Exploring Trust in Forgiveness (What can we learn from the tragic death of Braxton Caner)

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace A Reposting from the blog series on forgiveness, repentance and reconciliation from 2012.  What can we learn from tragedy - the loss of Braxton Caner?  What hidden lessons can we find? ~~~  The Importance of Trust-building in Forgiveness … [Read more...]

The Place Where Light Enters

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by AJ from her blog I Am Phoenix A friend shared with me the other day a bit of wisdom that hit a thirsty place in my soul. It has soaked into my skin, and I hear it beside me each time I turn my head. So I thought I would share it with you here today."The wound is the place where the Light enters." - RumiThat is all. … [Read more...]

Why I Haven’t “Given Up On The Church”

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by Living Liminal from her blog Living LiminalThis morning, I read an article entitled Why You Shouldn’t Give up on the Church.The author is the son of a 'famous' christian. I am a 'nobody' in that particular world.He thinks "church is messy by nature." I have found it not messy, but dangerous.He says, "it’s where Jesus’ people are connected." I find I can connect with Jesus's people wherever I meet them.He opines that, "To leave the Church is to hurt yourself and to hurt others." I left because it was the only way to stop the hurt.His judgement: "leaving the Church... is escapism." My experience: leaving the institution was the only way to escape the abuse. … [Read more...]

Submissive No More

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I am PhoenixI have had this huge epiphany in the last couple of weeks. My discovery:-It is OK to express anger in healthy ways, even if this means yelling.-Forced female to male submission is abusive. When a man yells at a woman and doesn't "allow" her to defend herself or yell back, that is abuse.I am realizing for the first time in my life that my lifelong habit of never raising my voice in anger, even when someone is screaming at me and being abusive...possibly isn't as healthy as I thought it was.It was my mother flipping out on me over the phone and email this past month that triggered this epiphany. … [Read more...]

It’s Life Jim, But Not As We Knew It

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalWe've reached a milestone.It's been one and a half years since my husband and I decided we couldn't take it any more.18 months since we officially said, "No More!"No more pain. No more abuse.And we walked away from life as we'd known it.Away from 'going to church'. Away from 'doing' church. Away from an institution that used to mean safety, security, religious observances - but  had come to represent wounding and rejection and judgment and grief and fear and heartbreak and loss. … [Read more...]

Stages of Leaving a Diseased Culture (Considering Homeschooling)

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceLeaving a “worldview” like the high demand end of Christian homeschooling usually happens in stages because we're trained to defend our Sacred Science at all costs. Sometimes we get stuck. And sometimes, we don't realize that we're only half way out.Some of the elements of the belief system, that worldview's sacred cows, are easy to give up. Some lead to our disillusionment. Some created pain for us while living fully according to the worldview. Those are easy to give up. We're usually relieved. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: What Happens to the Preyed Upon?

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Remember that awful mea culpa of the youth pastor who'd been caught committing statutory rape with girl at his church as published in Christianity Today? The furor was so immediate and passionate that the story was eventually removed from all media outlets that published it.Now someone who was taken advantage by a youth pastor as an under legal age young woman with body image issues has stepped forward to tell what it's like to be on the receiving end of a sexual predator in t … [Read more...]

Keeping the “Unity of the Body” Without Being a Martyr: You Have the Right to Protect Yourself

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Seeking The LightHow emotionally triggering has the last week or so been? So triggering that last night I had to post this on my Facebook wall: "Dear Former Fellow Church Members From Raccoon Ford Christian Fellowship - If you are not currently on my friends list and someone I actually still have a positive relationship with please do not send me a friends request. If you behaved hatefully towards me when I left the church I really have no desire to be 'friends' now. I've moved on." … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – Dysfunctional Personalities

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerI found this list of what the likely personality flaws children of alcoholics develop and it struck me that the list isn't just about alcoholism. It could apply to many different types of dysfunction, people raised in extreme religion, with toxic parents, workaholics, drug addicts, whatever. It works for a laundry list of dysfunction. … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame: Part 3 Sexaltation

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog Kaleesha WilliamsI've heard so many sermons about sexual temptation, so much focus there, but they are occasionally balanced with messages about how holy and pure sex is within marriage.  Within marriage only.  Imagine, "Sex is sinful, evil, wicked...  Oh, now you're married--okay, you're free to enjoy yourselves!"   I wonder, what does a piece of paper or a pronunciation of "man and wife" actually change about the messages we've received all our lives regarding sex?  (Or about relationships in general.  Marriage is a very interesting institution, but I shan't go there now.) … [Read more...]


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