CTBHHM: Smile, Giggle and Simper

April 5, 2013 By 9 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 28-32 The rest of Debi’s chapter on “a merry heart” is taken up with her response to a letter from a follower. Debi spends four full pages responding. The longer I read, the sadder I got. I apologize in advance. First, the letter:

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CTBHHM: In Which Debi Twists Scripture

March 12, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 21-23 Debi starts by looking at the Genesis story of the creation of Eve. She explains that Adam was completely delighted that God gave him Eve as a gift, and that every woman’s husband should similarly be delighted in having her as a gift. And [...]

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CTBHHM: Michael Pearl’s Stamp of Approval

February 22, 2013 By 13 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created to Be His Help Meet, pp. 13 Created to Be His Help Meet, a popular evangelical/fundamentalist marriage manual, begins with a one page introduction by author Debi Pearl’s

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Quoting Quiverfull: Do Parents Destroy Children Without Trying?

February 21, 2013 By 11 Comments
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by Michael Pearl of ‘No Greater Joy’ Six Ways Parents Destroy Their Children Without Trying – December 14, 2012 God promises, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Parents,

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Millipede – Part 34 How Did I Get Here Part 5

November 8, 2012 By Leave a Comment
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by Millipede The woman traveling the road to Patriarchy has a large pit in front of her. She doesn’t know it, although at this point in the game, she is starting to get little hints of the not so nice side of patriarchy. She’s finding out that she must give up rights, a few here [...]

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