Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 1 What Saith The Scriptures? (Yes, It’s THOSE Scriptures)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 143-145Today we're discussing the Bible verses that back up what Michael teaches. Honestly, I'm not too excited about this section. Once, my husband's ex-coworker (and ex-best friend, now), and I had a disagreement. I had a problem with my husband going to his house for a game day with a whole bunch of guys. I had a lot of reasons (I was mentally unstable at that point, the wives were literally expected to serve the men, the men smoked cigars and drank alcohol) that I emailed to him as kind of a rationale why it upset me when my husband went. In lieu of a reply to my points, he sent EVERY single Bible verse that talks about … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: Whew, this is the last piece in this 'let's blame everyone and the kitchen sink' for divorce before doubling down on the whole 'honor your husband even if he's a cheating drunken asshole' place Michael always goes. No matter the circumstances you can always count on the Pearls to blame and shame the mother before moving on to do the same to the children. Tell me again Mr. Pearl about the love of Jesus? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Selfish Momma Dooms Children?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Broken CirclesEditor's note: Finally Michael goes on to blame men too, but only one short bit calling them 'sissies'. He is also claiming that women that do not toe his theological stay in a bad marriage or else line are depressed and angry. That might be, but staying in a bad situation is way more likely to make you depressed or angry. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce Causes Mass Shootings?

by Matt Walsh of the Matt Walsh Blog as quoted by It's The Women Not The Men - Good Guys  (linked through Do Not Link)Editor's note: This isn't to put down gun control or support gun control. This is being posted because it is a perfect example of QF Fundamentalism's tendency to take complex issues and reduce them down to something simplistic. That simple solution is always something 'Bible based' instead of researched, given any amount of deep thought or alternative solutions. Hungry? You must be lazy and the Bible says lazy people don't eat. Have depression? You're selfish. Sick? You must have sinned in some way... the list goes on and on. You disrespect others when you reduce … [Read more...]

Jim Bob Duggar Offers Anna a House to Stay With Cheating Husband Josh

It's floating around in the online tabloids late last night and this morning that Jim Bob Duggar has offered Anna Duggar a $345,000 house on the condition she stays married to his son Josh. This would be the same home that was purchased for the midwife to live in and that Jill and Derick Dillard stayed in during their recent visit. Of course, this is all according to unnamed Duggar 'insiders' so there's no real evidence this is true.What is true is the fact that Anna and children are back in Arkansas living with Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and assorted Duggar children. Since she's back home again and not living with her parents in Florida it seems to indicate Anna will not be divorcing … [Read more...]

“Lies Women Believe” Review 135 – 167

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comThis week’s Lies Women Believe review covers the chapter I’ve been dreading– the chapter on marriage. It was as horrific as I was expecting, and re-reading the sections I’d highlighted when I was in abusive relationship with a rapist made me sick all over again. I know this for a fact: the ideas Nancy argues for in this book keep women in abusive relationships.So, let’s dig into this miasmic pile of filth, shall we? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce Makes Your Children Bitter and Worldly?

by Debi Pearl of No Greater Joy - Abusive HusbandEditor's note: Debi is answering a letter about an abusive husband and counseling the victim to stay with her abuser. This little bit below is typical of Debi's fear mongering over divorce. Usually she warns that the divorcing woman will end up in a duplex filled with lesbians. Now she's claiming that if you divorce then God will not protect your children from the world, that they will fall away into bitterness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Did You Marry A Jerk? Too Bad

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from her blog Are They All Yours? - So you're married to a jerk....Editor's note: This is Zsuzsanna's answer to a reader asking what to do if you find out you're married to a jerk. What does she do? Immediately blame the wife. No divorce ever. She doesn't even began to address things like the fact that all of us are jerks at times to our spouses, I know I have been, it's normal for there to be phases in marriage and times when you're not exactly thrilled with one another. But you push forward and make it work, or go to marriage counseling.  But there's a big difference between seasons of marriage and if you are married to someone who is genuinely cruel all of the … [Read more...]

Questions: What Should You Do When Your Marriage Gets Difficult?

Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life. Today it's about bad marriages and the assumption that divorce is never an option.Remember last week's Quoting Quiverfull involving Christian Patriarch-type and Mens Rights advocate Cane Caldo? Some poor woman wrote to him asking for advice on how to help her friend. Why she would ask someone that clearly hates women is beyond my understanding and his answers are filled with misogyny and shaming. One of the ways that patriarchal religion truly harms women is in removing their options in marriage by continual additions to the family via Quiverfull and taking away options of women by patriarchal control.  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being an Abused Woman Makes You Sinful?

by Jennifer Tritle at and cross posted at Ladies Against Feminism - Joy as a Tool of Dominion For the Abused Woman Consider this scenario: Various women are abused as children. They grow up in conscious or unconscious guilt and shame. They subtly or ostensibly manifest fear, bitterness, depression, masochistic dependency, and/or sadistic domineering behaviors in their personalities. Undiscipled Christian men are attracted for various conscious and unconscious reasons to … [Read more...]