It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 7

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book appear in blue text.Chapter 7 is titled "The Heart: Victim or Perpetrator - Getting Your Heart to Follow You".This chapter crystallizes a market-share problem that the Botkin Family hasn't quite solved yet.  The number of people who are willing and able to buy a Christian Patriarchy book is a set, limited market. To get the best returns on the investment in the book, the Botkins need to attract as many sub-divisions of the Christian Patriarchy, Quiverfull and Christian Homeschooling groups as possible.  The Botkin Sisters' first book "So Much More" was published in 2005 … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why Hand Holding in Courtship is a Slippery Slope to Sin?

by Anonymous from their blog Necessarily Anonymous - How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Arranged Marriages Part 2Editor's note: This is a newer quiverfull marry 'em off while they are young once daddy picks the spouse blogger I found through our old pal Vaughn Ohlman. I'm always dismayed to see Christians so hung up on every single small thing that they have to stop, study scripture and then extrapolate what they've read into ever more strict rules and don'ts. That type of legalism is a killer. It doesn't 'save' people from sin, it only makes them sneak around in a guilty fashion. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Defile Someone’s Future Spouse?

by Ray Alcorn from Eternal Perspective Ministries - 23 Guidelines to Protect Your Purity in DatingEditor's note: This seems to be a new idea popping up in fundamentalist Christianity that you have to keep your love-interest somehow 'pure' for their future husband or wife. A bunch of extra Biblical extrapolation is what it seems like from here.  Are these 'Good Christian' guys afraid someone might gain enough experience to judge them against and find them lacking? Or is this simply another attempt to control someone else because Bible? … [Read more...]

Thou Shalt Not Touch: The Six Inch Rule

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are holding hands.The pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Holding Hands

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Is Romance In Dating A Sin?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Purity Rings Reflect Your Respect of God?

by Kristen Clark from A Lovely Calling (formerly Young Keepers of the Home) - Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?Editor's note: How you treat your purity is a display of your relationship with God? Sounds a little too too simplistic. Purity rings - What are your thoughts on those? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Touching Anyone You’re Not Married To?

by Dr. Peter Masters as published in the Metropolitan Tabernacle (London, England - IFB affiliated) publication  The Sword and Trowel 2012 - Mutual Debts in Marriage Editor's note: Ran across this piece on one of the many Facebook recovery groups. This article has some pretty appalling ideas of what 'debts' are owed between spouses in a marriage. … [Read more...]


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