Two Messages That Children Internalize That Contribute To Bullying In Patriarchal Church and Homeschool Groups

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemHomeschooled children sometimes experience bullying from peers. Part of this stems from the messages that children absorb about themselves.1. Children respond to the tiered authority by owning the message that they are the not as good as other people and exist to serve people who appear to be more powerful than they are;2. Children respond to the opposite message that they are the best and brightest and most privileged and enact that power on others.  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Be Lamb-Like To Lead?

by Colin Campbell from Above Rubies Meat For Men - The Humility Test, No 1c The Lamb Is Worthy To ReignEditor's note: Colin posits something not heard too often in CPM circles, humility for men, humble leaders.  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Adapt To Your Man Or Else?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy Magazine - Multi-Colored GirlFirst the 'be like me!' and now the comes the hard slap in the face that is Debi's marriage advice. Does 'Glorious Marriage' really mean 'Abusive Slavery'? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Molding Yourself To Him?

It's that time of the year, folks, that one of six times a year when No Greater Joy magazine is published and deliciously chockablock full of dubious ideas, scripture manipulations and toxic advice.by Shoshanna Pearl Easling in No Greater Joy magazine - Becoming His Kind of Woman … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Keeper of Seeds?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies -  The Blessers of Society … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Respecting Your Husband’s Decisions Always?

by Heidi St. John from her blog The Busy Mom - To Love and Respect … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So Being ‘Properly’ Submissive Will Protect You From the Doug Phillips of This World?

by Rebekah from Femina and posted at Noble Womanhood - On Not Being a VictimThis is from a discussion on how if you are properly submissive with the right heart towards God then even the abusers of this world, like Doug Phillips, will not be able to use your submission against you. … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

Part 4: I Submit and “Resign”

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalIn the weeks following that meeting with the board, there were many communications (mostly via email) which just deepened the wounding. As dramatic as it might sound, I felt like I was fighting for my very life. I begged for someone to listen to me, to hear what had been going on and help me find a way out of my pain. By this time, elder M had given up hope and resigned his membership. I desperately wanted to believe there was a better way to go, that people who claimed to follow Christ should be able to work this out together, that we didn’t have to stay trapped in an endless repetition of history! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Controlling Even Personal Choices?

by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog - Dressing Up Without Playing Dress Up One of the things we need to remember when it comes to church architecture is that a building is corporate clothing. A building is how the whole church dresses. The trick is how to dress up without playing dress ups. … [Read more...]