Self-Preservation Factor

Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

June 12, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 5 Comments

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by Melissa Permission To Live Almost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Questioning, Q. 2

June 11, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. What first [...]

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Snipped! Part 6: The Fun Little Church

June 8, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 3 Comments

by Incongruous Circumspection Bill Gothard’s weekly marriage class was run by Pastor John Hartzell and his young protégé, Chuck Raichert in a little Independent Fundamental Baptist Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Normandale Baptist was the name. The seminar was called Rebuilder’s and was all about loving Jesus Christ so much that your husband or wife simply [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Questioning, Q. 1

June 7, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 2 Comments

by Libby Anne Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. How were you first exposed to “mainstream” American culture? [...]

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Justice is No Lady: Chapter 11: Jack, the One I Lost

June 6, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 16 Comments

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by Tess Willoughby When Jack was just a baby, Nate had rejected Jack’s personality, and had set out to beat and berate it out of him. When Jack reached middle school age, or perhaps a little bit before, the seeds that his father had planted suddenly sprouted. Jack began to come unraveled. “Something is wrong [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

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