Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – A Woman’s Pride Kills Marriages?

by April Cassidy from The Peaceful Wife - The Surprising Root of All Marriage ProblemsEditor's note - In her first bit we were treated to the spectacle of a list outlining sociopathy as mere pride. Now there's a different type of pride list - false humility. These all sound much more like depression and possible mental illness than the psychopathy of the first list. My point being, mental illnesses, while they do make marriage bumpier, aren't freaking PRIDE! Evangelical Christianity loves to equate mental unhealth with sin and this just is not true in the slightest. Again, if someone you or yourself feels like either list there is help. Many communities have locally funded mental health … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – A Woman’s Pride Kills Marriages?

by April Cassidy of The Peaceful Wife - The Surprising Root of All Marriage ProblemsEditor's note: This list is not the list of a prideful person, it's a list of red flags for a sociopath or narcissist! If you feel this way or you hear your spouse speaking that they believe these things it's time for intensive therapy and some soul searching to see if this is something you can or cannot live with in  partner. So many times in evangelical fundamentalist quiverfull mental conditions are equated to a sinful attitude or sin nature when they are genuine mental illnesses. Sadly enough, many of these descriptors seems to fit the actions and behaviors of many in the faith towards unbelievers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – If Your Husband is a Jerk You Probably Caused It?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from Are They All Yours? - So You're Married to a Jerk....Editor's note: Here Zsu says even if you haven't whipped up some fantasy man in your mind that your husband could never live up to, if the guy is really a horrible abusive jerk you can never divorce him because Bible. Really? God apparently wants you to stay with an abuser. That explains a good deal about certain female cultural enforcers lives, now doesn't it? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 Disrespectful Wife Leads to Divorce?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - Why the Movie 'Fireproof' Offers Unbiblical and BAD Marriage AdviceEditor's note: Larry lays out where he thinks the blame goes for the marriage problems. Very predictably very little of the blame falls to Kirk Cameron's character. Later today we'll examine Larry's claims that 'Fireproof' was much like his wrecked first marriage. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

by an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism’s Lori Alexander on her personal blog Always Learning – Taking Responsibility For Her Own UnhappinessEditor's note: Here's the final bit. I personally find it disturbing that she's sometimes praying for her husband 'through gritted teeth'. To me that indicates that nothing has actually really changed in her marriage, only in her own mind by denial of needs and emotions and forced cheerfulness. We all know how that works out in the long run. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – This is the Damage Female Cultural Enforcers do in Quiverfull

by an anonymous letter writer to Ladies Against Feminism's Lori Alexander on her personal blog Always Learning - Taking Responsibility For Her Own UnhappinessEditor's note: Shout out to Debi Pearl in this bit. While what the letter writer is describing in her marriage sounds good, like they've managed to get back on track in a healthier way. Especially good is her responding in a better way to her husband's chronic health condition. What she's not said, only hinted at, it's because she is submitting to her husband to an unhealthy degree and suppressing her own emotions and needs. Typical Quiverfull, fix the marriage by pretending everything is perfect once you start doing 'Biblical … [Read more...]

Created To Need A Help Meet: Part 7 – Washing of the Word (Sexual Sins as Far as the Eye Can See)

by Aletha cross posted from her blog Yllom Mormonp 159-161Last post we talked about the basics of a wife's spots, wrinkles and blemishes. The next few sections will be delving deeper into each of these. Today we're talking about spots. More specifically, the spots that one's wife has picked up because of sexual impurities. I hope you're ready for a big bucket of bananas, because that's what's being served up … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Emotions Make Women Lazy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 7 Steps to Dealing With a Lazy WifeEditor's note: Now Larry is claiming you set a bad example for the children when you let mom slack. Also his comparison of a mother making the kids clean their rooms while she has a sinkful of dirty dishes and a pile of dirty clothes isn't necessarily an awful thing. It takes, what, five minutes to load the dishwasher and about that long to load the washer. It's like comparing apples and oranges. What Larry doesn't seem to get is that there might be a good legitimate reason why the dishes and clothes are stacked up that has nothing to do with laziness. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Emotions Make Women Lazy?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - 7 Steps to Dealing With a Lazy WifeEditor's note: I know, I know... Larry's words are toxic and vomit-inducing but there's just so much so wrong that I'm quoting more than I usually would with Larry.  Notice too that his words in this piece dovetail with the thought and words of Michael Pearl in Aletha's latest review of 'Created To Need A Help Meet' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Any Other Man’s Attention Wrecks Your Marriage?

by Becky Thompson of BeckyThompson.com – Beware of Quicksand: How One Stranger’s Comment Changed My Marriage ForeverEditor's note: This last bit makes me feel sad for the author. Marriage shouldn't be a battlefield that you're constantly having to toil at to make work. If it's that much work and stress it's not much of a marriage there to revive. Sometimes a kind comment has nothing to do with attempting to turn your heart towards anyone, it's a small thing done by someone that sees you're having some sort of issue that day, or senses you need a little bit of a lift to get through your day. … [Read more...]


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