How Fundamentalist Christians Ruin Christmas

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserNow that I am no longer a Christian, I really enjoy Christmas. I know this might be hard for fundamentalist Christians to believe, but I enjoy Christmas now more than I ever did when I was a card-carrying member of Club Christian®. The reason is simple. From Thanksgiving to New Year’s, there were services to prepare, food drives to coördinate, and season-themed sermons to preach. Like the Easter season, Christmas was a high-stress, lots-of-work time for me. Quite frankly, I found it exhausting. Rarely did I have the time to just relax and enjoy Christmas. … [Read more...]

“Spotlight” Review – It Takes A Village To Abuse A Child

by Suzanne TitkemeyerLast night I had an opportunity to see an extraordinary film, one that I'm sure would deeply resonate with everyone that is a regular reader of NLQ. The film is "Spotlight" and it's playing right now in theaters across the country after a wide screen release on Friday, November 20th. … [Read more...]

How Dysfunctional Parents Siphon Resources Back from a Child, Depriving them of Healthy Self-Development

by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much GraceOriginally published January 2012. This is part of a series on Understanding How Emotional Development in Childhood Affects Adults: Fostering Spiritual Abuse via the “Roots of Victimization” All images originals from Under Much More Grace. In the previous post, we discussed how children lack internal resources which the parent provides to them so that they can develop their own sense of self, internal peace and what many authors describe as a sense of abundance. … [Read more...]

Ken Ham Asks His Disciples to Pray for Me

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser(Editor's note: This is what organized religious harassment looks like with the added goal of trying to heap someone with spiritual abuse. Ken Ham, science denier and supposedly a minister, called for his people to refute Bruce. Bruce is talking from the perspective of someone that has left fundamentalist Christianity, specifically he left Independent Fundamentalist Baptist religion and theology far behind. Please keep this in mind while reading his rebuttal of Ham. If you disagree with him that’s fine, but do not attack him personally for being an atheist or protest that his writing doesn’t belong here. ) … [Read more...]

“Lies Women Believe” Review: 215 – 242

by Samantha Field cross posted from Samantha P Field.comIf there’s one thing that doing all these reviews have taught me about writing non-fiction books, it’s to avoid getting repetitive in the last two chapters. A lot of what Nancy covers in this last part of Lies Women Believe she’s already been over in different ways before. However she’s not completely unoriginal, so let’s dive in. IF MY CIRCUMSTANCES WERE DIFFERENT, I WOULD BE DIFFERENT … [Read more...]

Finding the Strength to Give Yourself Permission to Leave

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Every Breaking WaveI remember the last two years before I walked away from my old church. Every Saturday night or early Sunday morning I would have a nightmare involving church. They always involved church. It might be something like the pastor calling me out for some imagined sin from the pulpit and he and I fighting in the sanctuary. One time I dreamed that my home was filled with an abundance, a crazy wild abundance of things, like opening the bread box to have three fresh loaves leaping out instead of one, or opening the silverware drawer and finding set after set of silver in the drawer. That dream was terrifying because I was … [Read more...]

The Not-So-Ridiculous Reasons People Leave Church

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P FieldEvery once in a while, someone I know on Facebook will share a joke or a meme that makes me grit my teeth because it makes me feel dismissed. Most recently it was this one: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Every Woman a Jezebel?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - The Jezebel ProfileEditor's note: So pointing out a spiritually abusive leader to your husband and having him see what you're saying is true is also another hallmark of an 'evil Jezebel'? Makes me wonder what's going on in the churches  Michael Pearl has pastored of for even this to be thought of as manipulating and evil.  At the end of this piece Debi starts to explain what a non-Jezebel looks like in the Bible. … [Read more...]

How to Keep From Spiritual Abusing People

by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsTell the truth.That’s it.You’re probably thinking that’s crazy, but think about it.  If you have been spiritually abused, think about if the perpetrator had told the truth.“I am not open to questions.”“You have to support the staff and their decisions no matter what.”“We do not allow people to express concerns.”“I’m only interested in getting my own way.” … [Read more...]

How to Spiritually Abuse Your Children in Three Steps

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection Step One - Repeatedly teach them something that the rest of society would find weird, "out there", or flat-out offensive.Step Two - Tell them that the negative reaction of the "rest of the world" proves that the above "something" is true and must be adhered to even more rabidly. … [Read more...]


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