Daughter of the Patriarchy: epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

May 2, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra Occasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances that led to my cutting ties [...]

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Spiritual Abuse Awareness Week: My Contribution

March 22, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser This coming week Wine and Marble, Joy in this Journey and Shaney Irene will be hosting a Spiritual Abuse Awareness synchroblog.  Many bloggers will be posting one blog a day for several days, describing their own experiences

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SASBN: Putting an End to the Survivor Wars

March 18, 2013 By 4 Comments
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by Vyckie Garrison Breaking free from the absolute control of a cultic group is incredibly hard – it’s a soul-wrenching experience and in all honesty, none of us walk away unscathed and completely healthy. Spiritual abuse survivors are hurt, traumatized, damaged and often broken. I wish I

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Homeschool or Public School – What’s Worse?

March 6, 2013 By 11 Comments
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by Becoming Worldly I was talking with a homeschooled friend the other day who was raised fairly similar to how I was, with a more structured and less impoverished environment, and we were sharing stories. This and a few other things got me thinking. We both went on to higher education, got our masters degrees. [...]

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Does Evangelical Christianity Cause Emotional Damage: Part 2

February 27, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Brucer Gerencser Evangelicalism is dominated by Bible literalism. God said it, and that settles it. There can be no debate, no argument. An infallible God has spoken. Whatever the Bible teaches, the Evangelical is duty bound

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