Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Making Your Child Less Fearful by Punishment?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Fear of BeesEditor's note: So Mike and I have the same advice regarding teaching the child about bees to lessen their fears and he doesn't automatically go to switching the child to make them stay in the bed. Even a stopped clock is right twice a day by accident. But how is making the child sleep in a very uncomfortable place, like the laundry room or bathtub not some sort of punishment? What would you do instead when the child is too afraid to sleep in her room? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Nip What in the Bud?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Nip It In The BudEditor's note: Another you're doing parenting wrong piece from the Pearls. In this one they condemn a man for beating his son. I cannot for the life of me figure out why the parent didn't diffuse the situation by taking an action like picking up the toddler after the first or second time he kicked the adult visitor, or by stopping to tell the child at that exact point to knock it off in a friendly manner. Why are all parenting interactions so extreme in Pearl world? I also question the validity of the story just from the physical difficulty of kicking and waving handfuls of rock in the air at the same time. That toddler must have had … [Read more...]

Post-Fundamentalist Motherhood

by LatebloomerWhen I look at my little toddler, I am so glad that I am no longer a fundamentalist Christian.First, I don't believe in total depravity anymore, so I don't feel compelled to interpret his actions with negative terminology. The doctrine of total depravity is a common belief among fundamentalists.  It teaches that every person is born with a sin nature, separated from God, and capable of the worst kinds of evil.  It also says that proper parenting can mitigate the effects of the sin nature, but only a relationship with Jesus can make a person capable of true goodness.If I believed that my child had a sin nature that predisposed him to evil, that would c … [Read more...]