Daughter of the Patriarchy: A Terrible Secret

by SierraWhen we went to visit the house in Pennsylvania, it seemed remote, dark and expansive. At the inquisitive yet reticent age of seven, I hovered behind my mother’s leg as we looked around the basement of the long ranch house. It wasn’t quite a finished basement, but there was a bar installed with Heineken cans lining the ceiling. A child about my age was sitting on the floor playing with some ugly 1990s toys. We shared a mutual glance of childhood understanding: we were not agents in this business of buying, selling and leasing real estate (I couldn’t yet wrap my mind around what “real estate” meant in the first place). We were the dolls in our parents’ dollhouses, and I was displa … [Read more...]

Patriarchy Across Cultures: I Will Lay Me Down

by TapatiRadha and Krishna My 18th birthday came and went in December. We didn’t celebrate birthdays, although I’d made a cake for Mike’s birthday in September. I was disappointed that he did nothing for mine. I was used to celebrating it every year in some way.I began to talk about having a baby. It seemed like many of the women were having babies in New Dwaraka and the more time I spent with moms, the more I wanted a baby of my own. While there was no expectation that we would have lots of children, having children was the point of being householders. We were supposed to raise good devotee children, children who would be even more devoted than we were because they wanted to take birth … [Read more...]

Patriarchy Across Cultures: I Never Loved A Man (The Way I Love You)

by TapatiKiss me once again Don't you never, never, never say that we we're through Cause I ain't never, I ain't never I ain't never, no, no, loved a man The way that I, I love you--Ronnie Shannon (sung by Aretha Franklin)Sri Sri Rukmini-Dwarakadhish Once we arrived at my mom’s apartment, our relationship was on fast forward. We spent a few weeks together every waking moment, with my mom at work and the run of the place. We cooked together, with Mike teaching me a lot about Indian cooking. He’d been hanging out around the temple for years and had learned a lot. He was four years older than me and seemed wise beyond his years. Like me he was raised by a single mom and had previously had … [Read more...]

NLQ FAQ: Quiverfull and the Bible

by Kristen Rosser ~ aka: KR WordgazerQ: The Quiverful philosophy is based on a literal interpretation of Scripture which takes God at His Word. Are you suggesting that the Bible should not be taken seriously?Please consider this question in light of this modern-day parable:A certain company had been in business for 100 years.  The founder of this company, before he retired, had written a letter to all employees, and had asked that this letter be read aloud every year, at the time of the annual picnic, so that all employees for years to come could know what the founder's vision was.The letter contained a lot of things about the company's vision and policies, as well as solemn … [Read more...]

"Quiver" ~ A Play by Kevin Anthony Kautzman

One Act (Full Length) * 81 pg * 3F / 1MThe Christian patriarchy movement stresses the differences between the sexes, insisting upon woman’s role as “helpmeet” for her man in an attempt to model lives after those of the Old Testament patriarchs.  When Faith, a devoutly submissive mother of seven, is drawn deeper into the militant pro-life movement by her pastor, she comes to question not just her adoption of the so-called “Quiverfull” lifestyle but her very belief in, and understanding of, God.Based in part on the story of Vyckie Garrison (NoLongerQivering.com), QUIVER is the new play from award-winning playwright Kevin Anthony Kautzman that explores how beliefs shape our communities and t … [Read more...]

It's About MONEY

With Promises of Protection, Security and Ultimate Victory, Peddlers of "Family Values" Manufactured a Culture War, and Capitalized on Our Fears Please note: This post has been modified to clarify the point I want to make which is this:I have no problem with making a buck ~ earning an honest living. In fact, that's exactly what I've got in mind in running the NLQ website, writing a book, etc. ~ I do not apologize for these efforts to support myself and my children.What makes me sick is that the "need" which the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle are being marketed to fill is manufactured and exaggerated in order to sell the product.A friend recently put it this way: It's like buying … [Read more...]

Patriarchy Across Cultures: Over The Rainbow

by TapatiSrimati Kishori, a vision of Radharani, Krishna’s consort, during Her teen years, at the Chicago temple.Somewhere, over the rainbow, skies are blue. And the dreams that you dare to dream Really do come true. Someday I'll wish upon a star And wake up where the clouds are far Behind me. –E.Y. Harburg, Wizard of OzOnce again I was on my way to St. Louis, grateful to be leaving my mother behind. I no longer considered whether or not I loved her; I just knew I had to get away.When I arrived at the bus station I was greeted by some male devotees in the polite, formal way that was common in ISKCON temples. We were not allowed to make conversation but rather had to keep to the ess … [Read more...]

Losing her religion: Norfolk woman no longer 'quivering' in fear of God

by VyckieToday's front page of the Norfolk Daily News features an article by religion reporter, Kathryn Harris, who contacted me after seeing the article "All God's Children" on Salon.com.Check out, "Losing her religion: Norfolk woman no longer 'quivering' in fear of God" ~ and be sure to read the companion article featuring Lts. Heather and Xavier's approach to ministering to our family ~ "Pastors 'preach' with love."I get the feeling that Harris is a little apprehensive about printing this article ~ on her blog, she wrote: Garrison had a story to tell. I was assigned to tell it. So that’s what I did to the best of my ability. (Although if I had the space, I’d have doubled the len … [Read more...]

A Most Twisted Love

by VyckieMom & Dad are in love ... but is a patriarchal relationship of entitlement-meets-martyrdom a healthy and mutually beneficial expression of love?Following a recent interview with the religion editor of our local newspaper, I've been thinking more about what I've learned from St. Bernard of Clairvaux concerning the four "degrees" of love which the ancient monk postulated in considering man's relationship to God (note that this applies to all other relationships as well) ~ although I've already written briefly on this topic here, I'd like to now give a more thorough explanation:Level 1) I love me for my benefit ~ here's an infantile, self-involved person with a severe … [Read more...]

It started with homeschooling

by ErikaMy sister and I in a photo booth. I think we were 12 & 13. She's older than I am.My childhood from the time I was born to the age of 14 was pretty much normal and mainstream. I grew up in a Christian home, going to church every Sunday, taking part in VBS in the summers, going to public school (though I went a few years to a Christian private school when I first started school), playing with the neighbor kids, watching cartoons in the morning....all the things that kids did in a normal family and neighborhood setting.I was born in Rhode Island at the end of 1976. I became a Christian at the age of 7. I remember sitting on the bed in my Oma and Opa's house (my grandparents … [Read more...]


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