Proverbs 31 Woman

Who Was That Masked Man? Part 6

June 3, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 10 Comments

by Calulu When we last left the Smiths they had reconciled and were determined to make everyone be best friends forever again. Nothing doing. Things ratchet up a few new levels of tension. 9/11 happens. I’m sitting in front of the television having coffee and folding clothes when CNN shows the coverage of the first [...]

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Millipede: Part 6

May 30, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 21 Comments

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by Millipede I hated the the underlying spirit which had crept into our marriage; it was a peevish, disapproving air that my husband had taken on. In our “heathen” days my husband had a happy go lucky air. This was endearing and made up for the fact that he could be irresponsible. Under Christian patriarchy [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 5

May 29, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 9 Comments

by Calulu So when we left off Tina was still believing that Tom was coming home. We were having nothing to do with the Smiths and Tom doesn’t come home. What he does do is go to my husband and ask him to talk to me about working a few mornings a week at his [...]

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Introducing, Raised Quiverfull!

May 28, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 5 Comments

by Libby Anne Nine young adults who were raised in families involved in the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements have come together here to answer questions about their upbringing, their questioning, and their transition to lives in the normal world. Ranging in age from their early twenties to their early thirties, all have questioned and [...]

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Millipede: Part 5

May 27, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 11 Comments

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by Millipede Peevish men, wives who watched every word and worse they really embraced the submission beliefs. The wives would gripe very rarely about their husbands and the work and if they did they were sure to say that they weren’t in disagreement with the system, ,merely letting off a little steam. The women [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

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