Quoting Quiverfull: Chastity Belts?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Is it Wrong For My Christian Husband to Make Me Wear a Chastity Belt? - not linking directly but this is the top article on Biblical Gender Roles.com if you must read.Editor's note This quoted piece is not written by Larry but by a woman writing to him for advice on the Biblicalness of  chastity belts. In the unquoted bits Larry comes out that he considers chastity belts a sin and no woman should wear on, no matter how much she may want to wear it. He goes on to say masturbation is no sin either. Has anyone heard anything else about the wearing of chastity belts in the CPM? … [Read more...]

What are you Doing? Chapter 8 Part 3 – Sakal Still Just Wants to be Right

by Suzanne TitkemeyerPreparing to read the rest of this chapter again makes me feel like I need to run away to a place of lollipops, lemon drop martinis and lagoons, peaceful and calm. There's nothing more disturbing than a 'Good Christian Patriarch' that thinks he's the only one who is right. Except maybe that ongoing televised goat rodeo that is the Republican National Convention. I think Vaughn Ohlman and Donald Trump might have some crazy ideas in common. … [Read more...]

Larry Dixon Says Premarital Sex is Abnormal, Unnatural, and Definitely Not Fun

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThose of us raised within the confines of the Evangelical ghetto have vivid memories of preachers telling us that certain sins were not fun, pleasurable, or enjoyable. Smoking weed? Drinking booze? Masturbating? Copping a feel on the back of the church bus? Making out with the preacher’s daughter? Running through the third base coach’s stop sign and sliding into home? Hanging out with “worldly” school friends? Going to the dance? Going to the prom? Such behaviors are sins against the thrice holy God, says the preacher down at First Baptist Church. Hoping that good old-fashioned Evangelical guilt and fear wi … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 7 – Pornographers and Queers Want to Molest Your Children?

by Rebekah Pearl Anast and Gabriel Anast from No Greater Joy – Safeguarding Your ChildrenEditor's note: Then this entire contradictory hot mess takes an entirely different turn, away from porn and towards not giving in sexual temptation. Which is way different than avoiding being molested or having your mind sullied by a Victoria's Secret or International Male catalog. Theme of the next three bits is: 'wait for your wedding night to have sex and you'll be blessed' with the usual high amount of slut shaming thrown. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 8

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue text.On a serious note, this post may be triggering for abuse or trauma victims.It's time for BIBLE BABBLE starring Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin!In previous episodes, our gracious hostesses have told us about why women have no agency outside of men, why loving your brothers means your literal biological brothers, why Biblical heroines are following the Botkin plan with a special emphasis on Abigail and Bathsheba, and their personal obsession with the Proverbs 7 woman. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 7

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book appear in blue text.Chapter 7 is titled "The Heart: Victim or Perpetrator - Getting Your Heart to Follow You".This chapter crystallizes a market-share problem that the Botkin Family hasn't quite solved yet.  The number of people who are willing and able to buy a Christian Patriarchy book is a set, limited market. To get the best returns on the investment in the book, the Botkins need to attract as many sub-divisions of the Christian Patriarchy, Quiverfull and Christian Homeschooling groups as possible.  The Botkin Sisters' first book "So Much More" was published in 2005 … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why Hand Holding in Courtship is a Slippery Slope to Sin?

by Anonymous from their blog Necessarily Anonymous - How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Arranged Marriages Part 2Editor's note: This is a newer quiverfull marry 'em off while they are young once daddy picks the spouse blogger I found through our old pal Vaughn Ohlman. I'm always dismayed to see Christians so hung up on every single small thing that they have to stop, study scripture and then extrapolate what they've read into ever more strict rules and don'ts. That type of legalism is a killer. It doesn't 'save' people from sin, it only makes them sneak around in a guilty fashion. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Defile Someone’s Future Spouse?

by Ray Alcorn from Eternal Perspective Ministries - 23 Guidelines to Protect Your Purity in DatingEditor's note: This seems to be a new idea popping up in fundamentalist Christianity that you have to keep your love-interest somehow 'pure' for their future husband or wife. A bunch of extra Biblical extrapolation is what it seems like from here.  Are these 'Good Christian' guys afraid someone might gain enough experience to judge them against and find them lacking? Or is this simply another attempt to control someone else because Bible? … [Read more...]