Father Forgive Them…

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI was angry last night!The big, green, Incredible Hulk type of anger.This morning it's the quietly sickened and disgusted type.Why? … [Read more...]

Insanity in the Church

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalMy ex-husband's way of dealing with relationship breakdown was just to walk away and pretend it had never happened.Despite the many times I asked him to meet with me and deal with the reality of what had happened between us, he refused. He wanted to walk away and get on with the fun he was having (i.e. an affair) If he didn't have to face reality, he could convince himself that he'd done nothing wrong and so there was nothing to deal with. If I was hurt, that was my problem. … [Read more...]

The Curse of Being Bound to an Image

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIt's been over nine years since I left my parents and over time my perception of how much progress I've made in my life has changed many times, fluctuating between sometimes thinking I am doing a terrible job at being an adult and sometimes thinking I am doing well. Through some enlightening conversations I've had recently with my friend James, who is in my cohort of ex-fundamentalists, I've come to realize that in spite of everything that I re-evaluated and realized since I left, I missed a very important thing. (I am not going to say that I missed one very important thing because I am sure that there are other t … [Read more...]

The Loneliness of Those Who Leave the Church

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser From your earliest recollection you remember the church. You remember the preacher, the piano player, the deacons, and your Sunday School teacher. You remember the youth group and all the fun activities. You remember getting saved and baptized. You remember being in church every time the doors were open. You remember everything in your life revolving around the church. … [Read more...]

Rejected But Free! (What Price Acceptance?)

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalAs anyone who's visited my Facebook Page could tell you, I read a lot of blogs. That's who I am. I read, I ponder, I process. A lot. It's how I'm made. (Apparently, some people believe "thinking too much" is a sin - but that's another story...)Anyway I recently came across a post by Andy Gill entitled Escaping Evangelicalism. But it was the subtitle that caught my eye, "The Process of Healing from Spiritual and Theological Abuse".In it, he talks about his struggle to fit in: … [Read more...]

Things That Matter!

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI'm not sure why it got to me yesterday.After all the times I've had elder J's wife walk past me at school or at the shops in the past two years... all the times she's refused to acknowledge I even exist... all the times she's suddenly been fascinated with the thin air in the opposite direction from where I was...despite all the times I've begged J and his wife to talk through our issues... … [Read more...]

Self Esteem, Self Efficacy and the Locus of Control

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by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceEditor's note: This was written in response to some of the discussion over Cynthia Jeub's blog posts. That is not why I am sharing it here. This is something that everyone in recovery from spiritual abuse or religious trauma syndrome could benefit from watching and thinking about the issues brought forth.Religious lifestyles that demand a great deal of conformity can create a lot of relationship tension as children venture into adulthood as those adult children begin to make their own choices about life and belief.  If there is too much reliance on the identity of the family of origin or if the family demands the adult to … [Read more...]

It’s a New Year, and it’s Going to be Perfect (Because I Said So)

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by Nora Woodhouse cross posted from her blog A Heart Like Mine originally posted on 12-27-13 It's a couple days after Christmas and we are about to come into the New Year. I don't know about you but it's about this time of year where I start to feel an urge to plan for next year, and all the awesome things I am going to do, how much self change I want to set out to attain and how this New Year will be perfect. Cue the obsessive scrolling of Pinterest and creating boards and New Years resolutions left and right. I think "oh won't this be wonderful" and get a sort of New Years resolution happiness spike that will eventually result in a crash, burn and lots of tears. Perhaps even a wallop o … [Read more...]

Day 19 of 21 Days of Healing: Self-Care

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts“His love endures forever.” (Thought suggestion for today.)As I am writing this, it is the day after Thanksgiving, 2014. Black Friday. My husband left shortly after 4 AM to pick up my son and go shopping. (For shop vacs, ladders, scaffolding, and an iPhone.) Me? I stayed home. … [Read more...]

Day 16 of 21 Days of Healing: Get a Bigger Bucket

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsGod delights in you. (Brain work.)Day 16By now, you probably have figured out what’s coming today. Yep, that’s right. What are the big things you want to do?All my life I have wanted to see the Grand Canyon. Guess what? Last spring we went. The Grand Canyon, Zion National Park, Arches National Park, The Petrified Forest, Sedona, the Rocky Mountains and much more. What beauty! What majesty! We were awed. And delighted. We came home with something like 14,000 pictures between our camera, phone cameras, and two iPads. Absolute splendor. … [Read more...]


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