Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Fleas


by Mel cross posted from her blog When Kids and Cows CollideI made a blogger decision to skip Chapter 14.  It's a story about how Sheila and Shad Williams saved their marriage through Jesus.  The problem?  First, their marriage wasn't in (much) trouble.  Second, they were married at some point before 1975.Yup.  Debi has started padding the book with stories from her contemporaries rather than using her shaky creative writing skills. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Wise Woman Manipulates Her Husband?


by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - A Wise Woman Builds Her HouseEditor's note: Reading Debi's words I am reminded of a recent conversation where a woman from Debi's generation told me after I'd accidentally broken an important possession of my husband's that I should deal with it by ordering a replacement, keeping my mouth shut, putting on his favorite dress and then feeding him his favorite meal. I had to explain to her how acting that way is a form of lying, manipulation and controlling towards him. I think Debi does a lot of that type of behavior in her quest to keep Michael from behaving in an abusive manner. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 5 – Listening To Your Wife


by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: He needs her prayers because she is a weaker vessel? That doesn't even make any sort of sense at all. And they have safety deposit boxes in heaven that require two keys just like here on earth? Sometimes I wonder what Michael is growing on that farm of his. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 Listening To Your Wife?


by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: Ugh, he links praising your wife for her good judgement to having sex more often. It really is all about sex with Mr. Pearl. Plus in this last bit Michael Pearl claims he softened the hard edges of Debi's books! What softening? I would hate to see the first drafts if they were any harsher and condemning considering Debi does shaming and blaming all too well in her books. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Stand By Your Man When He Becomes Obsessed?


by Shalom Pearl Brand from No Greater Joy - Preparing for His ObsessionEditor's note: Remember when Debi Pearl confused hobbies and interests with obsessions? Her daughter Shalom is carrying on in the same vein of misunderstanding and reenforcing Debi's message of supporting your man's hobbies and not having any of your own. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Accept the Bad Things to be Happy?


by Sarah Mae at Fitting Perfect Into Fallen - I Have Bad Thoughts About My HusbandEditor's note: Why is it that in the world of Quiverfull, Evangelicals, Fundamentalist and Christian Patriarchy no one ever thinks to just come right out and TALK about their issues or feelings or struggles WITH the person they are struggling with instead of repressing their angst and pasting a smile on their face? Life outside that bubble is so much more simplistic and fulfilling if for no other reason than you can express your thoughts and feelings without feeling shame. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – What Kind of Girl am I?


Our second installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl's site message board for the book 'Preparing To Be A Help Meet'. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet Blog: Wedding Music Angst!


by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideLearning to judge people is a skill that must be refined over time. Here's a question that lets the girls practice sharpening their nails - or not.(All spelling is from the original.) … [Read more...]

“Real Marriage” Review: 207-222, ‘Reverse-Engineering Your Life and Marriage’


by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Well, folks, we finally did it. We managed to make it all the way through to the very bitter end of Mark and Grace Driscoll’s Real Marriage. Usually I’m excited about wrapping up one of these review series, but all I can manage to feel about finishing this one is … relief. I’m not entirely sure why reading Real Marriage was so much more draining than Fascinating Womanhood or Captivating, but it has been. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Adapt To Your Man Or Else?

When you force dye roses to make them certain colors it shortens the life span of the rose considerably. I would think doing the same with humans might have the same effect, or at the very least lead to a life filled with frustration.

by Debi Pearl in No Greater Joy Magazine - Multi-Colored GirlIt's all about those fake stereotypes Debi promotes in her books, Visionary, Priestly, etc, etc, etc,.... you get the point. She attaches 'colors' to each role and stereotype too. … [Read more...]