Attitude Matters

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by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalThe other day, I had a conversation at work that got me thinking. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Other Women Have Hidden Agendas?

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by Erin Harrison from No Greater Joy magazine - Virtuously KindFind is sort of frightening that a Good Christian Woman (tm) thinks so poorly of most of her 'sisters' … [Read more...]

Journal Entry, April 1, 2010

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIf you’ve ever wondered what goes on inside the head of a person who is mired in spiritual abuse, this is an example. It is an entry from the journal that I would take to church and write in during services. This entry is from Maundy Thursday, April 1, 2010. I sat in the very back pew and observed the service. I could not participate. As you will see, I was convinced that God had completely rejected me because of the way the leadership had been treating me for about a decade. This journal entry documents the level to which spiritual abuse had taken me. As the leaders and congregation moved through the service, this is what I wrote: … [Read more...]

Listening, Learning, Growing

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This is Suzanne and I have a quick foreword here as an introduction to Vyckie Garrison's piece. You know, it's hard sometimes for people in different stages of healing and different perspectives to actually understand the pain of the other. … [Read more...]

Mark Driscoll’s Resignation Letter

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons You might have heard the news that broke just a little while ago– Mark Driscoll has officially resigned from being a pastor and elder of Mars Hill. This is exceedingly good news, and while I was not exactly joyful to hear it, I am hopeful that those who have been abused by Mark and the Mars Hill leadership can gain some hope and comfort from this. Mark Driscoll wasn’t the only problem at Mars Hill– no one becomes a spiritual abuser of thousands all by themselves– but he was the most visible example of misogynistic, abusive Christianity and I’m glad he’s gone. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Disagreeing With Pastor – You Should Suck It Up and Shut Up?

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At 9Marks - What should I do if I disagree with something my pastor said?There are other steps that seem much more rational that this one, number 5 on the list. … [Read more...]

Breaking the Silence

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To LiveCynthia Jeub telling her story brings up a lot for me.Memories.Memories of hiding in small dark places with my hands clamped firmly over my ears to try to block out the screams of a sibling who was being “disciplined.” Being isolated, and truly having no one to tell, no one to turn to for help. … [Read more...]

What I Got By Going To Church

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsIt happened again. Talking to a friend, I was asked, "Where are you going to church now?""No where.""Oh, Ellen, you need to go to church! How are you going to grow? You need the fellowship of other believers!" … [Read more...]

Let’s Out the Poisonous Ideas/Scriptures in the Quiverfull & Patriarchal Movements?

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerGreetings! I am currently on the road, driving down in the deep south to see relatives and being exposed to a capacious amount of ridiculously bad ideas Fundamentalist Christianity has to offer. This morning I was telling Vyckie Garrison of driving through rural Mississippi, hitting search on my car radio and coming up with ten different Christian radio stations in a row. I was stuck listening to them for a few hours and was struck by some of the ideas put forward and flouted as 'The Truth' that are just dangerous to a person. … [Read more...]

When Church Hurts Part 6

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by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church HurtsThough we never had a meeting with Elliot or the leadership, I was again asked to teach a class and was also helping with a conference that our church was hosting in the spring.  When it came time for the conference, I had an opportunity to sit down with the speaker for a few minutes and, being a man of great discernment, he asked me some leading questions and I found myself telling him a bit of my story. … [Read more...]


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