Quoting Quiverfull: Doug Wilson Thinks Triggers Are a Lie?

by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - Triggered SchmiggeredEditor's note: Keep in mind that this man is the same guy that had no problem marrying a sex offender pedophile or allowing him access to children in the Reformed IFB church Wilson pastors. He thinks that anyone having any problem with things he personally disapproves of is not a valid option. In a time when so many women have been triggered by the words of presidential candidate Donald Trump and a host of other things Wilson thinks that being triggered is not a real thing. … [Read more...]

Falling Down

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalI have to confess that I found myself reacting the other day to some words which had triggered me, and left me hearing repeated echoes of past abuse. I reacted. I struggled. I felt like I'd lost my footing and was flailing around trying to find my balance. "Not again," I thought, attempting to regain my equilibrium.And as I wrestled with that reality, I was dragged down by the weight of failure. After all, I'd experienced so much healing since I lived in that old head-space. What on earth was wrong with me!? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Evangelical Feminists Are Worse Than Controlling Patriarchs?

by Rebekah Merkle (Doug Wilson's daughter) from Femina Girls - My Brush With FeminismEditor's note: While parts of this blog posting make good points, such as swearing off wearing dresses because of some clueless patriarch type, there's also a bit of poisonous name calling, blaming and reducing others to bad caricatures. What do you think? She spends some of her blog posting making fun of people being triggered badly, something that many of us here who've walked out of QF regularly get to experience. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: That Dreaded ‘P’ Word?

by James McDonald from Your Sacred Calling - The "P" WordThis was written back in April 2014 when the Bill Gothard and Doug Phillips sexual scandals were fresh and on everyone's mind. Remember how many Evangelicals backpedaled furiously from the idea of the word "Patriarch"? … [Read more...]

Christians Understand Your Feelings Better Than You

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [content note: fundie-speak about “conviction”] As you all know, a little while ago I attended The Reformation Project’s conference, and it was an experience I appreciated and enjoyed. It wasn’t completely sunshine and roses for me, as Friday morning a couple protestors showed up outside the … [Read more...]

Triggers: So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next?

We're starting a new series called "So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next" with posts about healing, explaining some of the things most people that walk away from spiritual abuse suffer from after leaving as well as information on healing from abuse. We invite anyone that wants to write a post for this series to email Suzanne, NLQ Moderator/Admin at CaluluNLQ(at)gmail(dot)com. … [Read more...]

Did I Divorce the Church?

by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundLaura Parker is one of my favorite bloggers. Fact: her blog is one of the best Christian blogs around. Laura paints and tells stories in such convincing tones.Her post today “Bride and Divoce” grasped my attention. Here’s an excerpt. If the Church is really the Bride, I’ll admit I’ve wanted a divorce for a few years now.  … [Read more...]

Why Ex-Christians Don’t Trust Evangelical Christians

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardEvangelical Christians get upset when ex-Christians like me question, deflect, or reject their “love” and “friendship.” Take for example, a few comments on my recent post, When Evangelical Christians Say God speaks to Them: … [Read more...]

Differentiation and Emotional Cut-Offs

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemMurray Bowen's theories on differentiation of self, and emotional cut-offs provide an excellent lens for viewing the complex relationships that exist between family members who were raised in quiverfull and Christian patriarchal families, where the family roles are artificially skewed by religious influence and the necessity for sibling-parenting due to sheer numbers in the family. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Raising Kids the World Will Hate?

by Adam Griffin of  The Village Church Flower Mound "Raising Kids the World Will Hate"Trigger warning - This is one with the type of abusive views that might trigger some. I have a strong, and certainly not uncommon, desire for my child to be validated by the love … [Read more...]