Quoting Quiverfull: Stay At Home Mothers Must Control Their Thoughts?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Do You Have It All Together?Editor's note: Nancy has put together a list of how mothers need to be in order to be good Christian moms who are staying at home raising their children. Not all of her rules are listed below, just a few, but most of them boil down to the same thing: Trust God while you control your thoughts you selfish selfish women! I hate to tell her, but moments of negative thoughts, occasional freaking out, and admitting you don't always have it together is not failure. It's being a normal imperfect member of the human race and perfectly understandable. We're not designed to be perfect fembots! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: You Harm Your Kids When You Complain About Motherhood?

by Rebecca Brandt of Mom's Mustard Seeds - Stop Saying Being a Mom is HardEditor's note: Another want-to-be female cultural enforcer claiming that we have to be joyous and happy all the time or bad things will happen. Bad things, along with good things,  happen no matter what you do, think, project, feel, or experience. This is the number one toxic thing in Quiverfull - completely deny your emotions, shut up and smile. Being positive in your day to day attitudes isn't a bad thing, but to insist everyone do it to the extreme degree is emotionally unhealthy. The way we think impacts our hearts. TRULY! If we get up every morning dreading the day, we will not live the day in a way that … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Are No Negative Emotions Allowed Because Circumstances Are So Dire?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One theme is very common in most of the female cultural enforcers writings - never complain, speak negative words, have negative thoughts about anything in your day to day life. Nancy Campbell is an expert on ringing that particular bell to control her followers. For a long time some assumed that Nancy did this for control, but several recent posts by her and others make one wonder if it's not because that the circumstances that many of these women have to live in would make a saint break down and cry. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Taking Every Thought Captive?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Take Them CaptiveEditor's note: If I were to write a list of the more toxic ideas in Evangelical Christianity this one would be top of the list. In Quiverfull you are never allowed to feel your own emotions or think anything even slightly critical or counter to any idea presented as the truth. Can it be helpful to organize your thoughts or focus on other things when your thoughts go into some dark spaces? Yes, but the world of Quiverfull takes it all too far into suppressing your thoughts and feelings to the detriment of your own emotional health. Yes, Nancy, you CAN help others when you are experiencing negative thoughts or emotions. You aren't … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Cultivating Thankfulness in Yourself?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Feelings Are Invalid In Sexual Assault & Life?

by Doug Wilson from Blog & Mablog - Down a Grassy ExplanadeEditor's note: First he starts off in his blog going to the knee jerk reaction/control method of denigrating feelings and emotions that people experience, as if having emotions was a terrible and unGodly thing. Then he slides right into this little toxic bit of blaming and shaming sexual assault victims before saying that college students are a bunch of whiny wimps. How does this fit with the words of Christ? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So the Problem When Looking is Really Judgmentalism Not Lust?

Found on Ladies Against Feminism but written by Tim Challies from Challies.com - It's Not Just a Guy ThingEditor's note: The part quoted by Ladies Against Feminism is very odd, just the beginning of the post, without going into the scary-blame-y meat of this thing. The first part was the standard yapping about men looking at women with lust.  According to Tim Challies it is not so much an issue of men ogling random women, but women also looking at folks and judging them. Way to take a Christians-mostly problem in the church and make it all about blaming women. Most people not in the church do not care if others are looking at them and secretly lusting. Very creepy. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Being Happy During Sorrow?

by Megan Van Vuren from No Greater Joy - The Lord's Mercies Never FailEditor's note: While this flogging a book written by not by Michael and Debi but by one of their ministry people Erin Harrison it seems from the cover and this paragraph that it's merely another doubling down on the 'Don't ever have negative emotions' thing tha NGJ does so well. We've all seen how well not being allowed to feel your own real emotions works out. Curious that they chose to promote this on the 14th anniversary of 9/11.  Are they implying that you can have joy and peace during the one of the most massive tragedies in America by controlling your thoughts? Seems a bit tacky if that's the implication. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Love Being Home Or Else?

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies - What Is Your Favorite Place?Editor's note: Again Nancy spends a lot of time making sure that women know they have to have a good attitude, no negative thoughts or emotions or ELSE! She makes no allowance for those fundamentalist homes where there are 19 children in a two bedroom home under 1500 square feet or if there are serious issues with housing everyone safely or in a pleasant way. It's all shut and smile even if you live in a ramshackle hovel. … [Read more...]

“How To Win Over Depresson” – review – 113 – 136

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons For new readers: this post is part of a regular blog feature, where I read through influential books on Christian living. The beginning of the series covering Tim LaHaye’s How to Win Over Depression is here; you can also read through my series on Helen Andelin’s Fascinating Womanhood, John and Stasi Eldredge’s Captivating, Mark and Grace Driscoll’s Real Marriage, and Rob and Kristin Bell’s Zimzum of Love. ~~~~~~~~~ These two chapters were repetitive, so I’m going to do my best not to rehash things I’ve already commented on. A few things jumped out to me on this reading of “How to Overcome Self-Pity,” especially one thing in … [Read more...]