Vyckie's Tour de Crap: When I Am Weak

Okay ~ how's this for the kick-off to my Tour de Crap?!!Actually, I'm not sure if any commentary is needed except to say, "OMG ~ Can you see how thoroughly convinced I was of the martyr mentality?!!" WHEN I AM WEAKby vyckie bennettDuring a dinner-table conversation a couple of weeks back, Warren was expounding on the children's song, Jesus Loves Me. He wanted to make the point to our children that when we are weak, Jesus shows Himself strong. Later in the conversation, he commented that we should "make ourselves weak" so that Jesus' strength can be made manifest in our lives.Make ourselves weak? Now that sounded a bit odd to my ears. After all, self-improvement is one of the great … [Read more...]

It's about STRONG WOMEN

by Vyckie  My oldest daughter, Angel and my mom, Lou Ann. So many of the visitors who are reading the stories on this blog have left a comment to the affect that, "You & Laura are amazingly strong women."I've actually done some thinking about that ~ and wanted to share a bit of it here.We have been "strong," yes ~ but is that such a good thing? For myself, I finally realized that being so strong enabled me to live a life that was not healthy for me or my children ~ or for my ex-husband for that matter. As long as I could "handle it" ~ I did.Allow me to boast for just a minute about how "strong" I was.I was so "strong" that I bore seven children ~ six of them in eleven years ~ … [Read more...]

The Evil Demon of Depression

by LauraThings were very hard for me. I was so depressed and confused. I would spend most of my day closed up in my bedroom crying. I didn't know what to do to turn my husband's heart back to me. I remember sitting at the table one day and telling him I would gladly begin wearing a head covering again if this would make him happy. He said something to the effect that he had seen women wearing head coverings that were not the least bit submissive to their authorities and women who didn't wear one who were. I wasn't sure if I fit into the former category but I was afraid to ask. I had worn a head covering for about 3 years thinking that it made me more spiritual. It was an outward sign of … [Read more...]

QUIVERFULL: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement ~ A Review

by VyckieThe reason I am telling my story now (as opposed to 10 years from now when my kids are grown up and I actually have time to write), is because I came across this article on Alternet and read with interest about the people and the teachings which our family had followed for many years. I was kind of amazed that someone on that liberal news site knew about this movement ~ so I posted a comment on the article ~ and that's how I got in touch with Kathryn Joyce, author of Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement.I pre-ordered the book and as I read it, I kept saying aloud, "I know these people!" All the names were familiar to me ~ Nancy Campbell, Mary Pride, Doug … [Read more...]

It's about SUPERIORITY

 by Vyckie(Hey, Berea & Chassé ~ don't kill me for posting this picture, okay? LOL!)Now, I never would have admitted this before ~ not to myself and certainly not to the general public ~ but the really big draw of the whole Quiverfull/patriarchy movement was the hope of living such an exemplary life that my husband and my children would one day rise up and call me "Blessed" ~ and that in The End, the Lord Jesus himself would say, "Well done, my good and faithful servant." I wanted to be the very best Christian that I could possibly be.A popular topic of conversation in our home went like this: "Are we better than all the people who don't live the way we do?" Referring, of c … [Read more...]

To Those Who May Be Shocked, Disappointed, and Hurt by the News of My Apostasy

by Vyckie Bennett (Garrison)This is a letter to those godly, dedicated Christians who know me (or know of me) from my articles and testimonies which have appeared in popular homeschool publications such as Above Rubies, An Encouraging Word, SALT, Unless the Lord, etc. ~ or who have followed news of our ever-growing family in my monthly column or in updates and prayer requests which I have posted on email groups such as MOMYS Digest, The Lord’s Heritage, FARBITM, and others. I have been an advocate of godly womanhood ~ I’ve encouraged fellow Christian moms in their Quiverfull convictions and have done my best to lead by example in my own family.This is a difficult letter for me to write ~ … [Read more...]


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