Quoting Quiverfull: Stop Making My Husband Sin?

by Melissa from Far Above Rubies - Two Years Later, My Heart Still AchesEditor's note: You remember this lady, don't you? Her piece on how her teenage son was tempted and tried by all the slutty sluts around him daring to wear swimsuits and shorts? She's updated her thoughts and it's more doubling down on the toxic message that women make men sin by not being 'modest' enough. Messages like these make me so angry that marching down the street naked starts to look like a good option (not really, I don't want to frighten my townfolks, but you get my drift..) … [Read more...]

Josh Duggar: How Purity Culture Created His Downfall

by Suzanne TitkemeyerLate yesterday afternoon the news broke that it appears that Josh Duggar has had an account with the notorious website Ashley Madison. This account was active during the last two years he was employed by the Family Research Council and was only canceled when the news came out about his sexual molestation of his sisters. This is on the heels of all the other news that has come forward in the last four months about the sexual proclivities of Josh Duggar. … [Read more...]

When Christians Eat Their Own Wounded – Bill Gothard’s New Website

by Suzanne TitkemeyerSeveral different websites and organizations have gone after the very hypocritical IBLP founder Bill Gothard as soon as he emerged back in the public eye. Mr. Gothard is just doing what all the pastors caught with their hands and assorted body parts where they shouldn't be do after the scandal has died down. I think it is also safe to say we're going to also see Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar try to do exactly the same thing within six months, but only after they jettison Josh Duggar due to the pending lawsuit one of his victims filed. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Please Stop Kissing My Future Unknown Wife?

by an unknown author from To Save A Life - Please Stop Kissing My WifeEditor's note: More purity culture/rape culture garbage. Why is it this man is objecting to anyone possibly kissing his maybe future wife when it sounds like from his own descriptions of his dating life pre-Christ that he likely had a pile of booty calls. Why does the purity standard that calls women 'unwrapped licked candy bars' for normal expressions of romance like holding hands or kissing like they're some sort of Whore of Babylon and not treat the sexually experienced young men of the movement the same way? Male having had some sweet between the sheets mambo action that then confesses it to the Almighty is … [Read more...]

To The Moms Who Want To Hate On Middle-School Girls

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [this post is in response to Kristen Welch’s “To the Middle School Girls at the Pool who Told my Son He was Hot“] Listen, moms, I get it.You live in a culture where anything goes. Where the public shaming of girls is acceptable. We sacrifice their education on the altar of “not distracting boys,” and we joke about how their “Instagram feed has more duck faces than a pond.” As mean and petty as those jokes are, our culture says they’re hilarious. You live in a time when we’ve figured out another way to shame women, and this time it’s not for reading “sentimental nonsense” like Jane Austen, it’s for having a twitter handle … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Seductive Women Are As Bad As Male Rapists?

Good catch by Calvinist Janeway! She posted this on her blog Explorations in Egalitarianism - John Piper, Rape, Seduction, and Sin Leveling The quote is something that was tweeted by John Piper of  Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood.Editor's note: Piper deleted this shortly after posting it on Twitter. He must have gotten some well-deserved fundigelical push back over this idea that somehow female seducers and male rapists are the same thing. A seducer can be resisted, but a rapist takes violently what he wants. … [Read more...]

Part 1 – Is It Possible To Be A Sex-Positive Christian?

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons If you’ve spent any time in feminist circles, you’ve probably bumped into the termsex-positive. It gets thrown around a bit, and one thing I’ve noticed is that it can occasionally be difficult to nail down what the writer/speaker means when they use it, so I’m going to offer a definition for what I mean when I use it. … [Read more...]

News: Ending Rape Culture Because Bible?

by Gina Miller at BarbWire - Godlessness, Safety Nail Polish and 'Rape Culture'We've talked here at NLQ quite a bit about Purity Culture and Rape Culture and how modesty is not the answer to fixing the problem of rape in this country. The message that the religious right is pushing to address these problems is still the same old, same old that doesn't work. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Premarital Sex Always Sin?

by The Forgiven Wife - Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex … [Read more...]

A Letter From Two Weak, Pathetic Men at Patrick Henry College

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way Forward As I have shared before, Evangelical young men are taught that they are weak, pathetic creatures easily led astray by mere exposure to too much female flesh. Instead of being taught to own and control their sexuality, they whine, moan, and complain about women “tempting” them to sin. Well, the moaning part is them masturbating after seeing too much female flesh.This is the fault of women too. Let me give an example of this kind of thinking. Yesterday, Homeschooler’s Anonymous published a 2006 letter written by two Patrick Henry College (PHC) male students to the female students of the college. For those not familiar with PHC, it i … [Read more...]


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