Bill Gothard has negatively affected my life…Part 1

May 21, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Shadow Spring I started this blog to have a space to write about how patriarchal fundamentalist thought had affected my marriage and resulted in disaster on many levels. The truth is that patriarchal fundamentalist thought had already wreaked havoc on my life before I even met my husband,

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Quoting Quiverfull: Doing Hard Things?

February 6, 2013 By 3 Comments
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From The Rebelution by Alex & Brett Harris “Why Do Hard Things?” – January 30, 2013 In James 1:2, we’re told to consider it “pure joy” when we’re faced with challenges, trials, and obstacles, because they test our

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Prayer & Dark Dungeons

November 12, 2012 By 2 Comments
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by Mari Prayer Shortly after my youngest brother was born, I was observing my mom who was listening to another mom talk about her kids’ desires for siblings when suddenly, the other mom turned to me and said, “You should pray for a baby sister.” It had never occurred to me that

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The Myth of Teenage Rebellion

October 8, 2012 By 11 Comments
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by Latebloomer Sometimes, as my toddler and I cuddle together to read books on the couch, I can’t help but imagine what our relationship might be like when he becomes a teenager.  On some days, I dread it like a slowly-approaching disaster.  On other days, I feel a sense of hope that, as I deal [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Introductory Questions

June 2, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Libby Anne Welcome to Raised Quiverfull! Nine young adults who grew up in the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements have come together to answer a series of questions about their experiences. All of these young adults have since questioned and left these ideologies and have chosen their own life paths. The goal of the [...]

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