“Lies Women Believe” Review 167 – 192

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Samantha P Field.comI think it’s possible that we might be over the hump as far as how terrible the chapters can get. The only sections left for the Lies Women Believe review cover children, circumstances, emotions, and the concluding segment. The “Emotions” chapter might be a bit rough, but today’s, compared to last week’s chapter, is a cake walk. Of course, almost anything compared to a doctrine that could kill women seems like a breeze.This week’s chapter covers what Nancy thinks about children, which means an extensive discussion on, you guessed it, family planning. IT’S UP TO US TO DETERMINE THE SIZE OF OUR FAMILY She roots her arg … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Teens Are Responsible For the Problem of Predators?

by Lisa Cherry of Frontline Family Ministry from her book 'Unmask the Predators'Posted on Facebook by R.L. Stollar community coordinator of Homeschoolers Anonymous … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Wimps Allowed?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Do You Have Sons? How old was Solomon when he became king? Some commentaries say 12 years old. Josephus says he was 14 years old. And other commentaries say 20 years old. Whatever is correct, he was a very young man, and yet expected to be strong and courageous and take on the governing of a nation. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Navel Gazing Teens?

by Scott Brown of The Marriage Blog and Ladies Against Feminism - The Problem With 17 Year-Olds Who Hang Around 17 Year-Olds Time Magazine recently came out with an article,“The New Greatest Generation”, contending that the idea of seventeen year olds hanging out with seventeen-year olds is a bad idea. … [Read more...]

Bill Gothard has negatively affected my life…Part 1

by Shadow SpringI started this blog to have a space to write about how patriarchal fundamentalist thought had affected my marriage and resulted in disaster on many levels. The truth is that patriarchal fundamentalist thought had already wreaked havoc on my life before I even met my husband, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Doing Hard Things?

From The Rebelution by Alex & Brett Harris "Why Do Hard Things?" - January 30, 2013 In James 1:2, we’re told to consider it “pure joy” when we’re faced with challenges, trials, and obstacles, because they test our … [Read more...]

Prayer & Dark Dungeons

by Mari Prayer Shortly after my youngest brother was born, I was observing my mom who was listening to another mom talk about her kids’ desires for siblings when suddenly, the other mom turned to me and said, “You should pray for a baby sister.”It had never occurred to me that … [Read more...]

The Myth of Teenage Rebellion

by LatebloomerSometimes, as my toddler and I cuddle together to read books on the couch, I can't help but imagine what our relationship might be like when he becomes a teenager.  On some days, I dread it like a slowly-approaching disaster.  On other days, I feel a sense of hope that, as I deal with my own issues, I'll be able to give him something better than I experienced.   I'm confronting my old ideas about teenagers head on, and replacing them with healthier and more accurate ideas.Growing up in fundamentalist homeschooling circles, I heard a lot about "Biblical" parenting--extreme parental authority enforced through potentially abusive levels of spanking.  Because it was "Bi … [Read more...]

Emotional Incest: The Mama’s Boy and the Other Woman

by SierraI have already written about the ways that growing up in fundamentalist-evangelical culture made me especially vulnerable to covert incest from my father. There is a flip side to the father-daughter craze in Christian patriarchy, though. I am here to bring you two stories: and one of them isn’t about me!In what would have been my high school years, a miracle happened. Sven, my best friend from my early childhood, came back to my church. We were fourteen. We had been estranged for about three years while his family lived in another state. But we quickly reconnected (not least due to my idealistic hopes that we could pick up where we left off, and some aggressive b … [Read more...]

Authoritarian Parenting and Emotional Repression

by LatebloomerI have a lot of respect for my dad. He's thoughtful and generous to all of us. His constant reading makes him an interesting and well-informed conversationalist. He makes his life decisions very carefully, yet never looks down on me for making different decisions than him. Instead, he tells me all the time that he loves and misses me, and that he's proud of who I've become. I feel so lucky to have him as my dad.Unfortunately, we have not always gotten along so well. Less than ten years ago, our relationship had been almost completely destroyed thanks to the authoritarian parenting techniques of the fundamentalist Christian homeschooling culture. Authoritarian parenting … [Read more...]