Quoting Quiverfull: Social, Political & Culture War?

March 28, 2013 By 2 Comments
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From Gary Bauer of American Values and the Family Research Council “We are engaged in a social, political, and cultural war. There’s a lot of talk in America about pluralism. But the bottom line is somebody’s values will prevail. And the winner gets the right

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Quoting Quiverfull: Jinger Duggar Stays Put?

March 23, 2013 By 27 Comments
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From Radar Online – Jinger Duggar Can’t Get Away! Mom Michelle Says She Is NOT Moving To The Big City! Jinger Duggar had high hopes of getting out of her one horse town, but RadarOnline.com has exclusively

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Quoting Quiverfull: Better Preperation For The ‘Real World’?

February 15, 2013 By 7 Comments
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Mary Pride in Homeschooling World “Getting Started in Homeschooling” -undated Better Preparation for the Real World. Modern schools only seem normal to us because we have been brought up from birth to accept them. Actually, they are highly unnatural environments. Where else

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12 Reasons Why My Homeschooling Story Doesn’t Matter

February 14, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Becoming Worldly Homeschooling parents sometimes react badly to stories like mine. It’s generally the ones who see themselves as fighting an uphill battle with society, surrounded by enemies, feeling personally threatened when any problem

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Forming Boundaries Late in Life

May 3, 2012 By 6 Comments

by Latebloomer

Do any of these sound like you?

I have to always say yes to others, or else I am selfish.
I have to always hide my hurt, or else I am unloving.
I have to treat other people as faultless, or else I am holding a grudge.
I have to keep my wants and needs to myself, or else I am a burden to others.

People who experienced authoritarian parents tend to turn into adults with poor boundaries. They were trained for it their whole lives and can’t imagine another way of doing things. However, it’s an extremely unsatisfying and unsustainable way to live, don’t you think? But most importantly, it’s actually not what a loving person is like! For me, when I was in that mindset, my “loving” actions were actually motivated by obligation or guilt because I thought I didn’t really have a choice; I was just an actor.

Besides hindering me from showing real love based on real choice, this mindset also prevented me from ever feeling loved. My buried wants and needs were still there; I just expected any true friend to be hyper-vigilant to my emotional state and correctly guess my unexpressed wants/needs. I felt that anyone who didn’t put in that monumental effort didn’t really care about me. And when people hurt me, I didn’t give them a chance to repair the damage to the relationship; I either lied to myself and them by saying that I wasn’t hurt, or I expected them to realize the problem and fix it without being told. Obviously, it was really hard for anyone to break through those defenses to form a real and lasting connection with me, even if they wanted to.

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