Spiritual Abuse & Recovery

Just Pray for Him: How the Christian Church Refuses to Hold Abusive Men Accountable

June 13, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 48 Comments

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By Lisa Kroulik © Cross posted with permission from Hub Pages – http://nybride710.hubpages.com/hub/How-the-Christian-Church-is-Failing-Abused-Women One of the more difficult things to recover from during the process of divorce from my narcissistic ex-husband was the treatment I received from other Christians. To be fair, none of it was intentionally mean-spirited and all of these people [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Anxiety, Any Cause Divorce, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Botkin Syndrome, Boundaries, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Confession, Control, Covenant Breaking, Depression, Divorce & Remarriage, Domestic Abuse, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, Fear of Hell, Fear tactics, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Shame, Shunning, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Adultery, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Titus 2 Woman, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel Tagged With: A Woman’s Choice, Accountability, Alienation, Anxiety, Any Cause Divorce, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Botkin Syndrome, boundaries, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Confession, Control, Covenant Breaking, depression, Divorce & Remarriage, Domestic Abuse, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, fear of hell, Fear tactics, Formulaic Religion, fundamentalism, gender equality, Group Think, Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Mental / Emotional Health, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation – Individuation, Shame, Shunning, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Adultery, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, titus 2 woman, toxic relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Weaker Vessel 48 Comments

Submission and Prison Cells: Part 1

June 12, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 5 Comments

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by Melissa Permission To Live Almost five years ago, I was a devout conservative Christian. I had been married over two years, had a toddler Ms Action running around and a baby Ms Drama due in a few months. I loved my spouse beyond what I had ever thought love was when we first got [...]

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Baptist Taliban Part 1 – Introduction

June 12, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 13 Comments

by Cindy Foster Editors note: Please welcome Baptist Taliban to our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! She will be writing a new series for us. REASONS In order to add some context to the articles I have written on this blog I want to designate a page to summarize our story from beginning to end. [...]

Filed Under: Baptist Taliban, Baptist Taliban and Beyond - Cindy Foster, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Family Integrated Church, Family Ministry / Service, Help Meet, Issues, Like-Minded Fellowship, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Personal Autonomy, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network Tagged With: Baptist Taliban, Baptist Taliban and Beyond – Cindy Foster, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Big Happy Family Vision, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Family Ministry / Service, family-integrated church, help meet, Issues, like minded fellowship, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Personal Autonomy, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull Topics, Recovering from Spiritual Abuse, SASBN, spiritual abuse, Spiritual Abuse & Recovery, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network 13 Comments

Raised Quiverfull: Questioning, Q. 2

June 11, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu Leave a Comment

by Libby Anne Raised Quiverfull Introduction — Questioning Summary Please be sure to click the above links to see an introduction to and explanation of this project, which involves a panel of nine young adults who were raised in Quiverfull families and have since questioned and left that ideology answering questions about their experiences. What first [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 7

June 9, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

by Calulu After the incident with the pregnant daughter of a friend we had another reprieve from Tom and Tina. We’d see them at church but they’d stopped coming to the bible study group. I’d heard that they were both going through this other ministry’s counseling. The other ministry sounded sort of like Scientology in [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

Listen to Vyckie's Story now:

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