On Disguising Logical Fallacies in ‘Feminist’ Arguments

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons While the following may not be a completely universal experience, in my experience it tends to be a common one: when a rape victim starts talking about their experience (especially on the internet), inevitably someone somewhere is going to say something along the lines of “you need to take responsibility for your own choices that led to this.” And then they are shocked– shocked, I say– when someone responds with “stop victim blaming us.” After all, how could they be victim blaming? Didn’t you just hear them argue for agency and autonomy? They are the real feminist in this conversation because real feminists “acknowledge that … [Read more...]

I Dated Christian Grey

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsEditor's note: Samantha wrote an excellent piece with the same title for The Mary Sue - I Dated Christian Grey that sparked some thought provoking dialogue in the comments. Loved this bit: All of this is what happens in the early stages of any abusive relationship, especially with an abuser who uses “BDSM” to disguise his intentions. Victims are instructed by their abusers to view the abuse as normal, and normalcy asspecial. Anastasia Steele and I were so brave any time we dared to “stand up” to him, and Christian and my abuser were so unbelievably wonderful for having brief moments of normal human decency. The danger in  … [Read more...]

Bob Jones University Ignored Sexual Abuse for Decades

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: Welcome back to the world of blogging. Bruce, you've been sorely missed.)Under attack over their handling of sexual abuse and rape complaints, fundamentalist Christian university, Bob Jones University, hired GRACE (Godly Response for Abuse in the Christian Environment), to do an investigation.  Towards the end of the investigation, Bob Jones ended its contractual arrangement with GRACE and refused to allow any report to be issued. The outrage over this was such that Bob Jones was forced to re-contract with GRACE and the report has now been released. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 177-206 “Can We___?”

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I knew before I sat down to read today’s chapter that it had been the one that people found controversial, but I wasn’t familiar with why it had upset some—and I have to admit that even after reading it I still wasn’t sure why it had apparently caused a hubbub. To me, it seemed as though Mark was toeing the conservative evangelical line pretty well. I mean, he was clearly “being Mark,” but he didn’t say anything that I wouldn’t have expected from a lot of other evangelical leaders. … [Read more...]

News: Bill Gothard Cleared of Criminal Behavior

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Surprise, surprise, the board investigation into the alleged sexual harassment and abuse of the young ladies working at Bill Gothard's ministry, ATI, says that what Bill did was 'inappropriate' but not 'criminal'This is according to the Chicago media outlet the Chicago Sun-Times - Ex-head of religious group acted inappropriately, not criminally: investigation A board investigation of the former president of a controversial Oak Brook-based religious and home-schooling organization, who resigned following allegations he sexually harassed teen girls, concluded he acted in an “inappropriate manner.” … [Read more...]

News: Parents Hide Sexual Abuse of Girl For Ten Years

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It's ironic that Great Homeschool Conventions will not allow Ryan Stollar of HARO and Homeschoolers Anonymous to speak at their convention but they are likely to defend people like the Jackson family of Perquimans County, North Carolina. Better to protect even abusers than allow someone advocating for the rights of homeschool children. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Deserve Rape?

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by Pastor Dean Samuel in Raw Story quoted from his documentary and from the site Vice.com - Arizona Pastor: Women in yoga pants are 'partially responsible' for rape During the protest, Saxton held a sign reading, “You Deserve Rape.” And he shouted at women to “give up your immodest clothing” and “yoga pants are sin.” … [Read more...]

Cersei Lannister, Rape Culture, and a Lot of Me Flipping the Bird in General

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger Warning: Sexual violence I’ve read G. R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire up through Feast of Crows, and I’m currently reading Dance of Dragons, albeit slowly. The books are a struggle for me to read, as an abuse and rape survivor. I do enjoy them, although I caution people to engage with Martin’s world critically. He’s been hailed by a lot of people as a “feminist” writer, but I am extremely hesitant to think of him in those terms (read Sady Doyle’s piece there– it’s both hysterically funny and insightful). … [Read more...]

Patriarchal Ideas in Modern Culture: Game of Thrones and Sexual Consent

This might have been Dany's wedding night but there's still no much in the way of sexual consent going on.

by Suzanne TitkemeyerHow can we expect the ideas of sexual consent by women to be understood by people such as Chris Jeub when patriarchal fundamentalist ideas of rape and purity culture have been adopted by many way, way outside of the patriarchal world. Not only adopted but embraced, promoted, explained away.This week there has been quite a discussion going on in the blogsphere on the idea of sexual consent because of last Sunday's episode of "Game of Thrones" and the reaction of the writer and director over the outcry over the sexual encounter shown between two of the main characters. … [Read more...]

Lourdes Torres, Christian Homeschooling and Consent

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon an excellent example of what I was talking about when I wrote my “The Tale of Two Boxes” post several years ago. Homeschool leader Chris Jeub had this to say in a recent blog post titled “Patriarchy Has Got To Go“: In a nutshell, Phillips is being sued by his former nanny, someone he knew for over a decade and was very close to the Phillips family. Her lawyers have graphic details of Phillips forcing himself sexually, and Phillips’ lawyers are denying little of it, claiming “consensual” contact between adults.For those of us in the Christian homeschool community, this is just as bad as guilty. Phillips i … [Read more...]


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