Domestic Violence in the IFB Church Movement

May 20, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser First, let me give readers the definition for domestic violence. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines domestic violence as: Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.

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Saturday News Links May 11, 2013

May 11, 2013 By Leave a Comment

  Elizabeth Smart at a Johns Hopkins conference answers about her captivity show how an abstinence only sex education causes more harm than good – http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Latest-News-Wires/2013/0504/Elizabeth-Smart-speaks-on-human-trafficking

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Jinger Duggar Wants Out?

May 3, 2013 By 8 Comments
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Radar Online has been having a long series of Duggar related articles through the years. They posted again about Jinger Duggar’s desire to be in the big city and put up a clip of the Duggar girls speculating on what type of men they would want as husbands. Sounds like they’ve been reading Debi Pearl’s [...]

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CTBHHM: Michael Pearl’s Stamp of Approval

February 22, 2013 By 13 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created to Be His Help Meet, pp. 13 Created to Be His Help Meet, a popular evangelical/fundamentalist marriage manual, begins with a one page introduction by author Debi Pearl’s

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Why Do People “Drink The Koolaid”?

January 15, 2013 By 6 Comments
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by Kristen Rosser Over at No Longer Quivering they have been talking about why people– and particularly why women– get involved with repressive, spiritually abusive, authoritarian religion.  Why is it, for instance, that so many women are drawn into– and drag their sometimes reluctant husbands into– the

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