Slut-Shaming Unmarried Pregnant Baptist Women

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserIt is commonly believed by most Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church members that unmarried members are virgins and that they do not masturbate or have lustful thoughts. Listening to preaching multiple times a week, daily reading the Bible and praying — along with cold showers — are sure antidotes for sexual sin. When the preacher’s daughter someday marries the deacon’s son, everyone will think that both of them are pure as the driven snow, with thoughts of only serving Jesus. This is the myth that is promoted in Baptist sermons, books, and on websites. It has no basis in reality, but people sure … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 2 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book in blue textWell, we have about 2.5 pages of reflection left on the Proverbs 7 woman - also known as the "Forbidden Woman".To get it out of my system now, let me start by pointing out that the Proverbs 7 woman is an adulteress which means she's a married woman who is having sexual intercourse with a man who is not her husband.  The Botkin Sisters application of this Bible section to causal relationships between unmarried men and women is at best overwrought and at worst a knowing misapplication of basic Biblical study.   As before, since most of the reflection is quotes from other portions of P … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog when Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the blue appear in blue text as alwaysChapter Six means we are halfway through this book!The chapter title is "Slaying the Inner Vamp: When the Female of the Species is More Deadly Than the Male." … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 5

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textNew chapter: Wounding Friends or Kissing Enemy? Reforming our Philosophy of RelationshipsAre "wounding friends" and "kissing enemies" two existing categories?  Are they mutually exclusive?  This doesn't bode well.... … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cover Up You Temptress?

by Lisa Jacobson as reposted by Daughters of the King - Avert Your EyesEditor's note: We've shared this piece of shaming and blaming before, but it bears revisiting in light of the sexual scandals in many churches and the budding rape culture in the worlds of fundamentalism, evangelical and quiverfull Christianity.  What about teaching young men to not think of women's bodies as pieces of meat meant for sex or sexual temptation, and to treat them like genuine people? Do you think that might end this sort of torment for this poor kid if he wasn't hyper-sexualized by purity culture? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So God Invented Clothing?

by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - The Bikini is Destroying the Christian Girl's View of ModestyEditor's note: First, it's been considered 'normal' to swim nude by most Europeans for a lot longer than the advent of the bikini. Europeans are much less sexualized or hung up on the idea of unclothed body parts. Also, correct me if I'm wrong but weren't Adam and Eve nude in the Garden of Eden until they ate from the tree of knowledge, which made them feel shame over their nakedness, leading to them donning leaves? God seemed totally cool with the two of them hanging out in their birthday suits in the garden. Their own shame led to the clothing, not God suddenly opening up a ancient Brooks … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet – Part 12: How Do I Need Thee? (Michael Turns Debi On) *Insert Puking Smiley Here*

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom MormonTrigger warning: You may have to use brain bleach after reading this about Michael's ideas of sex.Hello, everyone! I apologize for my sporadic posting, but I've been traveling to and from Spokane this past week. I'm back home now though, so things should be back on schedule.p55-57 Text is in purpleAlrighty! We are finally at the section we have all been waiting for. I hope you guys are ready for this. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Only Make Yourself Attractive While Husband-Hunting?

by Laurel  J. Davis from Whole Magazine - What a God-Fearing Man Really Wants From a WomanEditor's note: This starts off sort of okay with a church survey asking the men what they want in a wife but then takes a severe right-hand turn right into a word salad pile of modesty shaming/blaming liberally dressed in cognitive dissonance. Don't dress in anyway that calls attention to yourself but dress to catch the eye when you are husband hunting seems to be one of the major themes. Funny, the article does not say one thing about the men who were polled requesting that their women dress to these false modesty standards of the author. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Please Stop Kissing My Future Unknown Wife?

by an unknown author from To Save A Life - Please Stop Kissing My WifeEditor's note: More purity culture/rape culture garbage. Why is it this man is objecting to anyone possibly kissing his maybe future wife when it sounds like from his own descriptions of his dating life pre-Christ that he likely had a pile of booty calls. Why does the purity standard that calls women 'unwrapped licked candy bars' for normal expressions of romance like holding hands or kissing like they're some sort of Whore of Babylon and not treat the sexually experienced young men of the movement the same way? Male having had some sweet between the sheets mambo action that then confesses it to the Almighty is … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Body Is Only For Your Future Husband’s Eyes?

by Beecher Proch from Girl Defined - Guy Thoughts: Come on Girl, Keep it Modest (thanks to Bruce Gerencser for posting about Beecher Good catch!)Editor's note: Lots and lots of slut-shaming/women-blaming at the original link even if the author admits that men at 100% responsible for where they put their gaze. Guessing he has no one around to yell 'Nike' for him to look at his shoes when some half-dressed temptress crosses his path. He fails to realize that no matter how much a pretty girl, or any girl, covers up there's always going to be a squad of guys sitting in the pews popping pocket rockets when they go by. It's NORMAL!!! … [Read more...]


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