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Happily Abused

June 10, 2012 By Vyckie Garrison 34 Comments

Can you say, "Stockholm Syndrome'?

Trigger warning: Christian woman’s advice to abused wives reads like a handbook for ascetic self-mortification. How to Use a Woman’s Faith & Trust to Make Her a Willing Accomplice to Her Own Abuse by Vyckie Garrison After stumbling across yet another piece of alarmingly dangerous advice for abused women of faith titled, Surviving Emotional Abuse Six [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 7

June 9, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 7 Comments

by Calulu After the incident with the pregnant daughter of a friend we had another reprieve from Tom and Tina. We’d see them at church but they’d stopped coming to the bible study group. I’d heard that they were both going through this other ministry’s counseling. The other ministry sounded sort of like Scientology in [...]

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Justice is No Lady: Chapter 11: Jack, the One I Lost

June 6, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 16 Comments

defenant-rising1

by Tess Willoughby When Jack was just a baby, Nate had rejected Jack’s personality, and had set out to beat and berate it out of him. When Jack reached middle school age, or perhaps a little bit before, the seeds that his father had planted suddenly sprouted. Jack began to come unraveled. “Something is wrong [...]

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Millipede: Part 6

May 30, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 21 Comments

patriarch

by Millipede I hated the the underlying spirit which had crept into our marriage; it was a peevish, disapproving air that my husband had taken on. In our “heathen” days my husband had a happy go lucky air. This was endearing and made up for the fact that he could be irresponsible. Under Christian patriarchy [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 5

May 29, 2012 By Suzanne Calulu 9 Comments

by Calulu So when we left off Tina was still believing that Tom was coming home. We were having nothing to do with the Smiths and Tom doesn’t come home. What he does do is go to my husband and ask him to talk to me about working a few mornings a week at his [...]

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Vyckie Garrison started No Longer Quivering to tell the story of her “escape” from the Quiverfull movement.

Over time, NLQ has developed into a valuable resource of information regarding the deceptions and dangers of the Quiverfull philosophy and lifestyle. Several more former QF adherents are now contributing their stories to NLQ and our collective voice makes these Quiverfull warnings impossible to dismiss or ignore.

NLQ is a gathering place for women escaping and recovering from spiritual abuse.

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