Civility Pledge: Creating a Safe Environment for Constructive and Healing Conversation

February 17, 2013 By 5 Comments
Camels With Hammers Civility Pledge

by Vyckie Garrison When it comes to a discussion of the inherently pernicious elements of the Quiverfull ideal, such as patriarchy, fundamentalism, bible “literalism,” Dominionism, etc., which result in the spiritual abuse of Christian women and their families, it is too easy to be sarcastic, condescending, harsh,

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Two Simple Statements

February 9, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Samantha By the time I was a sophomore at an extremely conservative Christian college, I had gone through twelve years at an IFB church and been manipulated and bullied by quiverful and patriarchal teachings. My family had been excommunicated from the church, and friends I had

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Spiritual Abuse at The ROC: Following God

January 20, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Following God (Editor note: People coming out of The ROC have been congregating online at the Richmond Outreach Center Recovery Group on Facebook. Their mission is to help disillusioned former members of The ROC in their recovery from spiritual abuse. This young lady’s story is a brief one but she wishes

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Why Do People “Drink The Koolaid”?

January 15, 2013 By 6 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser Over at No Longer Quivering they have been talking about why people– and particularly why women– get involved with repressive, spiritually abusive, authoritarian religion.  Why is it, for instance, that so many women are drawn into– and drag their sometimes reluctant husbands into– the

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Womens Appearances Wreck Marital Romance?

January 14, 2013 By 15 Comments

According to Pat Robertson: If you are a woman and do not keep yourself looking 100% perfect then it is your fault if the marriage ends or isn’t good.  Huh?

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