Quoting Quiverfull: Men Always Dump Women After Unmarried Sex?

by Unknown at Girl Defined - La La Land: A Conflicting Message for Christian GirlsEditor's note: The emphasis bolding below is mine. I would love to ask these two rather immature young women that run the Girl Defined blog why they think it is that you can sleep with someone you married and they don't immediately lose interest now that they've had sex. Having sex with someone you're not married to does not automatically get you dumped. It's shame-based thinking like that which harms women. I haven't seen this movie so I'm not sure how accurately they are describing the film. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 7 – Pornographers and Queers Want to Molest Your Children?

by Rebekah Pearl Anast and Gabriel Anast from No Greater Joy – Safeguarding Your ChildrenEditor's note: Then this entire contradictory hot mess takes an entirely different turn, away from porn and towards not giving in sexual temptation. Which is way different than avoiding being molested or having your mind sullied by a Victoria's Secret or International Male catalog. Theme of the next three bits is: 'wait for your wedding night to have sex and you'll be blessed' with the usual high amount of slut shaming thrown. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 8

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue text.On a serious note, this post may be triggering for abuse or trauma victims.It's time for BIBLE BABBLE starring Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin!In previous episodes, our gracious hostesses have told us about why women have no agency outside of men, why loving your brothers means your literal biological brothers, why Biblical heroines are following the Botkin plan with a special emphasis on Abigail and Bathsheba, and their personal obsession with the Proverbs 7 woman. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Keep Your ‘Gift’ Wrapped by Not Having Sex?

by Jessie Minassian from Lies Young Women Believe - Christmas Eve Doesn't Cut ItEditor's note: This young woman tells a tale of the time she and her sister unwrapped all of their Christmas presents on Christmas Eve and how it totally ruined Christmas before going into a ham-fisted comparison of having sex before the wedding. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Virginity Only is to Protect Women?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.Com - What is the Lust of the Eyes?Editor's note: This is a pretty interesting piece in it's lengthy entirety because Larry Solomon is taking about one of Steven Anderson's more disgusting sermons point by point. You might want to read the entire thing. As always linked through Do Not Link. He acts like premarital sex is a recent thing too. … [Read more...]

How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]

Dear Unmarried Woman: Are You An Appetizer or Dessert?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserJust when I think I’ve heard all there is to hear from Evangelicals about sex, purity, and the like, someone will write or say something that I have not heard before. In other words, not all the nuts have fallen from the tree.Recently, Bethany Jett, a thirty-something married Evangelical woman who writes on girly topics from a godly perspective, wrote a blog article about two reasons why a woman should save herself for marriage. Here’s what Jett had to say: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is Not Being a Virgin on Your Wedding Day the End of the World?

by John Piper of Desiring God blog and from his broadcast "Ask Pastor John" - Walking the Wedding Aisle Without Your VirginityEditor's note: Is it really such a big deal if you come to your wedding with previous sexual experience? Wonder if the writer of the email had been female would Pastor Piper's answer have been vastly different? … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame, Part 1: Sexpectations

by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog The Lost (and Found) Mind of Kaleesha WilliamsPlease welcome our newest member of the SASBN Kaleesha Williams! She's written a great series on sexuality we'll be posting! Welcome aboard Kaleesh! “Shame, boatloads of shame Day after day, more of the same Blame, please lift it off Please take it off, please make it stop” -The Avett Brothers … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: It Comes Down to “Cool” and “Uncool”?

by Jay Younts of Shepherd Press - Answers to Your QuestionsHelp your teenagers see how it works out for the world.Teenagers raised in Christian homes in this culture face a difficult dilemma. Mom and Dad have one view of how to live; the world around them has another. It is vital that parents recognize the significance of this battle. … [Read more...]