Quoting Quiverfull: No Such Thing as Marital Rape?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Do Christian Wives Have to Submit to Bondage and Sadomasochistic Requests From Their Husbands?Editor's note: Not linking directly to this but it is the upper most post on Biblical Gender Roles right now. Larry spends most of the blog post speaking about how he thinks BDSM is sick and as perverted as he thinks homosexuality is. But really the decision to engage in BDSM and other sexual acts is strictly between the participants and again, it involves mutual consent. But then he starts making the case that there is no such thing as marital rape. He thinks it is just a case of physical abuse. Wonder what he'd think about it if the wife was … [Read more...]

Abandonment and Growing Flowers on Dark Islands

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming Worldly I was afraid. Of rejection, of being alone, of looking easy to say no to, part of an odd crew that doesn’t fit and crumbles easily. Of being the wounded fish in a tank of sharks. Of struggling with money and jobs and affording basic necessities and having nobody there. I was afraid of original sin, lack of success, my own frailty, little mistakes and big ones, of not getting things perfect enough to not be treated bad. Of writing the email and seeing the typo that outwardly proves I’m a moron and my ideas are crap, only noticed after hitting the send button. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Lying is A-Okay Biblical?

by InsanityBytes22 (one of Biblical Gender Roles many honeybadgers: ie one of the female commenters that pops up in his comments approving of every female-hating idea he posts) at her blog Insanity Bytes 2 -It's Okay to Fake it (Do Not Link linked)Editor's note: I will agree with her that good manners should happen, but if you've contemplated smothering your husband in the middle of the night perhaps being mannerly is not what needs to happen. Perhaps you should consider why you're feeling homicidal towards your spouse and work through that, or leave for his safety. Covering your feel with mouthing polite words merely wallpapers over dangerous volcanic feelings. Get help. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Ask Your Wife About Foreplay or Technique?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - How a Husband Can Enjoy Sex That is Grudgingly Give by His WifeEditor's note: This alone may be one of the worst pieces of marital advice given by this man. Of course you should talk about these things if something isn't going right in the bedroom instead of faking that it's wonderful. Eventually the fakee is going to be fed up and explode on the one insisting she fake it. Recipe for disaster like so much marriage advice given in the world of Evangelical Quiverfull. If you are doing it wrong and your wife tells you this you should listen! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Rape Victim Blaming at LAF?

by an unnamed editor at Ladies Against Feminism - Family Edge: You Can' Say That! Feminists Enraged at Rape VictimEditor's note: I know this is several weeks old but... as usual LAF takes every opportunity to slut shame rape victims. This time they used the outrage over The Pretenders Chrissy Hynde's words about her rape in her recent autobiography to drive home the point that they think if you weren't sober and dressed like a nun that you got what you deserved while bashing the feminist movement. I've refrained from bringing up Ms. Hydne's thoughts about her rape here because it always struck me more as the words of someone that has never emotionally dealt with or healed from what … [Read more...]

On Disguising Logical Fallacies in ‘Feminist’ Arguments

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons While the following may not be a completely universal experience, in my experience it tends to be a common one: when a rape victim starts talking about their experience (especially on the internet), inevitably someone somewhere is going to say something along the lines of “you need to take responsibility for your own choices that led to this.” And then they are shocked– shocked, I say– when someone responds with “stop victim blaming us.” After all, how could they be victim blaming? Didn’t you just hear them argue for agency and autonomy? They are the real feminist in this conversation because real feminists “acknowledge that … [Read more...]

I Dated Christian Grey

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsEditor's note: Samantha wrote an excellent piece with the same title for The Mary Sue - I Dated Christian Grey that sparked some thought provoking dialogue in the comments. Loved this bit: All of this is what happens in the early stages of any abusive relationship, especially with an abuser who uses “BDSM” to disguise his intentions. Victims are instructed by their abusers to view the abuse as normal, and normalcy asspecial. Anastasia Steele and I were so brave any time we dared to “stand up” to him, and Christian and my abuser were so unbelievably wonderful for having brief moments of normal human decency. The danger in  … [Read more...]

Bob Jones University Ignored Sexual Abuse for Decades

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: Welcome back to the world of blogging. Bruce, you've been sorely missed.)Under attack over their handling of sexual abuse and rape complaints, fundamentalist Christian university, Bob Jones University, hired GRACE (Godly Response for Abuse in the Christian Environment), to do an investigation.  Towards the end of the investigation, Bob Jones ended its contractual arrangement with GRACE and refused to allow any report to be issued. The outrage over this was such that Bob Jones was forced to re-contract with GRACE and the report has now been released. … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 177-206 “Can We___?”

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I knew before I sat down to read today’s chapter that it had been the one that people found controversial, but I wasn’t familiar with why it had upset some—and I have to admit that even after reading it I still wasn’t sure why it had apparently caused a hubbub. To me, it seemed as though Mark was toeing the conservative evangelical line pretty well. I mean, he was clearly “being Mark,” but he didn’t say anything that I wouldn’t have expected from a lot of other evangelical leaders. … [Read more...]

News: Bill Gothard Cleared of Criminal Behavior

Surprise, surprise, the board investigation into the alleged sexual harassment and abuse of the young ladies working at Bill Gothard's ministry, ATI, says that what Bill did was 'inappropriate' but not 'criminal'This is according to the Chicago media outlet the Chicago Sun-Times - Ex-head of religious group acted inappropriately, not criminally: investigation A board investigation of the former president of a controversial Oak Brook-based religious and home-schooling organization, who resigned following allegations he sexually harassed teen girls, concluded he acted in an “inappropriate manner.” … [Read more...]


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