Giving the Child the Rod

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI don’t know exactly when it happened, but at some point early on my mom handed me the rod. She told me I was to spank my younger siblings if they misbehaved or broke any rules and she was not in the room. The rule was that I could spank any sibling at least five years younger than me. This meant that at ten I could spank my five-year-old sibling, and all those younger than him.Parents, don’t do this to your older kids. Please, please, just don’t. It breaks my heart because now, years and years later, my younger siblings don’t have any pleasant memories of my time with them. They tell me I was a bully, that they resented me, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Heartbreaking Quotes From “To Train Up A Child”

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by Debi and Michael Pearl from "To Train Up A Child" as quoted at the site Why Not Train A ChildPage 9 At five months, she was too unknowing to be punished for disobedience. But for her own good (and our peace of mind), we attempted to train her not to climb the stairs by coordinating the voice command of “No” with little spats on her bare legs. The switch was a twelve-once long, one-eighth-inch diameter sprig from a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Requiring Obedience?

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by John Piper from his blog Desiring God - Parents, Require Obedience of Your ChildrenRescue from Foolish Parenting The defiance and laziness of unbelieving parents I can understand. I have biblical categories of the behavior of the spiritually blind. But the neglect of Christian parents perplexes me. What is behind the failure to require and receive obedience? I’m not sure. But it may be that these nine observations will help rescue some parents from the folly of laissez-faire parenting. … [Read more...]

Saturday News Links: June 22, 2013

  Yahoo has an article listing which companies in the US have religion, mostly conservative Christianity, as part of their corporation culture. It's a surprising list - http://finance.yahoo.com/news/big-u-s--companies-you-might-not-know-are-religious-175228053.html?page=1 … [Read more...]

I’m Coming Out

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by Cindy FosterOk.  I am finally coming out!I’ve been wanting to do this for a very long time.  It won’t be much of a surprise to many of you since I have posted links to articles … [Read more...]

“Biblical” Parenting, Criticism #3: A Parent Who Tries to Change Minds and Hearts Through Spanking

by LatebloomerThis is part of a series of posts reviewing Reb Bradley's book "Child Training Tips". Read the introduction here. Read criticism #1 here. Read criticism #2 here.To briefly review, my first criticism of Reb Bradley's book "Child Training Tips" discussed the way his advice pushed parents toward the worst possible interpretation of their child's behavior at the expense of mercy and understanding.  My second criticism looked at the extreme level of control that parents are urged to have over their child's mind and body, which can prevent the child from maturing and can put the parent at risk of developing abusive habits.  Now here is my third criticism.Criticism #3: … [Read more...]

Post-Fundamentalist Motherhood

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by LatebloomerWhen I look at my little toddler, I am so glad that I am no longer a fundamentalist Christian.First, I don't believe in total depravity anymore, so I don't feel compelled to interpret his actions with negative terminology. The doctrine of total depravity is a common belief among fundamentalists.  It teaches that every person is born with a sin nature, separated from God, and capable of the worst kinds of evil.  It also says that proper parenting can mitigate the effects of the sin nature, but only a relationship with Jesus can make a person capable of true goodness.If I believed that my child had a sin nature that predisposed him to evil, that would c … [Read more...]


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