Quoting Quiverfull: Not Attracted to Your Husband – Fake It?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - I Was Never Attracted to My Husband Does God Want Me to Fake It? (and as per usual we're not going to link directly to Larry lest we inflate his ego)Editor's note: You can tell it's a summer holiday when the usual pontificators are saying nothing, crickets chirping, with the exception of Steven Anderson and even he is merely ranting that you should not worship Mary or believe in Mormonism, which aren't even that 'out there'. This is an old posting of Larry's where a lady wrote to him about how she married for the wrong reasons before she was a believer and now that she is a Christian and her husband is not that she has zero sexual attraction … [Read more...]

Help! I am a Believer, but my Husband is Not

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserEditor's note: Reposting this piece because I believe it's valuable advice for many leaving Quiverfull as well. My mailbox regularly fills up with more emails that I can possibly answer from people wanting to know how to help a brother/husband/daughter/son/cousin who is stuck in a toxic religious environment or from someone trying to hang onto their faith as they are leaving a toxic church. I think much of Bruce's advice here could be useful for many situations.Recently, a new reader sent me several questions she would like me to answer. Her questions and my answers follow. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Do You Keep From Being Influenced By Non-Christians?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Don’t Judge Your Husband Ever?

by Michael and Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Marriage Good WillEditor's note: Why is it that all men in Pearl World are completely incapable of doing simple things like remembering what drawer is the sock drawer and turning on the hot water faucet in the tub? This is just not right and clearly NOT the responsibility of the wife to make sure her weak little man-baby is spoon fed so he doesn't have to take responsibility for his own care. Disputing Michael's observation that a man forgetting where his socks are stored is a 'normal man habit' It's the hallmark of a disrespectful guy who has no business being married! Ugh! Is he a husband or a six foot tall toddler that shaves? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – I Can’t Control Her So Should I Dump Her?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy magazine - Should the Relationship Move Forward?Editor's note: Starting with another Pearl letter. Can you guess how Michael is going to answer this one? After years of quoting Mr. Pearl I can say that he is very predictable. Real letter or another Pearl invention? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Help! I’m Falling In Love With ‘GASP’! An Atheist!?

by Paula Hendricks from Lies Young Women Believe - I'm Falling in Love with an AtheistEditor's note: Oh no! Because it's just not possible that two people could ever possibly respect and love one another if they don't agree on faith? I'm sure that will come as a huge surprise to the many inter faith couples out there that have been successfully married for many years. If your faith is so shallow that it's challenged by anyone not of the same faith then perhaps you need to examine exactly why that is. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Listening To Your Wife

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: This reads like his idea of a wife supporting a husband's vision is part cheerleader/part support staff … [Read more...]

Should A Christian Date An Atheist?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce Gerencser Recently, a girl emailed Paula Hendricks, a writer for the Lies Young Women Believe website, and asked her whether it was OK to date, love, and marry an atheist. Hendricks, a Christian fundamentalist, replied: … [Read more...]

25 Lies My Church Told Me

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaLast month in the week leading up to Christmas I and some of my friends on Twitter started our own hashtag trend, #LiesMyChurchToldMe. For two and a half days people tweeted the bewildering, puzzling, hilarious, and occasionally disturbing things that had been presented to them in church as the “plain teaching of Scripture.” … [Read more...]

Iron Sharpeneth Iron: Part 2

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons Growing up, I received some very specific messages about relationships and friendships. For many Christians, evangelicals in particular, who you choose for your friends is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in life. Aside from the idea that men and women are not allowed to be friends (which is so large a concept it’s almost a completely separate issue), we’re given a set of guidelines for how we initiate and structure all of our friendships. … [Read more...]