This is What Child Abusers Look Like in Homeschooling Communities

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by R. L. Stollar cross posted from Homeschoolers Anonymous We like to think that we know what child abusers look like. That we can pick them out of the crowd based on their creepy mustaches, darkly-tinted cargo vans, or their giant, thick-rimmed glasses. But those stereotypes are just that: stereotypes. And like all stereotypes, they fall tragically short. The fact is, child abusers are not Others. They do not walk around with signs that say, “Monster.” They are able to violate our trust — and children’s lives and bodies and minds — because we trust them. Which means they have our trust, because they are a part of our community. They are friends and family and teachers … [Read more...]

Preparing to be a Help Meet: Billy’s Courtship

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide You may wonder why I didn't title the previous post and this one "Lydia and Billy's Courtship: Part # "  I didn't because the two narratives feel like they were written about two different courtships rather than one event involving two people. Billy's description of courting Lydia is harder to read; not because of Billy or any of his actions, but because his interview is interrupted by comments from the editors - All. The. Time. All emphasis is from the original. "Q: What attracted you to Lydia? A: When I first met Lydia I wasn't what you would call really attracted, nor was I ready for marriage. (...) Our initial … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Definition of Rape?

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by Matt Walsh of The Matt Walsh Blog -  We Can't End 'Rape Culture' if We Don't End Hook Up Culture An article on the Huffington Post takes it a step further. In bold italics it exclaims: “Drunk people cannot give consent.” By this logic, of course, all drunk sex is rape. Only this particular article, like most articles on the subject, places the ‘rapist’ label squarely on the shoulders of the man. The obvious question: if both are drunk, and both are unable to consent, but then both have sex, why is the man the only rapist in the transaction? … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 2

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo What does Randy the guinea pig have in common with the men of ATI, patriarchy, and Christian Reconstruction? Thanks to No Longer Quivering, the pieces of what modesty is doing to the culture in general, and the perversions of Bill Gothard are finally fitting into the Christian Reconstruction puzzle. Supposedly the piece is a letter from a father to his daughters. It is sick, disgusting, and basically incestuous. No NORMAL father would even begin to discuss this with his daughters. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Mate: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 2

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide For this next paragraph, find a place where you can read aloud to a friend with a good sense of humor.  Let each sentence build a sense of increasing desperation and importance.  Whoever bursts out laughing last wins. God Designed His Will To Come About Through PRAYER Do you pray for those who bear responsibility for your well-being?  Your father will need wisdom to know how to deal with the young man who comes to ask for your hand in marriage. Your pastor might know a young man who would be a good mate for you.  Why would your pastor think to bring this young man to your father's attention?  Have you prayed for your … [Read more...]

Patriarchy in Homeschool Culture

This is what "The Patriarchy" looks like in my head

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons I grew up in a subculture of evangelical Christianity that’s known as “Christian Patriarchy,” which is what the people who preach and teach this “lifestyle” un-ironically call it. I was also peripherally a part of the Quiverful and Stay-at-Home-Daughters movements, which are all separate things. A family can be Quiverful without preaching Christian Patriarchy or requiring daughters to remain at home until marriage, for example. … [Read more...]

Purity Portraits

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Photographer David Magnusson took an intriguing series of portraits of fathers and daughters in their Purity Ball finery. They are posted at Flavorwire - Striking, Creepy Photos of Christian "Purity Balls" America: land of the free, home of the… thoroughly fucking weird? It’s hard to know what else to say about these striking and frankly terrifying portraits by Swedish photographer David Magnusson, which capture the institution of the Purity Ball: a religious rite wherein girls pledge not to have sex until they’re married. All the photos (which we spotted at Feature Shoot) depict the girls and their fathers, who glow with pride at the thought that their little girl won’t be … [Read more...]

Patriarchal Ideas in Modern Culture: Game of Thrones and Sexual Consent

This might have been Dany's wedding night but there's still no much in the way of sexual consent going on.

by Suzanne Titkemeyer How can we expect the ideas of sexual consent by women to be understood by people such as Chris Jeub when patriarchal fundamentalist ideas of rape and purity culture have been adopted by many way, way outside of the patriarchal world. Not only adopted but embraced, promoted, explained away. This week there has been quite a discussion going on in the blogsphere on the idea of sexual consent because of last Sunday's episode of "Game of Thrones" and the reaction of the writer and director over the outcry over the sexual encounter shown between two of the main characters. … [Read more...]

Why Purity Culture Doesn’t Teach Consent

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’m a Star Trek fan, and yes– it’s related. I grew up watching Star Trek loyally, and I’m pretty sure Captain Kathryn Janeway is one of the few reasons why I managed to be somewhat normal. So, when Enterprise began airing, I watched every single episode, and Phlox, a Denobulan doctor, quickly became one of my favorites. “The Breach” is one of the few episodes dedicated to his character, and it explores an ethical dilemma: … [Read more...]

Announcements With a Little Begging on the Side

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been kicking around the idea of a new project for a little while now, and after exploring the idea with some close friends, family, and a few of my internet peeps, I’ve decided that it might actually be a good idea and might be worth going full speed ahead with. … [Read more...]


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