Happily Abused

June 10, 2012 By 34 Comments
Can you say, "Stockholm Syndrome'?

Trigger warning: Christian woman’s advice to abused wives reads like a handbook for ascetic self-mortification. How to Use a Woman’s Faith & Trust to Make Her a Willing Accomplice to Her Own Abuse by Vyckie Garrison After stumbling across yet another piece of alarmingly dangerous advice for abused women of faith titled, Surviving Emotional Abuse Six [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 7

June 9, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Calulu After the incident with the pregnant daughter of a friend we had another reprieve from Tom and Tina. We’d see them at church but they’d stopped coming to the bible study group. I’d heard that they were both going through this other ministry’s counseling. The other ministry sounded sort of like Scientology in [...]

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Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

June 8, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Incongruous Circumspection Bill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply [...]

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Millipede Part 7

June 5, 2012 By 11 Comments
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by Millipede This is not to say that my years embracing Patriarchy were all bad. Despite many bad changes and warning signs, there were moments of joy. Staying at home was fun. I promised myself to stay busy so as it was all too tempting to sit around. I made myself a “work” schedule complete [...]

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Rebuilding

June 4, 2012 By 12 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser Nine years have passed since I preached my last sermon, since my wife was called the “pastor’s wife.” Almost four years have passed since my wife and I determined to stop attending church. We are now among the “unchurched”, casualties of a life spent in Evangelical Christianity. Worse yet, at least according [...]

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