To Stand Up and Speak: The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blog Network

by Melissa Permission to LiveMy sister was the one who introduced me to No Longer Quivering. She didn’t actually mean to, she told me she was reading a website called Quivering Daughters, and when I googled it I found No Longer Quivering instead. I wanted to make sure that this was a good thing for a Christian to read, and so I looked around for what the conservative Christian community was saying about the website, and read that the founder of the site was a raving atheist and a lesbian. Of course neither claim was true, I believe at that point Vyckie Garrison was only questioning her faith, and even though she now considers herself an atheist, I have never experienced to her to b … [Read more...]

Hot Pink A & ‘Good’ Christian Disapproval – SASBN

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by CaluluI've been putting off doing my introductory piece for No Longer Quivering's Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network because I was stuck in writers block land. That fun place were you can't put a finger to the keyboard and come up with any that makes any sense at all on certain subjects.  Besides, my blog is more boring day to day with a dash of gluten free recipes posted and the odd commentary on something from my old church life. I'm not intellectually dissecting harmful spiritual beliefs. I leave that to those more intelligent and less ADD than myself. So I never felt like I could contribute as much as the others to the SASBN.I do talk frequently about my friend Josie's … [Read more...]

Pornography and the Fundy

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by Calulu(Warning, possibly triggering and some of the links are of the not safe for work variety.)Recently I started thinking about pornography. Not that I was partaking it in, it's never done anything for me. I might as well be looking at a pile of rutabagas or dirty socks. It is what it is, but it never did much to make me experience sexual feelings of excitement. But then again, I did grow up in New Orleans, with its capacious amounts of ever present sex shops, hookers, strip clubs and just general debauchery. I was jaded about such things by the age of eighteen and have never viewed them as erotic in any way.Plus I understand the Feminist views on pornography objectifying … [Read more...]

Baptist Taliban: Part 3

by Cindy FosterTHE CHURCH WE WEREThe Preacher and his wife graduated from Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri. At the time he attended there, the college was quite conservative. There were strict rules about dress, dating, curfews, entertainment, music and much more.The Preacher actually grew up in Springfield and was a member of a church that was not nearly as rigid in its standards as the college was, so in the beginning of his ministry as pastor, he did not have the extreme beliefs that he eventually embraced later in his ministry.It was several years after the church had started and was established with its own building that the more relaxed climate began … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network: The Fine Print …

The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network is open to all bloggers who are survivors of spiritual abuse regardless of what faith tradition they come from or where they are at now spirituality-wise.Part of the success of the SASBN is our willingness to cooperatively work together and cross-promote the blogs and blog posts of other network participants. Individual members are encouraged to post links to the SASBN member blogs on the sidebar of their blogs and link to, crosspost, or discuss SASBN articles as a source of blogging material and discussion topics.It is not required, however, to link to every blog in the network. We are aware that the diversity of the Spiritual Abuse … [Read more...]

SASBN Blogging Tips: Should I use my real name, or blog anonymously, when writing about spiritual abuse?

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by Vyckie GarrisonThis is the first question every spiritual abuse survivor should consider before writing about your personal story online.Most of us go back and forth, weighing the benefits and potential risks, before making the decision either to use our real names or write anonymously. Here's a list of considerations which will help you determine the best choice for you:Real Name Pros:Greatly increases the credibility of your story.No worries about being "outed."You will be able to do TV interviews, YouTube videos, accept speaking invitations, etc.Much less confusing!No need for an additional "anonymous" email address or Facebook page.Allows you to … [Read more...]

Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

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by Melissa Permission To LiveAlmost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got married, and I still dutifully tried to keep the house immaculate and dinner on the table by the time he walked in the door. I read lots of books on marriage and childrearing, and I gave some of them away too. I remember in particular giving away copies of “To Train up a Child” and “Be Fruitful and Multiply”. I did my best to live up to the ideas I found in the Bible, the Christian books and magazines I read, an … [Read more...]

Baptist Taliban Part 1 – Introduction

by Cindy FosterEditors note: Please welcome Baptist Taliban to our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! She will be writing a new series for us.REASONSIn order to add some context to the articles I have written on this blog I want to designate a page to summarize our story from beginning to end.It is my hope, as it has always been, to expose not only the wrongs that The Preacher was guilty of, but to own the actual wrongs we committed as opposed to what The Preacher has stated publicly using skilled innuendo and out-right public accusations.Since it is obvious that sides have been chosen between our family and The Preacher’s, the resulting division and e … [Read more...]

Join the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network!

About the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs NetworkWelcome Spiritual Abuse Survivors!We are here to assist one another to amplify the voices of spiritual abuse survivors by growing blog readership and raising awareness of the issue of spiritual abuse.Bloggers who wish to join the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network must meet the following criteria:You must be a survivor of spiritual abuse. (Obviously!)You must have a blog - the topic of your blog, however, does not necessarily have to be exclusively about spiritual abuse. It would be great if you share part or all of your story on your blog, but it is not a requirement.That's it. We like to keep things simple. … [Read more...]

About The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network

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The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network is a project of Vyckie Garrison and the guest writers at No Longer Quivering.The network began when Vyckie noticed that NLQ forum member, Libby Anne, seemed to be doing a lot of processing of her quiverfull experience through frequent posts and comments. She encouraged Libby Anne to write her story for NLQ - which she did - and in the process, discovered that she loves blogging!Around that time, due to on-going health issues, Vyckie was struggling to keep the No Longer Quivering site updated and rarely was able to write any new content herself. Recognizing Libby Anne's blogging potential as an opportunity to continue raising awareness of … [Read more...]


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