Listening, Learning, Growing

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This is Suzanne and I have a quick foreword here as an introduction to Vyckie Garrison's piece. You know, it's hard sometimes for people in different stages of healing and different perspectives to actually understand the pain of the other. … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll’s Resignation Letter

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons You might have heard the news that broke just a little while ago– Mark Driscoll has officially resigned from being a pastor and elder of Mars Hill. This is exceedingly good news, and while I was not exactly joyful to hear it, I am hopeful that those who have been abused by Mark and the Mars Hill leadership can gain some hope and comfort from this. Mark Driscoll wasn’t the only problem at Mars Hill– no one becomes a spiritual abuser of thousands all by themselves– but he was the most visible example of misogynistic, abusive Christianity and I’m glad he’s gone. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Disagreeing With Pastor – You Should Suck It Up and Shut Up?

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At 9Marks - What should I do if I disagree with something my pastor said?There are other steps that seem much more rational that this one, number 5 on the list. … [Read more...]

Breaking the Silence

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveCynthia Jeub telling her story brings up a lot for me.Memories.Memories of hiding in small dark places with my hands clamped firmly over my ears to try to block out the screams of a sibling who was being “disciplined.” Being isolated, and truly having no one to tell, no one to turn to for help. … [Read more...]

What I Got By Going To Church

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIt happened again. Talking to a friend, I was asked, "Where are you going to church now?""No where.""Oh, Ellen, you need to go to church! How are you going to grow? You need the fellowship of other believers!" … [Read more...]

Let’s Out the Poisonous Ideas/Scriptures in the Quiverfull & Patriarchal Movements?

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerGreetings! I am currently on the road, driving down in the deep south to see relatives and being exposed to a capacious amount of ridiculously bad ideas Fundamentalist Christianity has to offer. This morning I was telling Vyckie Garrison of driving through rural Mississippi, hitting search on my car radio and coming up with ten different Christian radio stations in a row. I was stuck listening to them for a few hours and was struck by some of the ideas put forward and flouted as 'The Truth' that are just dangerous to a person. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 6

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThough we never had a meeting with Elliot or the leadership, I was again asked to teach a class and was also helping with a conference that our church was hosting in the spring.  When it came time for the conference, I had an opportunity to sit down with the speaker for a few minutes and, being a man of great discernment, he asked me some leading questions and I found myself telling him a bit of my story. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 4

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsDuring all of these years, I would come to church, sit four or five rows from the pulpit, right on the center aisle, and listen to Elliot and others preach grace, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration. Elliot preached and preached. I wept and wept openly. I could not sing. I could not so much as close my eyes in prayer. I could not stand for the blessing at the end of the service. I knew that no matter how much Elliot preached those words to everyone else in the congregation, they were not for me. And I would email him and tell him as much. Without response. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 2

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsSpeaking out against wrongs being perpetrated in the church . . . that was my most egregious sin.  And because of it, I had lies told about me, people eavesdropped on my conversations, and I received hate mail from a group of people telling me that I was a terrible person.My only response was to continue talking occasionally to the lay leader of the church, Denise, and to send Elliot  my questions and thoughts in emails – often asking if we could meet to talk, but never getting a response. At one point (perhaps more than one but only one I know about), Elliot shared my emails with the consistory and they wrote a letter telling me th … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts: Part 1

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsPlease welcome Ellen to NLQ and the SASBN!I came to our most recent church as broken as I thought I could possibly be. I even remember thinking, “What more could they possibly do to me that would hurt me? It’s all been done.”How wrong I was. … [Read more...]


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