Quoting Quiverfull: Disagreeing With Pastor – You Should Suck It Up and Shut Up?

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At 9Marks - What should I do if I disagree with something my pastor said?There are other steps that seem much more rational that this one, number 5 on the list. … [Read more...]

What I Got By Going To Church

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIt happened again. Talking to a friend, I was asked, "Where are you going to church now?""No where.""Oh, Ellen, you need to go to church! How are you going to grow? You need the fellowship of other believers!" … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 6

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThough we never had a meeting with Elliot or the leadership, I was again asked to teach a class and was also helping with a conference that our church was hosting in the spring.  When it came time for the conference, I had an opportunity to sit down with the speaker for a few minutes and, being a man of great discernment, he asked me some leading questions and I found myself telling him a bit of my story. … [Read more...]

Reunion

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsIn the early 1980s I was in college, living on fraternity/sorority row.  But it wasn't a sorority house.  It was the local branch of Maranatha Christian Churches/Campus Ministries founded by Bob and Rose Weiner.  As I have described here and here, Maranatha was a Christian group with strong authoritarian control.   We lived in the Maranatha House and went to church in the meeting room of that house, and we slept on the sleeping porches on the third floor and tried to get our homework done or hold down our jobs, despite endless outreach meetings, prayer meetings and other Maranatha obligations. … [Read more...]

A Dusty Letter

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (And Found) Mind of Kaleesha Williams This afternoon while Denny and I were rearranging our bedroom a bit, I found a dusty letter on a shelf. I recognized my own handwriting. Well, it’s always interesting to come across notes of a writer tucked away here and there, even if the writer is myself. I’m a curious sort. I dusted it off and read it aloud to Denny. It was addressed to my heavenly father, Yahweh. (And like a good girl I’d written the date on it.) … [Read more...]

The Place Where Light Enters

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by AJ from her blog I Am Phoenix A friend shared with me the other day a bit of wisdom that hit a thirsty place in my soul. It has soaked into my skin, and I hear it beside me each time I turn my head. So I thought I would share it with you here today."The wound is the place where the Light enters." - RumiThat is all. … [Read more...]

Why I Haven’t “Given Up On The Church”

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by Living Liminal from her blog Living LiminalThis morning, I read an article entitled Why You Shouldn’t Give up on the Church.The author is the son of a 'famous' christian. I am a 'nobody' in that particular world.He thinks "church is messy by nature." I have found it not messy, but dangerous.He says, "it’s where Jesus’ people are connected." I find I can connect with Jesus's people wherever I meet them.He opines that, "To leave the Church is to hurt yourself and to hurt others." I left because it was the only way to stop the hurt.His judgement: "leaving the Church... is escapism." My experience: leaving the institution was the only way to escape the abuse. … [Read more...]

Speaking Up About Sexual Abuse

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI am at the point in my life now where for the last several months, I have felt safe enough to process the past.  Although I was sexually abused when I was a child, I didn’t tell my family then or as an adult. I kept quiet because I was threatened with hell and the devil when I was a kid. I was so traumatized, I pushed most of the memories away and didn’t think about them for over 30 years. Now that I haven't been a Christian for over a year, I've lost my fear of hell and devil, and I finally feel unthreatened and able to process the abuse. … [Read more...]

Brave New Life: Part 4: An Overcast Summer

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveThis post is part of a series, click here to start with the introduction.The grapevine raged and the news was spreading fast. Random people who hadn’t been in touch over the last 7 years suddenly sent us long involved email lectures on how wrong we were, and how much they cared about us, and how could we do this to people who cared about us? At first we tried to respond to them, answering their questions, and explaining as best we could. But when it became clear that most of them had no actual interest in our experience, but just wanted to be a spokesperson for their idea of god, we got better at discerning which confrontations t … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? – How to Recognize and Respond to “Mean” Christians

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From Charisma Magazine by Richard M. Salazar Jr. - 5 Signs of a Mean-Spirited Leader I was astounded when a close friend of mine recently forwarded a tweet to me sent out by Dr. Chuck Swindoll a few months back that read, "The problem with mean Christians is that not enough people have confronted them and told them to get lost!" … [Read more...]


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