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Submission and Prison Cells: Part 2

June 16, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 3 Comments

by Melissa Permission to Live Click here for Part One Let me start by saying a sincere “I am sorry” to “Yellowbunnys” (whoever she was, and wherever she is now) and to all the other women I shamed that day. I was wrong. I was arrogant. I was hurtful. It is painful for me to even read [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Questioning Q. 3

June 15, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne (and friends) Cross posted from Love, Joy, Feminism. Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering [...]

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Millipede: Part 8

June 14, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 9 Comments

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by Millipede The next couple of years were what I would call the “golden years” of Patriarchy. By this I mean that we were living the Patriarchal dream, with the husband “leading” and providing and the wife keeping the home and being submissive. It was the apex of our journey; we were finally living the [...]

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Just Pray for Him: How the Christian Church Refuses to Hold Abusive Men Accountable

June 13, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 48 Comments

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By Lisa Kroulik © Cross posted with permission from Hub Pages – http://nybride710.hubpages.com/hub/How-the-Christian-Church-is-Failing-Abused-Women One of the more difficult things to recover from during the process of divorce from my narcissistic ex-husband was the treatment I received from other Christians. To be fair, none of it was intentionally mean-spirited and all of these people [...]

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Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

June 12, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 5 Comments

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by Melissa Permission To Live Almost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

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