Day 16 of 21 Days of Healing: Get a Bigger Bucket

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsGod delights in you. (Brain work.)Day 16By now, you probably have figured out what’s coming today. Yep, that’s right. What are the big things you want to do?All my life I have wanted to see the Grand Canyon. Guess what? Last spring we went. The Grand Canyon, Zion National Park, Arches National Park, The Petrified Forest, Sedona, the Rocky Mountains and much more. What beauty! What majesty! We were awed. And delighted. We came home with something like 14,000 pictures between our camera, phone cameras, and two iPads. Absolute splendor. … [Read more...]

Late Bloomer

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThere are a number of life events that I have arrived at quite late in the game. The biggest life event has been marriage. And there are a few milestones in life I have avoided altogether, such as motherhood, even though most females my age have looked forward to and reached this milestone long ago. … [Read more...]

Day 12 of 21 Days of Healing: God, Where Are You?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThe Lord is the strength of my life. Do you sense that your thoughts are becoming more positive as you focus on the truth of God’s love and presence in your life? (Brain change.)Day 12When I had my first spiritually abusive experience, I remember being so positive. The pastor at my first abusive church was upset that I was stepping away from assisting with worship/music preparation for a few months. He knew there would be questions about why I was taking a break and he feared that without my help, the music would suffer and he and the associate pastor would not look as good. So, when he spoke against me to the elders, saying th … [Read more...]

Day 9 of 21 Days of Healing: No Strings Attached

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that you may have life, and have it more abundantly.” John 10:10I hope you focus on this verse today because if you have suffered spiritual abuse, you have encountered a thief intent on stealing, killing, and destroying you. So cling to the life that Jesus gives – abundant life!And that’s what today’s post is about, too. … [Read more...]

Why Am I Not Surprised?

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsI wasn’t going to post anything but the 21 Days of Healing series until after it was done, but seriously, this just deserves to be posted.When I was tossed out of my church, a “friend” from the church (who still spies on me by following this blog) invited me that next week to have coffee with her. We spent several hours at a coffee bar the next town south of where the church is located talking about what was happening. … [Read more...]

Part 3 – Navigating the Justice System: As a Young Adult

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist In Spite Of ThemPlease see also Navigating the Justice System Part 1: Alone at Age 9 and Navigating the Justice System: When my Parents Went to CourtWhen I was about 17, I moved out. Once it was truly clear to me that what happened in my home was abusive and not normal I decided to try to end the abuse for everyone. I started making regular calls to Children's Aid on my father. … [Read more...]

Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World Part 5 – Confessions of a Quiverfull Hero

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[Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughters by the former-Quiverfull moms at No Longer Quivering.]by Daisy I was only 19 when I arrived at Christianity’s door, bruised and highly impressionable and, because of my family situation, determined to do a better job of sorting out my life than my parents had done. Victims of abuse in their own homes, my parents had learned very early to dissociate from their emotions. Our home was an emotionally sterile one and, although I know now that this is not true, as as child I believed my parents did not love me. I decided that when *I* had kids, if they grew up knowing nothing else, they would know for sure that I loved them more than bre … [Read more...]

Revisiting Steadfast Daughters in a Quivering World Part 2 – Expectations

by Vyckie Garrison Along with appeals to "sincerity," many Quiverfull parents, when their children push back, will be tempted to minimize abusive parenting practices by pointing out that "there are no perfect parents." It's true ... we ALL screw up! But when things don't work out so well for those of us who presumed to lead and to offer up ourselves and our children as examples of a "godly family" for other Christian families to follow, we don't all the sudden get the luxury of obscurity, we don't get to blend in with the crowd of imperfect people. "To whom much is given, much will be required." [Note: this series is dedicated to Quivering Daughters by the former-Quiverfull moms at No L … [Read more...]

Exploring Trust in Forgiveness (What can we learn from the tragic death of Braxton Caner)

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace A Reposting from the blog series on forgiveness, repentance and reconciliation from 2012.  What can we learn from tragedy - the loss of Braxton Caner?  What hidden lessons can we find? ~~~  The Importance of Trust-building in Forgiveness … [Read more...]

The Place Where Light Enters

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by AJ from her blog I Am Phoenix A friend shared with me the other day a bit of wisdom that hit a thirsty place in my soul. It has soaked into my skin, and I hear it beside me each time I turn my head. So I thought I would share it with you here today."The wound is the place where the Light enters." - RumiThat is all. … [Read more...]


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