When Church Hurts Part 4

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDuring all of these years, I would come to church, sit four or five rows from the pulpit, right on the center aisle, and listen to Elliot and others preach grace, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. Elliot preached and preached. I wept and wept openly. I could not sing. I could not so much as close my eyes in prayer. I could not stand for the blessing at the end of the service. I knew that no matter how much Elliot preached those words to everyone else in the congregation, they were not for me. And I would email him and tell him as much. Without response. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsSpeaking out against wrongs being perpetrated in the church . . . that was my most egregious sin.  And because of it, I had lies told about me, people eavesdropped on my conversations, and I received hate mail from a group of people telling me that I was a terrible person.My only response was to continue talking occasionally to the lay leader of the church, Denise, and to send Elliot  my questions and thoughts in emails – often asking if we could meet to talk, but never getting a response. At one point (perhaps more than one but only one I know about), Elliot shared my emails with the consistory and they wrote a letter telling me th … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsPlease welcome Ellen to NLQ and the SASBN!I came to our most recent church as broken as I thought I could possibly be. I even remember thinking, “What more could they possibly do to me that would hurt me? It’s all been done.”How wrong I was. … [Read more...]

Kevin Swanson, Child Abuse, And Dead Little Bunnies

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Reposted from Homeschoolers Anonymous HA note: Kathi is a Bible-belt midwest transplant to the beautiful Pacific northwest. After homeschooling her kids for 10 years (she decided that high school math and science were not her strongest subjects), both kids are in public school. She is a former church goer and finds herself in that unstudied demographic of middle-aged Nones. She has a B.A. in Urban Ministry and a M.S.W. Her goal is to work with children who have been abused or are in foster care. She loves to knit, cook and read (not in any particular order). The following was originally published on Kathi’s blog Moving Beyond Absolutes on April 5, 2014 and is reprinted with permission.  I h … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Worry About Being Able to Afford Kids?

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by Anthony (husband of Adeye -No Greater Joy Mom) from his blog No Greater Joy Dad - Conversation With a Reluctant Husband RH:  But the source of stress isn’t always the kids.  It’s the finances that help pay for the kids.ANTHONY:  Aren’t you putting the cart before the horse?  If you are open to the Lord merely asking you to adopt, don’t you think He’ll take care of the finances?  If God asks us to do something, don’t you think He’ll pay for it?RH:  That sounds a bit pie-in-the-sky, doesn’t it?ANTHONY:  It does only if you are the god of your own finances.  In all that we do, we trust in the Lord, don’t we? Why is our financial future any different? … [Read more...]

Why I Haven’t “Given Up On The Church”

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by Living Liminal from her blog Living LiminalThis morning, I read an article entitled Why You Shouldn’t Give up on the Church.The author is the son of a 'famous' christian. I am a 'nobody' in that particular world.He thinks "church is messy by nature." I have found it not messy, but dangerous.He says, "it’s where Jesus’ people are connected." I find I can connect with Jesus's people wherever I meet them.He opines that, "To leave the Church is to hurt yourself and to hurt others." I left because it was the only way to stop the hurt.His judgement: "leaving the Church... is escapism." My experience: leaving the institution was the only way to escape the abuse. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What is Abuse Exactly?

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by Kevin Swanson and his sidekick Steve Vaughn from yesterday's Generations With Vision radio show - Transcript at Homeschoolers Anonymous along with other things said by Swanson and Steve. This is in response to the recent series of articles in World Magazine about abuse in the homeschooling culture. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So Being ‘Properly’ Submissive Will Protect You From the Doug Phillips of This World?

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by Rebekah from Femina and posted at Noble Womanhood - On Not Being a VictimThis is from a discussion on how if you are properly submissive with the right heart towards God then even the abusers of this world, like Doug Phillips, will not be able to use your submission against you. … [Read more...]

Just Get Over It!

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalImagine you were part of a circle of friends, many of whom you'd known for a long time. You are close, you often spend time together in each other's company. Everyone tells you how much they love you and value you. You feel happy and accepted.Now imagine that things start to change. In subtle, and not-so-subtle, ways you start to feel pressured to conform to expectations you never agreed to. To comply with other people's dictates. Eventually, things become more overt and these friends start to slap you around.You object. … [Read more...]

Cyberstalking by clergy

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 from Orthodox-Christian.com reposted with permission (Editor's note: While this article is about stalking laws in the state of Illinois most states do have in  place very similar anti-stalking laws. Check with your specific jurisdiction for what laws apply in your state.)Cyberstalking is a nightmare, no matter who is doing it to you. It’s always bad, but I think it’s really “sick and twisted” when it’s done by people who are supposed to be religious leaders. You probably already know that some churches and groups are cults in disguise. Sometimes cult escapees find that the leaders don’t want to let go of them. … [Read more...]


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