Perfectionism

Baptist Taliban: Part 3

June 18, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

by Cindy Foster THE CHURCH WE WERE The Preacher and his wife graduated from Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri. At the time he attended there, the college was quite conservative. There were strict rules about dress, dating, curfews, entertainment, music and much more. The Preacher actually grew up in Springfield and was a member [...]

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Millipede: Part 9

June 16, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

dark wave

by Millipede That what was forgotten…. All this time though a dark wave was cresting over our existence. Through the years as my husband gained weight until he was morbidly obese, health problems cropped up, some requiring hospitalization. As you can guess the bills started coming in. While he was able to pay some of [...]

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Submission and Prison Cells: Part 2

June 16, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 3 Comments

by Melissa Permission to Live Click here for Part One Let me start by saying a sincere “I am sorry” to “Yellowbunnys” (whoever she was, and wherever she is now) and to all the other women I shamed that day. I was wrong. I was arrogant. I was hurtful. It is painful for me to even read [...]

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Baptist Taliban Part 2

June 15, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 2 Comments

by Cindy Foster FAMILY AS NEIGHBORS At first we lived in duplexes right next door to each other. Then, both families jointly purchased five acres, divided them equally and each built a house on their two and a half acres. As more children came, naturally there would be conflicts between theirs and ours which produced [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Questioning Q. 3

June 15, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne (and friends) Cross posted from Love, Joy, Feminism. Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

Listen to Vyckie's Story now:

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