Just Pray for Him: How the Christian Church Refuses to Hold Abusive Men Accountable

June 13, 2012 By 48 Comments
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By Lisa Kroulik ©   Cross posted with permission from Hub Pages – http://nybride710.hubpages.com/hub/How-the-Christian-Church-is-Failing-Abused-Women   One of the more difficult things to recover from during the process of divorce from my narcissistic ex-husband was the treatment I received from other Christians. To be fair, none of it was intentionally mean-spirited and all of these people [...]

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Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

June 12, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Melissa Permission To Live Almost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got [...]

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Baptist Taliban Part 1 – Introduction

June 12, 2012 By 13 Comments

by Cindy Foster Editors note: Please welcome Baptist Taliban to our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! She will be writing a new series for us. REASONS In order to add some context to the articles I have written on this blog I want to designate a page to summarize our story from beginning to end. [...]

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Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

June 8, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Incongruous Circumspection Bill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply [...]

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Rebuilding

June 4, 2012 By 12 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser Nine years have passed since I preached my last sermon, since my wife was called the “pastor’s wife.” Almost four years have passed since my wife and I determined to stop attending church. We are now among the “unchurched”, casualties of a life spent in Evangelical Christianity. Worse yet, at least according [...]

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