Life After ‘I Kissed Dating Goodbye’

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comBack when I was gearing up to do my review series on I Kissed Dating Goodbye, I reached out to Joshua Harris to see if he’d be interested in contributing anything. He refused, although cordially, and I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. He was so incredibly young when he wrote it, had spent several years in a toxic church… and after all, he’s attending seminary now, so maybe he’s just too busy. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Examples of Christian Rape Culture?

by Shaney Irene from Faith Filled Thoughts From The Front Porch - Everyday Examples of Christian Rape CultureEditor's note: This is an excellent article with many different aspects of how rape culture is prominent in Evangelical Christianity and Quiverfull. Only sharing the first three points, so you'll need to go to the original article to read the rest. The question that this brings up in my mind is how do we go around ending rape culture in the church? Do we call it out and not tolerate it? Or do we work from within to end it? … [Read more...]

Here’s How the ‘Pro-Life’ Money Machine Turns Desperate Women into Submissive Baby Makers

by NLQ Founder Vyckie Garrison originally published on Raw Story(Editor's note: Since October is Domestic Violence month Vyckie's story of her first marriage fits well with that theme. We're going to be featuring information on the subject of Domestic Violence a couple of times a week) Vyckie Garrison was once a minor celebrity in the Quiverfull Movement, made famous by TV’s Duggar family. As a devout, Bible-believing Christian and the mother of seven homeschooled children, Garrison spent 16 years, with her husband, publishing a newspaper for families on a similar path. Today, via a website called No Longer Quivering, she publishes resources for women leaving the movement. The f … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Judgmentalist Is Good If You Are Judging Sin?

by J. Matt Barber from Renew America.com - Adulterers, 'Your sin will find you out'Editor's note: One thing you can count on with squishy nasty things happen in the world of fundamentalist Christianity, there will be all sorts of interesting judgmentalism, sometimes even mixed with forgiveness or calls to forgive.  So it's a-okay to judge someone because God has already judged their sin? More moral limbo in the wake of the Ashley Madison data dump. Did you see that the other prominent Christian caught in the scandal was forcibly removed from a video blogging conference for threatening someone? … [Read more...]

I Dated Christian Grey

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsEditor's note: Samantha wrote an excellent piece with the same title for The Mary Sue - I Dated Christian Grey that sparked some thought provoking dialogue in the comments. Loved this bit: All of this is what happens in the early stages of any abusive relationship, especially with an abuser who uses “BDSM” to disguise his intentions. Victims are instructed by their abusers to view the abuse as normal, and normalcy asspecial. Anastasia Steele and I were so brave any time we dared to “stand up” to him, and Christian and my abuser were so unbelievably wonderful for having brief moments of normal human decency. The danger in  … [Read more...]

Cinderella; a Beautiful Girlhood

by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like MineI started my excursion into fairy tale princesses, and romance stories with a post about why those things still resonated with me. I want to continue with other aspects of those stories that are relevant and real for me as a woman in our culture but specifically the culture I was brought up in with its very heavy influences of patriarchy, gender ideals, and fundamentalist beliefs. Cinderella captures all the classic elements of a fairy tale princess romance and because there is context and parallels between it and my own story I will be using it for illustration and discussion. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse, & Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 5

by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoI’m not a strong advocate for sex outside of marriage.  I am certainly no advocate for adultery, which I think is wrong.  It’s one of the Ten Big Ones, as in Thou Shalt Not.  But, fornication, which is sex between individuals who are not married either to one another, or anyone else, is not considered a major sin.  I do think, though, it is an invitation to complicate one’s life.  That’s why I avoid the subject, and the process.  It’s complicated, complicating, and just tends to get in the way of life.  Maybe that’s a cop-out, but I have enough problems right now.  I don’t need to deal with the emotional ups and downs of an involv … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is This How You Should Speak About Your Spouse?

by Spencer Harmon from his blog Unspoken - My Wife Has Tattoos: Marriage, New Birth and the GospelThis has been all over the internet this weekend, provoking many different reactions: some people thinking it's awesome and those that think it's awful. Someone on our NLQ Support group on Facebook said it should have been titled 'King Cophetua meets Beggar Maid' What do you think dear readers? … [Read more...]

Why Purity Culture Doesn’t Teach Consent

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’m a Star Trek fan, and yes– it’s related. I grew up watching Star Trek loyally, and I’m pretty sure Captain Kathryn Janeway is one of the few reasons why I managed to be somewhat normal. So, when Enterprise began airing, I watched every single episode, and Phlox, a Denobulan doctor, quickly became one of my favorites. “The Breach” is one of the few episodes dedicated to his character, and it explores an ethical dilemma: … [Read more...]

What Is Rape Culture?

by Suzanne Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeBuzzfeed.com had an awesome article today laying out exactly what Rape Culture actually is. They even had photos to illustrate the problem and that song by Robin Thicke that is a perfect example of rape culture and the lack of informed consent - Blurred Lines.If you haven't seen the video or heard the song here it is. Not safe for work. … [Read more...]


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