of a rationale why it upset me when my husband went. In lieu of a reply to my points, he sent EVERY single Bible verse that talks about … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: Whew, this is the last piece in this 'let's blame everyone and the kitchen sink' for divorce before doubling down on the whole 'honor your husband even if he's a cheating drunken asshole' place Michael always goes. No matter the circumstances you can always count on the Pearls to blame and shame the mother before moving on to do the same to the children. Tell me again Mr. Pearl about the love of Jesus? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: Finally Michael goes on to blame men too, but only one short bit calling them 'sissies'. He is also claiming that women that do not toe his theological stay in a bad marriage or else line are depressed and angry. That might be, but staying in a bad situation is way more likely to make you depressed or angry. … [Read more...]