Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Being Abused? You Still Cannot Divorce Him?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Divorcing a Persistent Porn AddictEditor's note: Again Lori Alexander doubles down on her claim that divorce is never permissible no matter what the abuse is. You might be allowed to call the law on the abuse, but you cannot leave and divorce him. Pray, forgive and meet his needs. Yeah, be a martyr. Let everyone talk about what a righteous example you are when they are burying you after your husband has killed you. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Being Abused? You Still Cannot Divorce Him?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Divorcing a Persistent Porn Addict?Editor's note: This is going just too far now. Ms. Alexander thinks that porn or possible abuse is no reason to divorce. Her advice? Suffer and stay. There has to be a special place in hell for women that urge others to do harmful things. … [Read more...]

Rumor: Anna Duggar About to Divorce Josh Duggar?

In the last few days more rumors have emerged that Anna Duggar is considering divorcing her husband Josh. Why now? Why not when this all first went down? … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls: Should I Out My Husband?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanked For Refusing Sex?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Does the Bible Allow a Husband to Spank His Wife? (top article on his site)Editor's note: I'm amazed that anyone writes to Larry asking for advice because his advice is usually so very creepy and abusive. This is no better. Not once does Larry answer the question of if it is 'right' to divorce a man that physically and emotionally abuses you, and let's be clear here, any man who decides to punish you as if you were a child with physical abuse followed by 'grounding' you from leaving the house IS abusing you. Had to trim the part where the lady says she's so exhausted and burned out by caring for the six children they have had in five years of … [Read more...]

Questioning the Pearls: Is it Wrong to Leave and Divorce My Abusive Husband?

For well over a year we’ve been running a second Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ on Sundays, filled with questions by young ladies trying to get ready for marriage. Since we’ve run through many of the questions on their site it’s time to shift Sundays to something else, like perhaps examining the cornucopia of probably fake emails and questions that Michael and Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy post on their website and the possibly poisonous answers they give. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Using Pop Culture to Double Down on Abusive Theology?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - "Everyone" is Talking About Brad and AngelinaEditor's note: Had to go look up what was going on with these two after reading Lori's nasty little blaming screed about how no one takes marriage seriously anymore because of Hollywood. I'm not going to disingenuously claim I haven't seen either in films, like someone else is claiming, but I hardly think 'EVERYONE' is discussing this break up. Also, sounds like there was some possibly dangerous parenting at work before the divorce, Brad Pitt is currently under investigation for child abuse and the separation happened the day after the abuse incident. If a man is constantly high or drunk and exhibiting … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce Leads to Boastful Spending?

by Steven Anderson of Faithful Word Baptist Church - If the Shoe FitsEditor's note: Strangest reasoning yet over why you should not either divorce or buy expensive new shoes for your children. He does not take into account that if the child is involved in athletics there might actually be a reason to buy that shoe and sports shoes aren't the cheapest. In all the divorced families I've known I don't think I've ever seen a scenario where the single mother is swimming in money enough to blow it on huge shopping sprees for Air Jordans. Fantasyland. Another reason to throw hate at people who divorce. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shut Up About Your Bad Marriage Because God is Using it to ‘Refine’ You?

by John Piper of Desiring God and The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood as lifted and reposted by Lori Alexander's blog Always Learning - The Cost of Covenant Keeping LoveEditor's note: Wow, talk about dangerous tripe, this entire piece, including the parts I did not quote for brevity's sake. There's even a section where it says you can never consider divorce, ever ever, that you must erase the word from your mind. What this 'stay married' post does not take into account are the many marriages that are abusive, either physically or mentally, the marriages that flounder because there is no earthly way for either partner to meet the needs of the family and a myriad of other awful … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Working Outside the House Create Jerkish Husbands?

by Lori Alexander from Always Learning - Unloved and Insecure HusbandsEditor's note: While I agree loving your husband deeply when he's struggling is a good response I think that Lori is missing the best solutions of all, that have nothing to do with divorce - MARRIAGE COUNSELING - MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS - even things like men's accountability groups or right type pastoral counseling. As usual Lori advises suffering in silence and submitting harder instead of trying to figure what the real underlining problem is and taking legitimate proven steps to solve it. In fundamental quiverfull town is all or nothing, submit/suffer/smile/pray or get a divorce. … [Read more...]