Self-Preservation Factor

Raised Quiverfull: Living the Life Part 1

June 25, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 1 Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. Question 1: [...]

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Dispelled: Part 10

June 24, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 3 Comments

chandra

by Chandra It didn’t take long for myself and Darren’s lengthy friendship to turn from dating to committed to one another. We were very much in love, and our voluminous email correspondence had already paved the ground for much of our relationship. I was so happy- I had met the man that I had been [...]

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Millipede: Part 10

June 22, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

bankruptcy

by Millipede In face of these events, I found work. Once I overcame my husband’s reluctance to enter the workforce, he seemed to accept the situation. He drove me to pick up applications. He still held to his Patriarchal beliefs, but in light of our situation, he got over issue of my returning to the [...]

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Baptist Taliban: Part 3

June 18, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

by Cindy Foster THE CHURCH WE WERE The Preacher and his wife graduated from Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri. At the time he attended there, the college was quite conservative. There were strict rules about dress, dating, curfews, entertainment, music and much more. The Preacher actually grew up in Springfield and was a member [...]

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Millipede: Part 9

June 16, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

dark wave

by Millipede That what was forgotten…. All this time though a dark wave was cresting over our existence. Through the years as my husband gained weight until he was morbidly obese, health problems cropped up, some requiring hospitalization. As you can guess the bills started coming in. While he was able to pay some of [...]

Filed Under: Accountability, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Gender Equality, Homemaking, Homemaking Skills, Homesteading, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Maintaining Appearances, Male Headship, Marriage Covenant, Meek and Quiet Spirit, Mental / Emotional Health, Millipede, Mr. Command Man, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Preservation Factor, Shame, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Titus 2 Woman, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel Tagged With: Accountability, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, boundaries, gender equality, Homemaking, Homemaking Skills, Homesteading, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Maintaining Appearances, male headship, Marriage Covenant, meek and quiet spirit, Mental / Emotional Health, Millipede, Mr. Command Man, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Preservation Factor, Shame, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, titus 2 woman, toxic relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vesse 7 Comments

Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

Listen to Vyckie's Story now:

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